As a long time reader of the subreddits where this sort of advice is posted, sure, some commenters fall back on this advice, which requires no thought and is very easy to consider when you’re not at all involved, however the top responses are almost always well thought out perspectives on the relationship.
If this question is about your parents and how they treat you though, which I’m considering based on your post history, I’m afraid you’re going to find there’s nothing you can do to change them, and that putting distance between them and yourself is your only pathway to minimizing that negativity in your life.
My hunch is they were using that as an excuse when the reality was they were terrified of doing couple’s therapy because it’s really hard