Irate, Tireless Minority

It is the duty of parents - as well as their self evident and unalienable right - to direct the upbringing and education of their children. The states, individually, have decided to provide a public education system in order to facilitate the education of their citizens. It is simply that - one possible way to educate the children of that state. It was not intended to be compulsory, but only to provide an option to those families who could not afford a private school or tutor or who felt unable to educate their own children and because the government recognized the value of having educated citizens.

There is an unspoken but logical compact between the state and the parents regarding that option.  That unspoken compact is that the state, in providing a public education, will do so in a manner that does not harm the students. In the ordinary course of events, that should be self evident. No parent in their right minds would allow someone to deliberately harm their children - right? The state has broken the unspoken compact between itself and parents.

We have come to a time when the state cares more for political correctness and appearances than it does about your child. The SCOTUS ruling in TLO vs New Jersy in 1985 was only an incremental step in conditioning parents to accept bad behavior on the part of the government in their state provided schools. That ruling allowed teachers and school officials to interrogate children about crimes  - for which they may be prosecuted - without notifying parents. There are other posts on this site and on others regarding the ins and outs of that outrage.

And now, the state is saying that it must be allowed to teach your children to disregard behaviors that indicate mental instability in order to cater to the few individuals that suffer from gender dysphoria disorder. (Current stats, which are quite likely to change with such encouragement stand at about .02 % of the population.)

 If a young girl goes into a ladies room and sees a man in there, she is likely to become apprehensive and go to find a trusted adult. That is a healthy reaction to aberrant behavior. That is a reaction that keeps people safe from those whose mental illness may cause them to act violently. Forcing children to ignore or suppress that natural and healthy reaction to aberrant behavior is child abuse and it creates a child who will be unlikely to do what is most natural to protect themselves - even into adulthood - from those who exhibit aberrant behaviors in other circumstances.

Disregarding the extreme discomfort and harmful conditioning that sharing bathrooms and changing rooms with opposite sex schoolmates will cause for those not affected with gender dysphoria disorder is directly harming the majority of the children with whom the public school system has been entrusted.

In addition, what does it do to the youngest children when a teacher - someone who they have been told to trust - lies to them about whether someone is a boy or a girl? If they cannot be trusted to tell such a basic truth, then how can a child logically trust them about anything else? Will teachers be allowed to say this student is biologically a girl but they have a mental disorder called gender dysphoria that makes them think they are a boy, so we are all going to be "helpful" by encouraging them in their mental illness? Or, as seems more likely considering some of the teacher guidance that is coming out, will they be forced to say "this is a boy" now or be fired?

Add to that harm the reminder that teenagers are, well, teenagers, and that the whole self identifying gender movement allows them to switch their gender from day to day or even minute to minute. How much power should they have over their teachers? The power to get them fired for referring to them as a boy/girl/it? This is a guarantee of sexual assault cases to come and worse.

If the sufferers of gender dysphoria require bathrooms and changing facilities other than those assigned to them by their biological sex, then the school districts are on the hook to provide separate and single changing/bathroom areas for them. Because there is no other option that does not harm the  children. It is also the only way to protect the afflicted from other sufferers - because you cannot have the "trans" boys sharing bathrooms and changing rooms with "trans" girls either. But the courts, when asked, decided that the schools must allow these children to use the bathroom of their choice in disregard of the harm it will cause to the other children. (This was the decision of the federal appeals court. The SCOTUS vacated that decision upon reviewing the changes to federal policy of President Trump, but they refused to hear the case during this term which means it will come up again in a few years.)

The very idea that a court of any level could say that the majority of our children MUST be harmed, because the sufferers of a mental disorder don't want to use separate facilities provided for them in an effort to maintain the safety and conscience of all the students, is appalling.

The fact is that the public school system is outdated, inefficient and expensive. We have other alternatives even in the public realm. On-line schools have become well accepted and provide a challenging curriculum with more input from parents. Homeschooling has been shown to produce responsible students well able to succeed in life or college. It is time, when the government is willing to deliberately harm the majority of the children with whom they have been entrusted, to leave that system.


What we allow is what will continue. The compact has been broken and the purveyors of political correctness in high places will continue to use our children as political pawns to fundamentally transform what they were put into office to maintain.

 Stop sending your children to public schools that harm them. Stop electing people to office who will not prevent such harm. And stop approving more funding for a system that is deliberately harming children. These are your children. This is your responsibility and your duty as a parent.

"1 Then said he unto the disciples, It is impossible but that offences will come: but woe unto him, through whom they come!

2 It were better for him that a millstone were hanged about his neck, and he cast into the sea, than that he should offend one of these little ones." Luke 17:1-2

"1  And he spake a parable unto them to this end, that men ought always to pray, and not to faint;

2 Saying, There was in a city a judge, which feared not God, neither regarded man:

3 And there was a widow in that city; and she came unto him, saying, Avenge me of mine adversary.

4 And he would not for a while: but afterward he said within himself, Though I fear not God, nor regard man;

5 Yet because this widow troubleth me, I will avenge her, lest by her continual coming she weary me.

6 And the Lord said, Hear what the unjust judge saith.

7 And shall not God avenge his own elect, which cry day and night unto him, though he bear long with them?

8 I tell you that he will avenge them speedily. Nevertheless when the Son of man cometh, shall he find faith on the earth?" Luke 18:1-8

"The Department of Education is demanding that an Illinois school district allow a boy who identifies as a girl and plays sports on a girls team to have full access to the locker room and showers with the girls on the team.

Read more here:Complete anarchy’ as Obama invades girls’ showers
The reason this is so wrong is because it violates the most fundamental implied contract between the government and parents with regard to the public school system. That contract is one that says, you(parents) give me(government) access to your children to educate them and I am worthy to be trusted with that most valuable part of your family - your child(ren).

That implied declaration of trustworthiness means that the government does not get to traumatize your child, nor encourage them in harmful behaviors, nor to use them for social experiments.

Telling girls that they must allow males to use ladies bathrooms is bad enough, but to say that males must be allowed to be naked in proximity to themselves while they are also naked or in various stages of undress is harmful. 

It tells girls that they should disregard the feelings of discomfort that occur when another person is behaving in a way that is outside of the norms of that society. There is a good reason for those feelings of discomfort. It is to keep you safe.

When someone is behaving oddly, it is a signal that they may be mentally unstable or ill or about to engage in bad behavior. The natural impulse is to keep your distance from such people. And that's a good thing. Sure, artists play on such discomfort all the time, but schools are not meant to be social or artistic experiments. Because if they were, no one, except those who don't care about the mental health and well-being of their children would send their children there. 

And that is the proper response for the parents of this school and all schools across the nation - keep your children home. Homeschool them, get them a tutor, send them to a private school that is segregated by sex, but do NOT allow the government to engage in social experimentation with your children.

And don't just vote with your feet on this one, because that will leave other children subject to being the victims of this egregious abuse of the population. Go to your local school board meetings, call your state and federal legislators and your mayor and your governor and demand that the government cease using children for their social experiments. It is unethical and abusive of children. 

In fact, tell them the social experimentation is not the province of government at all, because it is not. 


Call. Because if there are no consequences for bad behavior, the behavior will not change. But, before you call, call your school and let them know that your child will not be in attendance until you can be assured that they will be safe from being forced to participate in such madness. You are the first line of defense for your children. Failure to protect them from this is failure as a parent.

"23 Then said the king, The one saith, This is my son that liveth, and thy son is the dead: and the other saith, Nay; but thy son is the dead, and my son is the living.

24 And the king said, Bring me a sword. And they brought a sword before the king.
25 And the king said, Divide the living child in two, and give half to the one, and half to the other.
26 Then spake the woman whose the living child was unto the king, for her bowels yearned upon her son, and she said, O my lord, give her the living child, and in no wise slay it. But the other said, Let it be neither mine nor thine, but divide it.
27 Then the king answered and said, Give her the living child, and in no wise slay it: she is the mother thereof." ~1st Kings 3:23-27

Being a parent is the best and I am thankful that my husband and I chose to have me be a stay-at-home Mom. It was hard, but well worth it. We sacrificed many things to do it, we are not rich people. But what good is more stuff if you lose the time you have with your child? I even homeschooled for 5 years and I wish I had done more. (But hey, when the child is arguing for 3 hours about why he shouldn't do 30 minutes worth of math it's time to admit that you'll be raising a lawyer if this keeps up and try something else.) For those who are interested, he graduated from a private college, debt free, this spring.

I would not trade even the worst of the seconds spent homeschooling for all the money in the world. It was a privilege and a gift to have the raising of this precious child. There is no career that would be worth having missed it and it's about time that we stay-at-home Moms start speaking up and reminding the feminists and progressives that those who choose career over children are missing out on the very best of life.

Oh yes, they say they want what's best for "the children" as though children are an abstract concept that they really don't "get." And that's kind of sad for them. There is also some sort of assumption that stay-at-home Moms are stupid or incompetent or abused. As though no one in their right minds would choose such a thing. What a crock. You wish you were us.

And maybe that's the crux of it. Perhaps they realize that they are missing something that we have. Contentment, fulfillment, purpose. Although, I will grant you that such terms are not what comes to mind when the colicky baby is crying all night or when the toddler asks embarrassing questions in public, or when our child is desperately ill - but as I told his Troop(before the Scouts lost their integrity) the worst campouts make the best stories.

When they are grown into people we are proud of, we know the truth, that we have engaged in a years long challenge - and we have won. When our children grow into civilized, functioning adults who are contributing to a stable society, we recognize that this is the point of life. This is what provides us with the ability to affect the future. This is worth doing and more, it is worth doing well.

I am not saying that you cannot grow into a decent person raised by a single parent - I did, after all. (At least I endeavor to be a civilized and functioning adult.), but it is more difficult. And I am not saying that single parents cannot raise children who grow up to make valuable contributions to a stable and civilized society, but again, it's more difficult.

Then there is the other thing. The political thing. The progressive*cough* communist*cough*  thing. In order to truly reshape the fundamental vision of America - the vision of a self reliant, independent people who do not bow and scrape to government control because we ARE the authority behind this republic of ours, the enemies of freedom - and they are legion - MUST have control of the children. It is much more difficult to fulfill their Utopian (and false) vision if family loyalties, expectations and obligations are standing in the way. So, of course, stay-at-home Moms(and Dads) need to be eliminated. And while there would be resistance if the government simply attempted to take our children by force, getting Mom to think she is worthless if she doesn't go out and get herself a career is so much easier. Just look at how advertising works for make-up: Make her question whether or not she is beautiful and she will buy your cosmetics. Make her question her place as honored wife and mother and she will destroy the family for you.

We have been quiet for far too long. We are the natural guardians of our children and we need to remind the "useful innocents" out there that if Momma ain't happy then nobody's happy. Because as I look out at what this nation is becoming, I am not happy. And now, that traitorous usurper sitting in the office of the POTUS seems to think it is okay to portray me, and millions like me, not as a strong, independent woman who has chosen a career as a wife and mother, but as a helpless, victim of circumstance who can't handle life's best and greatest challenge - that of raising MY child.

From the article linked to below: "“Sometimes, someone, usually mom, leaves the workplace to stay home with the kids, which then leaves her earning a lower wage for the rest of her life as a result. And that’s not a choice we want Americans to make,” Obama said."

The Twitterverse answered this one for me with the succinct and accurate phrase: "WHO IS "WE""And I would follow it up with "It's MY choice to make, so you just butt out."
And this: "“Moms and dads deserve a great place to drop their kids off every day that doesn’t cost them an arm and a leg,” Obama added."

Excuse me? Dropping my child off so that someone else is raising him and shaping his character everyday is NOT a good thing. It's something done out of necessity by those who can't afford to have one stay at home parent. (Or those who aren't up to the hardest and most rewarding challenge of this lifetime. )

What America needs is a POTUS who is working to get the economy back to the point where we can have the majority of our children raised in a two parent household where one parent can stay home with the children. It's what our children deserve and more, it's what they need from us.