Been almost a week since I last blogged. Quite different from the last few weeks where I blogged a lot… Guess nothing as exciting over the last week…. Just recalled 2 interesting conversations with friends which I could blog about!
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Dating Etiquette:Was talking to a friend who’s a matchmaker. She was commenting that many guys nowadays are not as gentlemanly. They don’t offer to help buy drinks or fetch the girls home if they drive. It seems different from what she used to encounter when she was younger. Guys would send girls home even if it were out of the way, or at least offer.
Another point made quite frequently was that it could be quite frustrating if guy might be interested in a gal, but just doesn’t want to do anything about it. Not even to attempt to get to know the gal better. Well, I could understand that slightly. Maybe the guy's afraid of failure. However, in front of that gal, the guy doesn’t even try to act more gentlemanly to create a good impression. That ain't very helpful ah...
Maybe you might ask, how about the gals?? Gals can take initiative too! Both of us agreed that girls can take initiative, but how far should she go? I guess there's still a limit...
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Say or not to say:Another conversation came from a friend who just married, but husband flies quite often. She commented that it's been hard but she doesn't want to say it out loud to the husband. She's afraid that it'll make her husband feel bad and guilty. That sparked out a discussion among some friends about what she should do. Most agree that one should talk it out tactfully with the partner because he might have misinterpreted her actions/behaviour. And it's also best to let the other party know how you really feel.
I guess it's a real contradiction that happens quite often in real life.. On one hand, one might feel terrible or upset and wants to share the feelings. On the other hand, one might be afraid to hurt the other party, so chooses to shut up and take the pain alone....
Terrible, ain't it? But what woud you choose to do? I dun think I know my answer...
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Happy hols everyone!! Long weekend!!