You seem to be missing the point. I don’t know if you have children, and I’m not trying to fall back on the cliché that you “just wouldn’t understand,” but the broader discussion is irrelevant.
The situation is straightforward: he had no right to take that level of risk. There was a real possibility he could have died and left his children behind. That risk is excessive, regardless of the mission’s importance or exclusivity.
Maybe I will use the cliché after all, because as a parent, what my children might have wanted wouldn’t factor into the decision. I wouldn’t have gone.
They did? They can’t? I haven’t noticed. 🤷