see: https://zenodo.org/records/18625249

Not only can misogynistic men still get laid, but the declaration that misogynists and incels are one in the same (or that a man who hates women must only feel that way because he can’t get any ass) reinforces the, dare I say, sexist belief that a man’s ability to obtain sexual partners is indicative of his moral value. It also directly confirms the idea that women are “vending machines who dispense sex for good behavior,” which this exact cohort of feminists have repeatedly countered.

Kinkykikker explores the conversation every long-term couple dreads in this story on the realities of when passions fades while the love endures.

Ever wonder what goes on behind the booth at a comic convention? How much work actually goes in to making sexy books? Look no further, because I’m giving you a peek behind the curtain on how selling sexy comics in person looks!

Drawing a one-to-one correspondence between media consumption and behavior is always dicey—and never more so than when a high percentage of the audience is consuming a very different text than the one that is there. And it’s important to take a step back and check for alternate interpretations of the media we’re criticizing. All too often, feminist critiques of heterosexual porn wind up saying more about our views of women and sex than they do about the porn itself.

In conclusion: porn research is very bad and we don’t know anything. So it goes.

via: https://thingofthings.substack.com/p/polysemy-and-porn

If a straight woman has made a somewhat blatant indication of interest—she’s put her head on your shoulder, or given you her contact information, or asked you to a movie—you might freak the fuck out, because a woman being interested in you is an impossibility, a violation of the previous laws of social interaction and perhaps reality.

What do the female fantasies of bad boys, danger, violence, and taboo all have in common? Permission to be horny.

Not really sure where this video came from, I came downstairs in the morning and it was already fully uploaded. Dan doesn’t know anything about it either. Doesn’t seem like it’ll get me in trouble though so F it, we’ll let it rock. Weirdly enough it sounds like he’s listening to Shoegazer Watched The Stars from NMH2 for most of the video. With a brief appearance by 1811 from Lost Judgement.

Absolutely hilarious.

Wynn’s video makes use of the idea that the psychological “point” of kink can be to enable oneself to enjoy sexuality. This is how a lot of folks understand fantasies of submission and dominance — if you deal with a lot of shame or other baggage around your desires or the act of sex, having these things forced on you is pretty convenient! And if that’s the case, for most of us, playing the dominant would be directly counterproductive, giving us more reasons to worry! She draws an analogy to the way in which Anastasia of Fifty Shades is repeatedly given extravagant gifts against her will, enabling a fantasy of wealth without violating deeply-held boundaries around humility and propriety.

Fire post.

via: https://www.cartoonshateher.com/p/sex-with-your-husband-isnt-labor

When it’s “punching up” to pretend the other gender’s loneliness crisis is self-imposed

Maybe the problem truly is with capitalism in that the nature of consensual sex relies on a supply-demand dynamic.

Everything shared is fair, but maybe instead it would be better for this kind of guy to not get married and find an aligned sex partner. I dunno. Like, it kinda feels like author’s saying men should intentionally develop an attraction to their partners, and that seems a little LessWrong-y to me. Also feel a connection to Doyle, “Wife Guy.”

One commenter, @jessumsica, puts it best:

There are men who like women and men who like to fuck women. You’ve got to find the middle of the Venn diagram.

via: https://thingofthings.substack.com/p/three-cheers-for-the-tomboy-chaser

Waifus are a very well-known part of anime culture. So many have strong opinions on them, and yet very few know the full story.

One of most people’s biggest complaints about anime is the abundance of fanservice. But what is it? And is it always bad? Let’s take a deep dive into anime fanservice and find out.

This is a good video, and I especially appreciate its sex-positivity, but I do wish the author applied more of a feminist lens. People reacting poorly to fanservice as a concept goes far beyond it being utilized poorly and Puritanism, me thinks.

A viral tweet made me curious about looking into the history of fanmade adult content, and I ended up diving into a rabbit hole that goes further than you could ever expect

via: https://youtu.be/yUVWXyNkR2I

I would like to believe there is something purposeful, resistant, even radical in the heterofatalist mode, but the more I voice it, the more I am inclined to agree with Seresin that it can produce nothing but more of itself. “Heterosexuality is nobody’s personal problem,” he writes. “It doesn’t make sense to extricate your own straight experience from straightness as an institution.” It isn’t that my friend needs to find “some other way to live”; it’s that we all do. But instead of looking for it, we disaffected women “perform” for one another this mutually enabling kind of maintenance, periodically off-gassing some of the shame and frustration of dating men and then chugging along with the status quo.

At first I thought was going to be some pseudo-feminist drivel. but then it turned out to be quite honest and vulnerable. In a sense, it does a good job of summarizing much of what I learned about gender in 2025. Introduces the concept of “heterofatalism.”

You have to balance the risk of accidentally sexually harassing someone against the benefits of asking people out—to you and to the people that you’re asking out. Most of the time, the benefits are larger.

Equal parts hilarious and quite serious. Applicable even for me, an aroallo. Will save this for grad school.

As per usual, Dougherty takes a big problem, finds the right abstractions, ruthlessly argues their way to the truth, and settles their realizations succinctly in the original context. One of the best philosophers of our time, on God.

Menopause kicked my aaaaaaasssssss-