Justin Tate's Reviews > The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About
The Let Them Theory: A Life-Changing Tool That Millions of People Can't Stop Talking About
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Plenty of flaws, but everyone who reads it will likely gain significant wisdom. For that, you gotta give it five stars.
The core bit of advice involves the mantra "let them" whenever you encounter a situation you want to control but can't. Let cashiers be slow at the check-out counter. Let your family have crazy political beliefs. Rather than dwell and fester, move on. Queen Elsa sang about this back in 2013 and if you want to save yourself $20 bucks, maybe give that song a listen and take it to heart.
The book adds a major second layer of self-help guidance, however. After you "let them" do whatever annoying thing it is that they do, Mel encourages you to think "let me."
The "let me" part of the "let them" theory is where things get interesting. It's what differentiates going completely numb to the world to being an empowered player in life.
Tired of people with stupid political beliefs? Let them have them. But then Let Me decide what to do. This could mean ignore them, disassociate from them, join a protest movement, or even run for office. When you free yourself of the need to control other people, you empower yourself to control your own destiny.
We'll never stop encountering situations we don't like. Let Them happen. Life isn't fair. But "Let Me" decide how to adapt to the situation.
The book steers itself into unexpected and sometimes seemingly less relevant side topics, including a lengthy discussion on marriage and relationships, but generally it all comes back to this premise. The theory is easy to understand, easy to apply to life, and will almost certainly result in a net positive if utilized.
Where the book gets tedious is in its habit to beat a dead horse. Mel repeats herself six different ways when getting a point across. Is it annoying? Yes. But Let Her do her thing. And Let Me decide if I'm going to keep reading or skip ahead a few pages.
For me, the repetition wasn't so bad that I didn't keep chugging along. This was helped, I think, by her tour de force audiobook performance. I don't listen to Mel's podcast, but she has a unique gift for sounding genuine and coming across as your personal best friend, even if her audience is in the millions.
Flaws aside, this felt like a book of cultural significance that can and should make waves. Highly recommended, especially on audio.
The core bit of advice involves the mantra "let them" whenever you encounter a situation you want to control but can't. Let cashiers be slow at the check-out counter. Let your family have crazy political beliefs. Rather than dwell and fester, move on. Queen Elsa sang about this back in 2013 and if you want to save yourself $20 bucks, maybe give that song a listen and take it to heart.
The book adds a major second layer of self-help guidance, however. After you "let them" do whatever annoying thing it is that they do, Mel encourages you to think "let me."
The "let me" part of the "let them" theory is where things get interesting. It's what differentiates going completely numb to the world to being an empowered player in life.
Tired of people with stupid political beliefs? Let them have them. But then Let Me decide what to do. This could mean ignore them, disassociate from them, join a protest movement, or even run for office. When you free yourself of the need to control other people, you empower yourself to control your own destiny.
We'll never stop encountering situations we don't like. Let Them happen. Life isn't fair. But "Let Me" decide how to adapt to the situation.
The book steers itself into unexpected and sometimes seemingly less relevant side topics, including a lengthy discussion on marriage and relationships, but generally it all comes back to this premise. The theory is easy to understand, easy to apply to life, and will almost certainly result in a net positive if utilized.
Where the book gets tedious is in its habit to beat a dead horse. Mel repeats herself six different ways when getting a point across. Is it annoying? Yes. But Let Her do her thing. And Let Me decide if I'm going to keep reading or skip ahead a few pages.
For me, the repetition wasn't so bad that I didn't keep chugging along. This was helped, I think, by her tour de force audiobook performance. I don't listen to Mel's podcast, but she has a unique gift for sounding genuine and coming across as your personal best friend, even if her audience is in the millions.
Flaws aside, this felt like a book of cultural significance that can and should make waves. Highly recommended, especially on audio.
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If there's any lesson we need to learn from the last decade it's this is exactly what we cannot do.