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Cake day: July 16th, 2023

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  • There was an exposé about the staggering number of sexual assaults last year by the new york times. Some people were drawn to this job for the wrong reasons. You read some of these women’s stories and its horrifying.

    I’m dowdy and older and even I have had some questionable interactions. Once an uberdriver invited himself to to bar I was meeting my friends at. Half an hour after dropping me off, he walks in and gets a drink and just stares. I don’t drink because of medication but this was definitely a niche place that you don’t grab a drink at spur of the moment. It was so uncomfortable and we left pretty quickly. Idk what his intentions were but I didn’t want to find out. It was so unsettling.

    Sometimes getting a ride is necessary. And when that happens, maybe it’s better that there are options. I’m sure Uber didn’t make this decision out of the goodness of their hearts but because of the lawsuits and the number of women who were dropping off of their platform.

    A lot of the responses here seem to be taking it personally as if they are being called assaulters themselves. Some people are even making jokes like good riddance. It’s rude af and belittling. Not everything is black and white and not everything can be understood from a perspective of privilege. It might not feel like it, but women navigate the world looking over their shoulder and not having that feeling in of itself is a privilege

    Highlights of the article: https://youtube.com/shorts/5nwnr_aln9o













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    6 months ago

    Yea. But convention space is not a strip club. The most revealing thing would be beach attire. Their argument is sexist and creepy.

    If you’re going into a convention space to sexualize women the way you would at a strip club you’re there for the wrong reason.

    The comparison shouldn’t even be drawn and its crazy and creepy. Children can go to a con. People with his mindset shouldn’t.



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    I have a lot of cosplayer friends and showing less skin doesn’t really change things when creeps are involved. In this thread there are people comparing nerd conventions to strip clubs. Advocating for the isolation of women entirely.

    It’s a scary thing.

    Half of the cosplayers are shows are men. A good chunk are under 18. Every show has dress code so anyone exposing too much wouldn’t make it through the door. There are rules in place for everyone’s comfort and just because you find someone attractive doesn’t justify this behavior.

    No one owes you a picture. If you ask they’ll probably say yes, but they bought their ticket too and want to enjoy the show. Taking sneaky pics is frowned on because people have stalkers, strict jobs and don’t want to end up on someone’s spank bank (which was an actual problem in the early 2000s).

    Costuming is an art and a skill. Capturing a character in its essence and being an award winning cosplayer is coveted. There are competitions all over the US and there is even one near me where the prize is 10k for the top competitor.

    Dont let the creeps persuade you. The girl is showing a little leg and tummy and smiling having a good time. Thats someone’s little sister and she probably loves that character and worked for months on that costume just to go to one of the biggest conventions in the world.

    It definitely got pulled from social media and now is being misused in a debate that at its core was created by someone who thinks its okay to assault women.

    Don’t side with the creeps. Little concessions by the average good person add up as validation to someone who has bad intentions.


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    A convention space, while a public space, has convention rules. These rules came out of necessity over the past 25 years of nycc and were not always there.

    If you pan over a crowd, no one is going to ban you. These rules are there for specific people who make the space feel unsafe and it feels like a lot of them showed up in this thread angry.

    If the space doesn’t make it feel safe for cosplayers, cosplayers won’t show up.