“…our society is only pro-disability until you scratch the surface…[making] it inevitable that many people with disability become cornered and tired and silenced. From then on, it’s a matter of applying common sense; people who are cornered and tired and silenced are often riddled with self doubt or self hatred. It takes time and a conscious effort of will to overcome those things…Without pride in ourselves we cannot create pride in those around us…Like becoming that person with multiple labels, goals and ambitions, becoming a better society for people with disability is not a one-shot process. It’s going to take a long time and a lot of thought. The first step is to recognise all our contradictions, traumas and mistakes. The second step is to stop hating them.”
- A Journey Towards Pride, Leah Hobson, Ramp Up, 11 June 2014
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kinda hitting me today how much i’ve been systemically failed and neglected my whole life and it’s really coming to a head right now
agh, im so burnt out
Yep. I came to the same conclusion a while ago. My entire life is down the toilet because my caregivers as a child and medical staff just didn’t care.
Sick of getting called lazy when I’m in a 24/7 battle w depression, adhd, and chronic fatigue lol. While actively cleaning my bedding. Just vacuumed, mopped, cleaned the kitchen, and did the dishes last night, but apparently this person still thinks I’m “lazy”.
Housework has been considered “not work” for a long time from a cultural perspective. Nevermind that it was always work, but it is still regarded as non-work by many, even if only subconsciously. On the other hand, people are projecting all the time, so whoever called you lazy might just feel lazy and decided to take it out on you. However, you are very definitely not lazy, you were very busy and successful today, and I for one am proud of you for what you managed to accomplish despite depression, adhd, and chronic fatigue
Thanks :’)❤️
God I feel this. I can’t stop beating myself up about it either, so it turns into a never ending cycle that I’m trapped in.
got denied disability aid
gotta appeal but im gonna reach out to the people who have been helping me first so i dont fuck it up. just really anxious. white knuckling through life has made it harder for me to be considered disabled
They can be super weird and arbitrary about that stuff. I have a mildly autstic friend who got disability benefits on the first try and there was a news story a while back about a person so severely disabled they couldn’t go to the toilet by himself who was asked to demonstrate that they couldn’t wipe their ass in front of the social worker.
damn, that shit must have been so dehumanizing :/
Yea I imagine it’s just a matter of time for me. The outreach person said it’s probably on the grounds of not having enough diagnosis, because I’m stuck in waiting hell for a bunch of things, ough. Maybe next time.
I’m burnt out and on my hating people era
based and same
Solidarity
I’m finding myself more turned off by the Trueanon sub. It seems like it’s needlessly ableist and body-shaming all the time to show that they aren’t like other “sensitive” leftists.
Was just scrolling through a thread on ICE agents and without fail there were r-slurs, making fun of people for their height/weight, attractiveness. It all just seems like it’s trying too hard.
I keep being surprised by how relatively good hexbear is on this, seeing as we are also a community derived from fans of white twitter ‘leftists’ who became famous by being extremely edgy and cynical and regularly making fun of disabled people, racial minorities and queer people.
Brace is better on his own podcast but whenever he guests other podcasts he can be very edgy still. So it doesn’t surprise me that the TrueAnon community is like that.
The post on ableist language and its effects is now finally online (thank you for your patience, it took me way too long to post!). If you want to check it out, here’s the link
Aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa
One of my other instructors emailed me about my mental illness wanting to work out accommodations for next semester. Which is super duper nice of them, but it also means that my mental illness is now public knowledge.
This is the opposite of what I wanted. The professor told other people too, or the people in class told people who then told the instructors who now know. Aaaaaaaaaaaaa. I’m gonna log off for a couple days and dig myself down a hole.
That feels like a major invasion of privacy, and no amount of good intentions makes that okay. I’m so sorry that happened the way it did, you deserve better than that. It should be your choice to make those decisions about sharing and asking for accommodations rather than basically having it done for you without your consent.
The worst part of it is that I told one professor who blurted it out in class, and now everyone, including unrelated teaching staff, seem to know.
That’s such a fucked up thing to do. I’m sorry your professor is so insensitive. Do you have any plans on how to deal with it going forward?
My original plan was to just shut up and let it blow over, but since it’s spread i’m gonna have to lodge a complaint. If not for myself, the cat is out on the bag there, then for the next student with an ailment they’d like to reveal on their own terms. I’m gonna talk to my disability support in a week and a half and there talk about getting her support for an official complaint, like she offered when the professor blurted it out in class. I’m also going to email the lecturer who asked me about potential accomodations for next semester asking them where they found out about my illness.
I really hate having to so this. I really didnt want to make this a big deal.
This is a good plan, but I understand you not wanting to do all of this. It shouldn’t have to be a big deal, but if people can’t keep things in confidence, they need to be held accountable in some sense. I wish you the best of luck with the complaint. We’re here if you want to vent about it
Hai everyone, I’m new here!
I must say, I really hate having a mental illness. It’s not like how it’s portrayed on the movies. It’s horrible but boring much of the time if that makes any sense.
Being disabled doesn’t tend towards the dramatic. Even the “flashier” mental illnesses is mostly just feeling bad and not fitting in.
welcome!
yea it’s rough. and i personally constantly get denial bc it’s not as constantly bad as it is often portrayed
Was looking at a city subreddit that had a post about distributing whistles for ICE and one highly upvoted comment was: “this guy got 12 Covid booster shots and 3 flu shots”
I’ll never get over how Americans politicized that and used getting booster shots as a sign of weakness
Ah yes, the ole punching down on someone for… * checks notes * …being vaccinated. Absolute shit show of a country.
I’m being referred for further foot surgeries. I need to buy items the NHS doesn’t provide like bandages and shower boots, so my disabled comrades please bump and share my mutual aid post. I won’t be able to have the surgeries if I can’t get the items.
They recommended another three shockwave sessions on my achilles too but I think getting the money for that is a bit unrealistic at the moment.
Already bumped your mutual aid post
Thank you!
Sorry for not being around as much
I have a confession: I was able to get a part-time contracted customer service role thing for work over the holidays. It ends in two weeks. It’s been just over two months and even though it’s been about 5 hours each day, it’s left me completely dysregulated, exhausted, and burnt out. I’ve been dissociating a lot. I won’t get too much into it, but it has been weighing on me not being able to be present here and elsewhere online.
Mostly I just want to remind everyone that you are loved, you matter, and you are beautiful.
What’s important is your health, you shouldnt worry about this place. If you can’t be here you can’t. If anything this place should be a respite and a place to shitpost and take your mind off stuff.
Thank you, love, it’s hard to admit I’m not doing well sometimes.
We can all have a hard time doing that sometimes. Still. Make time for yourself if you can.
Appreciate you, I will do my best
Absolutely covered in bruises lately for no obvious reason. They don’t even really hurt, they’re just there
Are you eating well? Diabetic? Taking aspirin or any nsaid?
Not really, not that I know of, and no
I’m not eating terribly though. Kinda decent by my standards
A lot of people don’t get the needed iron and that can cause you to get seemingly random bruising (Also vitamin C could be the culprit). It could also be muscle strain if you’ve recently begun exercising or strained yourself recently.
Might be iron actually. Hmm. I’ll double check some blood test results.
It’s all over so I dont think its muscle related. Mostly arms and legs but I had a couple on my hip too
Just watched a show that had a disabled character talk about how his wheelchair was a symbol of freedom for him, because it allowed him mobility. Where others saw a prison he saw an escape.
Pretty cool to see that the writers actually listened to a disabled person at some point.Which show?
All Her Fault. It happens in like the last or second last episode, you should look up content warnings if you’re gonna see it though. It deals with some heavy stuff.
I will definitely look it up, might have to check it out when I’m in a better head space
I’ve got food poisoning on top of everything else. 🤮 Diarhoea and I feel so sick, but the vomit won’t come. I wish I could just barf it all out and get it over with. I got it from eating a packet of cod from sainsburys. Tried to leave the product a negative review online and of course they removed it.
And i thought my physio appointment was yesterday but apparently it’s actually 12th Feb. So I have to wait another month for help with my worsening mobility and increasing pain. Not that the physios help anyway. Physiotherapy is a mickey mouse subject, just nonsense and pretence.
Hope you’re feeling better today, comrade
Thank you. The diarhoea seems to have mostly stopped but I still feel really sick.
I Loooove being tired (/s). I slept 8 hours and I feel absolutely destroyed. I did nothing yesterday that should make me feel like this.
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Very cat like behavior
Maybe if I wasn’t constantly tired and (therefore) slightly grumpy all the time I would look less like a cat.
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Maybe. I think the whiskers are still a dead giveaway though.
I wonder if cats sleep in sunbeams to avoid seasonal depression. You know, get the vitamin D you don’t get as much of in winter.