Gaslighting Quotes

“I am a doctor, dear, and I know. You are gaining flesh and color, your appetite is better. I feel really much easier about you."
"I don't weigh a bit more," said I, "nor as much; and my appetite may be better in the evening, when you are here, but it is worse in the morning when you are away."
"Bless her little heart!" said he with a big hug; "she shall be as sick as she pleases!”
― Charlotte Perkins Gilman, The Yellow Wall-Paper

“conditioned me to split my voice in two
one to keep to myself
the other to appease you”
― Laura Gentile, coming here to die: polyphonic grief poetry

“Arrogance is a curse bestowed upon the emotionally blind.”
― Ayura Ayira, Nuclear Harlot

“Many of you are walking mirrors. So you will forever be projected on. That is why you need to learn how to not take it personally or feed into people’s misconceptions of you. Let it roll off of your back and keep moving forward. They have their own issues and lessons to deal with.”
― Robin S. Baker

“You owe it to yourself to stand up and advocate for yourself. To not agree to what is harmful to you. To protect yourself from further bullying, manipulation, gaslighting, and abuse.”
― Dana Arcuri CTRC, Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma

“I felt violated, yet I had no voice, no ability to express that. I was conditioned to believe any boundary I wanted was a betrayal of her, so I stayed silent. Cooperative.”
― Jennette McCurdy

“Gaslighting: where the narcissist’s lies cast shadows on your reality.”
― Tracy Malone

“Gaslighting: Where the truth becomes a fog and your reality is rewritten by the narcissist’s twisted script.”
― Tracy Malone

“In 2018, I publicly disclosed that I had experienced psychological abuse by my sisters. Prior to uploading my first YouTube video on this sensitive topic, I had no idea if anyone else would relate. Shortly after my video went live, I received hundreds of comments by strangers who shared similar stories of being bullied, manipulated, gaslit, and abused by their own siblings. Five years later, my videos now have over 163,234K views and thousands of comments.”
― Dana Arcuri CTRC, Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma

“The scapegoat is the family punching bag. On a daily basis, you are singled out for all of the collective ridicule, made into the butt of every joke, and excluded from family events, holidays, and important legal matters. It doesn't take long for outsiders or other relatives to take note of your role and to be drawn into the destructive dynamics. Family scapegoats are belittled, humiliated, battered, rejected, betrayed, and treated poorly. It's a clear case of psychological abuse, manipulation, and harassment.”
― Dana Arcuri CTRC, Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma

“you violated the body in such a way
that only the soul would know”
― Laura Gentile, coming here to die: polyphonic grief poetry

“When we got married, I poured all my energy into turning myself into the wife he wanted. I never wore my hair up, because he'd commented that my ears were big. I let him answer questions when we had company, because he'd said I tended to ramble. I felt like a human-shaped shell, hollowing myself out for my husband so he could fill me with his own likes and desires.

I make a mental note to myself—find some real friends.”
― Heather Day Gilbert, Queen of Hearts

“He had discovered a new thing, of hurting people he liked. It gave him and extraordinary sensation to see Elsa cry after she had been smiling, and to make that he had caused her tears. He was aware of power, strange and exciting. In a way it was like the desire to make love. The two longings were very close together. To say something butter and cruel, to watch the smile fade from Elsa's lips and the shadows come into her eyes, to taunt her until she put her hands over her face, it made his heart beat and his blood race the same as when he held her and loved her. To change swiftly too was good. To follow the stinging blow with a caress, to kiss the tears he had summoned, until Elsa did not know where she was, and would peer into his eyes to learn the truth. [...] Not that her cared how she felt, whether she was humble or proud, but he liked to see her crawl. It was a definire pleasure; and the fact that he was fond of her added to his pleasure.”
― Daphne du Maurier

“People dull their wits with gibberish,
and cannot use their ears and eyes.

Many fail to grasp what they have seen,
and cannot judge what they have learned,
although they tell themselves they know.”
― Heraclitus, Fragments

“People who do you wrong will almost always blame you for it.”
― Maranda Pleasant, Origin: Music, Art, Yoga & Consciousness

“Everyone knows it’s not the hardest thing in the world to paint a woman as unstable. There are road maps. Centuries of examples of best practice by gentlemen such as myself who are willing to indulge their heinous tendencies”
― Gilly Macmillan (author)

“Gaslighting: where the truth becomes a fog, and self-doubt becomes the norm.”
― Tracy Malone

“Sibling abuse is underreported. It’s common for it to go under the radar. Typically, in early childhood, sibling rivalry can start out with squabbles, disagreements, name-calling, and competition between brothers and sisters. The rivalry is reciprocal. The motive can be for parental attention. Or a dozen other reasons.”
― Dana Arcuri CTRC, Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma

“Sibling triangulation is a heartless form of manipulation in which one person seeks to control a three-person interpersonal situation for their selfish needs. It can involve the use of threats of exclusion or strategies tom divide and conquer. Sibling triangulation may involve narcissistic abuse. The narcissist could be your father, mother, sibling, partner, spouse, relative, friend, co-worker, boss, or someone else.”
― Dana Arcuri CTRC, Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma

“Sibling abuse, triangulation, and alienation will influence your ability to trust others. The core problem isn't your lack of trust. Rather, you've experienced unhealthy dynamics with dishonest folks. You may have spent years or decades dealing with backstabbing siblings, friendships, or family members who lied to you, hurt you, and deceived you.”
― Dana Arcuri CTRC, Toxic Siblings: A Survival Guide to Rise Above Sibling Abuse & Heal Trauma

“I was born
because one body had survived another”
― Laura Gentile, coming here to die: polyphonic grief poetry

“Co pani ma właściwie do tego Freuda" - pyta terapeutka, a ja nie wiem od czego zacząć. (...) jest archetypem najbardziej wkurwiającego kolesia w pokoju, Znacie go. To ten, który w podstawówce na pytanie o jedno życzenie odpowiadal "nieskończona liczba życzeń", w liceum odkrył returykę i postawił sobie za cel nigdy nie przegrać żadnej dyskusji - niezależnie od tego czy ma rację. (...) Freud był duchowym ojcem typów, którzy mowią, że kobiety są zbyt emocjonalne, tylko po to, żeby patrzeć, jak gotujesz się ze złości. (...) Cały jego system zbudowany jest tak, by nie można było udowodnić mu, że się myli. Nie zgadzasz się? Mechanizm obronny. Wkurza cię terapeuta? Tak naprawdę jesteś zły na ojca. Nie pamiętasz żadnej z sugerowanych ci rzeczy? Cóż, najwidoczniej je wyparłeś. Jednego Freudowi nie można odebrać: był mistrzem nazywania rzeczy.”
― Emilia Dłużewska

“No one preaches a forgiveness sermon better than an AME Zion preacher who is as wrong as mustard is on a banana. Throw the whole connection away.”
― Niedria D. Kenny

“What if the nose really did get longer with each lie told? I wonder if people would stop telling lies or if they would lie about why their nose is 12' long.”
― Niedria D. Kenny

“What follows is my best effort to shed as much light as possible on events that have not simply been forgotten or left in the dark, but relegated to the attic, or the ash can, or the metaphorical darkness of fear and shame, and to reignite Plath's fire in the parlor where her fans squint to read by flickering gaslight; above them, the man searches the attic for the jewels he hid too well.What follows is my best effort to shed as much light as possible on events that have not simply been forgotten or left in the dark, but relegated to the attic, or the ash can, or the metaphorical darkness of fear and shame, and to reignite Plath's fire in the parlor where her fans squint to read by flickering gaslight; above them, the man searches the attic for the jewels he hid too well.”
― Emily Van Duyne, Loving Sylvia Plath: A Reclamation

“Your tongue-be-damned smirks
Sinister hush-hush
Your psycho-circus alluring quirks
Drama pit rush-rush”
― Casey Renee Kiser, Not Your Kind: The Gaslit Files

“Do you dare dismiss the poetess;
Fuck up her mind with your toxic kiss?
Do you dare hide the razors and knives
to bore her with your shallow dives?
Do you dare dream of a grand vacation
fucking your side chick at the Days Inn?
Do you dare ask to have your glass refilled
after ordering the hit for her spirit killed?
Do you dare daydream of a life so fair
while making hers a waking nightmare?
Do you dare not answer, darling?
Do you not hear Karma calling...”
― Casey Renee Kiser, Not Your Kind: The Gaslit Files

“When people take advantage of our generosity, even when we know they’re wrong, their words still sink in a bit. Perhaps it strengthens the narrative from when we were young, that something was wrong with us—thinking it was our fault when clearly it wasn’t, and perhaps even that we’re responsible for the misbehavior of others.


If you were blamed for your own abuse as a kid, or no one ever believed you, these issues can resurface in your adult relationships, and your businesses are not immune.”
― Maranda Pleasant, Origin: Music, Art, Yoga & Consciousness

“My nightmare-man comes SO LOUD;
he comes often, bores me and collects
my wrist cuts-
oh he cuts, he cuts, HE CUTS
Promises me I’m in the black book, he checks,
ha! Yes! Top ten mind-fuckable sluts! Cold cuts;
licks his knives and hands me his double tongue
I say, ‘Oh baby, JUST BREATHE’
as I rip out his dreamy lungs. Can’t gaslight
a FiRestARTeR, dragons up my sleeve; alchemy
Now HE can’t wAke up ‘cause my flames
will never leave

until he’s ready to be a dReAm.


(N i gh tMARE Crush outtakes)”
― Casey Renee Kiser, NightMARE Crush

“Anyone who stood up to the lies spreading over pro-Duterte and pro-Marcos disinformation networks was gaslit, or told they were crazy. What the bad guys were doing, they ascribed to the good guys.”
― Maria Ressa, How to Stand Up to a Dictator