Emphasis my own:

I tried to find the useful information in the original post, and I think I probably succeeded, but the stuff about how Men And Women Are Just Different (on average, yes yes of course on average, anyway THEY’RE JUST DIFFERENT) gave me hives. Within- versus between-group differences!! Finding the good points felt like trying to pick out chocolate chips that someone poured over a bowl of overcooked brussels sprouts; the chocolate inevitably still tasted like rotten eggs. There’s got to be a way to hold simultaneously the ideas that people of all genders are very similar and that it’s fine and good to want to be a successful specimen of your gender specifically.

via: https://thingofthings.substack.com/p/contra-a-review-of-dating-men-in/

I would like to believe there is something purposeful, resistant, even radical in the heterofatalist mode, but the more I voice it, the more I am inclined to agree with Seresin that it can produce nothing but more of itself. “Heterosexuality is nobody’s personal problem,” he writes. “It doesn’t make sense to extricate your own straight experience from straightness as an institution.” It isn’t that my friend needs to find “some other way to live”; it’s that we all do. But instead of looking for it, we disaffected women “perform” for one another this mutually enabling kind of maintenance, periodically off-gassing some of the shame and frustration of dating men and then chugging along with the status quo.

At first I thought was going to be some pseudo-feminist drivel. but then it turned out to be quite honest and vulnerable. In a sense, it does a good job of summarizing much of what I learned about gender in 2025. Introduces the concept of “heterofatalism.”

Speaking of men: the whole “women are constantly afraid of men” idea is also bad for men. We recognize this on the axis of race. We know it’s painful for a black man to be always viewed as a potential perpetrator of a crime: to have women clutch their purses more closely as he walks by, to see women cross the street to avoid walking close to him, to have people question why he’s in a store if not to steal. Of course, in America, white and Asian men are much less strongly parsed as potential criminals than black and Hispanic men are. But it still happens, and it’s still painful to many men.

I mean, would you like reading about how half of humanity views you walking down Redwood Trail as a violent threat?

If you want to liberate women, don’t major in gender studies. Major in reproductive biology.

Cis people are friggin’ stupid sometimes. Jeez.

In this blog post, I have tried to list off every anti-trans policy done by the Trump administration as of January 2025.

These stories come in the aftermath of allegations that a small but mighty cabal of “LGBT reporters” had somehow seized control of the BBC and “censored” right-wing views.

Absurd.

via: https://www.tumblr.com/ot3/801700640730611712

Intelligence does not make you a feminist.

Ry Hasenaur did their best to remove their body hair, but once they figured out they’re nonbinary, they found their hair was directly connected to their gender euphoria.

Smart woman down on her luck gets a new job at a boys’ club managing an Eldritch “machine.”

Why do men find it so hard to connect with other people, and their own emotions?

A modern review of a misunderstood and kinda strange book. Man, once you’ve consumed one or two good pieces of “masculinity crisis” media, you kinda realize the rest of them don’t have much of anything novel to say.

see: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/29434.Self_Made_Man

In 1992 a yoga instructor with a distance-learning PhD had the courage to ask: “Are women not getting help around the house because they’re using the wrong modal verb?”

I hate sexism. I hate the patriarchy. Fucking men, bro.

People take what they need and change what they don’t; they read, interrogate, contextualize; in this way, history moves forward. The question is not what the books say. The question is always you, the reader; what you take, what you leave, and how you change the world.

Here is the counterbalance to all that writer’s block and self-protective silence, the reason to keep swinging and missing: If you don’t speak, someone will speak for you. Trans people may rip ourselves apart or drive ourselves mad trying to communicate our existence in some well-reasoned and responsible way, but cis people have no such compunctions. Cis people never stop talking about trans people, because they never have to; cis people can just make shit up, and someone will pay to publish it, pretty much every time. That’s what unconditional privilege in patriarchy looks like. It is the freedom to define someone else’s reality on your own terms.

Gotta keep fighting for the right for all marginalized peoples to be heard.

This is a good introduction to hate speech as a legal phenomenon, with emphasis on social media and college campuses. Exposed me to a lot of useful viewpoints.

Found this in Industry City’s bookstore. A nice read about the trans Filipina experience modulo the occasional typo and kinda loose overall structure. I blame the author’s editor.

Ames v. Ohio Department of Youth Services: For a prima facie case of employment discrimination under Title VII, a plaintiff who is a member of a majority group does not need to show background circumstances to support the suspicion that the defendant is an unusual employer who discriminates against the majority.

Worst Supreme Court case of the year. KBJ is a coon confirmed. Thomas has somehow been rendered reasonable. A hearty RIP to procedural affirmative action.

“Pro-DEI” is one of the dog whistles of all time.

see: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=mW_WUmHxtGI

I would like you to think, for a minute, about what it would be like to be that kind of feminist: To give your life to a cause, to put absolutely everything you have into it, and to be told that your work is worthless because you didn’t die.

Which coming-out, which medication, which surgery, which friendship, which sex act, which relationship, which instance of survived bigotry, will ever make me feel like enough?

Half of falling in love is timing. I didn’t meet the right women at the right times. I can count the missed opportunities […] but time only moves one way.

Too many good quotes to leave here.