I Love You, You Hate Me

Having grown up watching and loving Barney, I was completely unaware of the negative reactions. I was also unaware of the group that hated Barney. Great video with interviews and the cast. Recommend it, highly. I think this is something that should be watched by anyone who knows Barney, no matter how they feel about him. Seeing both sides really opened my eyes and deepened my love for Barney at the same time. I only wish that this had been made sooner. It was interesting (and sad) to see what happened to the family that created Barney. Nonetheless, this is a documentary I'll be watching again quite a few times.

I admit, for about 20 years I was a Barney "hater". The toxic discourse around the beloved children's character in the 1990s and 2000s was waiting for me when I grew out of the franchise ... and from there I believed many mistruths that left indelible stains on an otherwise golden legacy of entertaining and educating children worldwide.

I eventually grew out of my misdirected disrespect and I wondered why Barney was such a viscerally hated character. There were no definitive answers ... until this documentary dropped on Peacock.

The documentary does a valiant job entertaining some of the reasons why Barney endured some of the most intense wrath hurled from all corners of society - from toxic masculinity to some of the haters' own self-hatred. Unfortunately, the 60-minute two-episode format doesn't lend itself well to the material. A lot of valuable information is either truncated or left out. Some 45 interviews were conducted for the documentary and key people associated with the franchise had to be cut. With a longer series, some interesting perspectives could have been explored in more intricate detail.

However, there are some gems in the docuseries - lots of never-before-seen behind the scenes footage is a delight to witness for fans and people who are Barney-curious. Some of the cast and crew give a good insight into the production and we get to hear some interesting stories.

All in all, worth a watch, but be prepared to feel some frustration at some questions that are still left unanswered at the conclusion of Part 2.

I grew up watching Barney as a kid and even then I was aware that it was corny, cheesy, unrealistic and not representative of my home life at all. In fact that's why I liked it. It was an escape for me and other kids. Although I did resent Barney for giving my parents the idea to force me and my sister to hug and sing the "I love you" song whenever we fought. Honestly though, looking back on that show as an adult, it was just an innocent cheerful children's show. I overheard older kids making fun of it but outside of that I had no idea all this Barney hatred was happening in the world. It's really sad, though at times also pretty funny. I understand the cynicism, but how was Barney any worse than Beavis and Butt-Head, Ren & Stimpy, or Rocko's Modern Life? I would argue those shows were all equally important because they all served their purpose of escapism while teaching compassion, humility, honesty, empathy and comedy. Children don't learn those things as often as they should from their own lives and unfortunately spend far too much time being in front of a screen in the first place. Barney didn't deserve the hate and it's really heartbreaking to hear how it damaged the lives of the creator and people around her. It's hard to imagine the same thing happening with any other character other than the teletubbies. It's still fun to hate on them, right? Hm.

This documentary goes to show just how far mankind has sunk. Barney was created as a tool for love by a mom who loved her son, and a large portion of the world reacts with hatred. The sad part is that they don't see anything wrong with that. As a kid, I loved watching Barney on TV. I had a plush Barney, but that was it. I only watched the show on PBS, which kept the rest of the house sane by not replaying a tape. I think that some in the documentary took their love of Barney too far. You'll know them when you watch. Also, I think Leach should've walked away much sooner to save her family. As much as modern women like to think we can do it all, we just can't. Very sad!

Over the course of two hour long episodes, I Love You, You Hate Me covers the origins of Barney the Dinosaur by Texas Schoolteacher and mother Sheryl Leach who created the character for her then 2-year-old son Patrick which through word of mouth became a massive sensation on home video before being picked up for a TV series on public television leading to an expanded media franchise. However with the rising popularity of Barney comes an equal and opposite rise in fashionable hatred of the purple dinosaur leading to emotional and mental stress, death threats from random emails directing at stars and staff, and even tragedy within the Leach family.

I Love You, You Hate Me is a two part documentary covering Barney the Dinosaur produced by Queer Eye producers Scout Productions for NBC-Universal's Peacock streaming service. Using a mixture of archival footage and interviews from those directly associated with the show as well as children's TV contemporaries like Blue Clue's Steve Burns or Bill Nye (The Science Guy) as well as former prominent "Barney Haters", the series attempts to understand why the Barney series spurred so much ire and what legacy has been left behind by it. While the show doesn't get to over everything you wish it had, it's a very well-done analysis of the Barney phenomenon from positive, negative, and in-between giving you the fullest possible view of the phenomenon and its legacy.

The show is really well-structured as we begin with Barney's origins from Texas schoolteacher and mother Sheryl Leach's desire to find something to occupy a rambunctious 2-year-old boy with her discovery of a VHS copy of Wee Sing Together and a traveling dinosaur exhibit serving as the impetus for what would become the foundations of the big purple dinosaur. The tracing of Barney's humble direct-to-video origins spread through crowd sourced marketing of moms at daycares and preschools is fascinating in its portrayal of humble origins to marketing and merchandising juggernaut and you get why the series became as ingrained with small children as it did. We also meet up with various crew involved with the show including Barney's voice actor from 1988-2000 Bob West, Barney Body actor David Joyner who provided movements for the character from 1990-2000 and gets to address misconceptions about him such as his practices of Tantra, and musical director Bob Singleton who provided the songs for the series including the theme song "I Love You, You Love Me".

While the show would be perfectly fine if nothing extraordinary if it had focused solely on the surprise runaway success of the big purple dinosaur, the show eventually finds a festering rot beneath the soft, squishy purple exterior of the franchise as it puts the culture of hate and vitriol the series inspired under a microscope and looks at the personal and societal costs of this culture of hate and what its legacy has been. Talking with notable "barney bashers" such as the founder of The I Hate Barney Secret Society, founder of pen and paper RPG The Jihad to Destroy Barney the Dinosaur, or Ted Giannoulas who appears in character as his sports mascot character The San Diego Chicken who once incorporated a Barney lookalike into his act as well as talking with former cast members and crew affected by the show we get a comprehensive look at both sides of the fence of the Barney phenomenon with the haters balanced against the hated. As Barney aired around the advent of the internet the show does make connections between the recreation of hatred directed at Barney the Dinosaur to the here and now of the digital age where internet dogpiling of memeing, populist pandering nitwits on Twitter and Youtube, and the barrage of nonsense from Twitter and QAnon has lineage that can be traced to Barney the Dinosaur complete with very similar conspiracy theories to the Q "movement" often spouting the exact same talking points you hear today. It's really intelligently done in terms of the discussion, and you do see a lot of DNA that can be traced back from the internet today to the internet of then.

My criticisms are fairly minor, but they should be addressed. Both Sheryl Leach and her son Patrick declined to be interviewed for this series and while I understand their resistance due to the subject matter involved, it does leave a hole in the story that the filmmakers do try to fill in but you can only do so much when key figures want nothing to do with this story. I also feel like the series sidesteps some of the legitimate criticism Barney the Dinosaur received from educators and child psychologists in regards to the actual content of the show itself and is instead focused primarily on the "Barney haters" who did it as a form of recreation with Bill Nye and Steve Burns making solid enough points but their segments while good could've benefitted from having a children's personality or child psychologist who didn't like Barney the Dinosaur on the value of its education merits to serve as a counterpoint.

I Love You, You Hate Me is a must watch as it's an excellent look at the internet's ability and usage in building a culture dedicated to hatred of something serving as a funhouse mirror exaggeration that only becomes louder and more distorted through our cultural lens as it's amplified and echoed into a poisonous cacophony. While I would've like to see some key individuals or other professional interviewed to give a more complete picture, the show not only gives us a definitive look at Barney the Dinosaur, but the absurdity and ugliness of the hatred he inspired.