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In the Dream House by Carmen Maria Machado
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In the dream house. In the beginning I thought it’d be good. In the first couple of chapters I was like okay. In almost every chapter the writer wanted us to know how smart she was, how hurt she was. In every situation she was a victim. In her parents house, on a beach. In Iowa. In grad school. In her relationship she never used her voice but she made sure to write a book so that her story would be heard. In the book she starts a lot of chapters with the word IN. In that way she lets us know how a smart person writes a book. In academia that is how they write books. In the end this book felt like someone who lived such a great life that even her memoir felt like a thing of privilege. In all her writing shops, in all her great friendships, in all her happiness, this one relationship was the worst thing in her life. In the end I didn’t care.
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November 27, 2019 – Shelved

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Laura The problem is: these things happen and they are devastating. I have friends who had been trapped in abusive relationships, and it starts at home and continues and it's just devastating what it does to them. Even more devastating to be called a liar or an attention seeker. This is why these stories need to be told. They're real. They're horrible. We need to start listening. We'll never understand another's point of view until we allow ourselves to actually listen


message 2: by Jayne (new) - rated it 1 star

Jayne Smith This was a toxic relationship. Abusive is being dramatic. She never lost her power. Just her dignity because she has a giant ego. Her parents took off her doorknob and my God did that break her. I'd kill to have my own bedroom as a kid. You can bring balloons to her pity party all day but I'll pass. If this read as abusive to you that's probably because you read through a different set of lense than me. Lucky you; )


Laura Yes, I did read through a different lens. Here's the funny part: I have not been in an abusive relationship. Some of my friends have. They didn't have big egos. They were hurt, and scared and every time they tried to tell their story they were dismissed. Let's forget about lenses though. All you need is an ear. Let your preconceptions rest for a little and listen to someone's story of abuse, without judging them from the start. That's the only way you can learn about another's experience.


message 4: by Jayne (new) - rated it 1 star

Jayne Smith In the end I still don’t care!


Laura I know. It's heartbreaking. I've only once been in a situation where I had to bring evidence to support my case - an extreme bullying case at work. By the time other witnesses came forward I spent 3 years in hell. The "you were right, sorry we didn't believe you" at the end was...so little, so late.


message 6: by Ghoul (new) - rated it 2 stars

Ghoul Von Horror I agree.


message 7: by Roxanne (new)

Roxanne Wyndham Honestly I’m listening to the audio book and I can’t get through it. It’s just not clicking for me.


message 8: by Jayne (new) - rated it 1 star

Jayne Smith The writer really wants you to know she’s smart. Listening to it on audio to me would feel like listening to a dull friend tell me about their problems like theirs are the worst problems that ever existed. Ever.


message 9: by Ashwin (new) - rated it 1 star

Ashwin Purushottam Couldn’t agree more with this review. What a monumental waste of time and $15.


message 10: by Gie (new) - rated it 1 star

Gie I wish I had read your review before buying the book :(


message 11: by Hana (new) - rated it 3 stars

Hana foudah Yeah I kinda really lost empathy because like? She never isolated you from your friends, in fact you purposely ignored them? The relationship lasted for like a year and half of it was long distance? I don’t know it’s not a ‘I WOULD never be that stupid’ it’s more like the relationship was bad and she was a shit girlfriend sure, but you were the one who chose (by your own words) to stay in it? And the whole ‘displacement’ thing, you went there willingly every other week? I don’t know I’m usually a bleeding heart for any type of victim but I just couldn’t with this book


message 12: by Kate (new)

Kate She is smart. There’s a truckload of blatant jealousy about the Iowa MFA, and the success of the author, through these comments..


message 13: by Kate (new)

Kate Us? Were you reading live with a group? Who is us?


message 14: by Naomi (new) - rated it 1 star

Naomi I don’t understand where the abuse was in this weird pop culture think piece of a book.


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