Reqs open as always, just req through my ask me thingy (or strawpage!!) n’ I have over 80+ variations of these unaltered on my pinterest! I also have a couple drives for pfp use!!
Do you happen to know of resources about representing alloaros properly in media?
Because I'm trying to write a story with an alloaro character and I want to make sure my portrayal is respectful! Their orientation isn't the main focus (it's fantasy, there's lots of dragons) but is is A Thing and I want to do it right!
(pls ignore if this is not a good thing to ask on this blog)
i don’t know of any aroallo-specific resources, but in general keep in mind that aros are just like alloromantic people, minus the romance. it’s really easy to fall into the trap of writing an aro character as either cold, cutthroat, and emotionless, or as an innocent baby who isn’t mature enough to have a romantic relationship. just remember that every character should be written as a whole person with their own emotions (or lack thereof, if that’s part of their characterization) no matter their orientation.
tl;dr aro people are people and we can have meaningful nonromantic relationships
I will stress, though, that these posts–especially the second part–are targeted more at allies. I firmly believe that allosexual aros should write whatever stories and characters most call to us, irrespective of whether they fit the rules about “good” representation.
After six (very slow!) years of writing, Hallo, Aro comprises eighteen short fiction and creative-non-fiction pieces about allosexual aro protagonists–all collected on my website, Patreon or Tumblr.
Please expect fantasy and fairy tale motifs, trans and multisexual characters, a dash of autism, a great deal of amatonormativity, and a pervasive struggle for recognition by family, society and community.
This year I have a special request from my ally bestie of 10 years so I made one for the Ally flag too! I hope a certain game company won’t sue my ass
🌈 Requests are free and welcomed! If you want to see a pride flag not seen here, feel free to drop a message and I’ll make one and put it in the store! 🌈
I’ve talked on this before during Aro Week this year and I wanted to remake the text in a new form, but I don’t think there’s anything new I can say or change about trans aros like myself so instead, I’ll leave it out of this post to avoid it being too long.
Aro trans men exist. Aro trans women exist. Aro non-binary people exist. Aros of any arospec identity that are also trans and non-binary exist.
(Available on Teepublic and Redbubble at my carrd)
Some Aro Songs! I had fun with the graphic design :)
Will Jay - Never Been In Love
This song is pretty popular amongst the aro community, I think. Will Jay is a really talented singer and I listen to him normally but I appreciate this catchy up beat denial of romantic culture. There’s a lot of sadness caused by others and culture when we identify as aro, but he presents a happiness in not falling in love.
bülow - Not A Love Song
This song describes the perspective of an aroallo. Not every aro is asexual by default. I also feel this song is good beyond aromantic culture. Because fuck thinking sex is a sin. People both shame sex and then call people broken for not wanting sex or feeling sexual attraction. And at the end of the day, fuck off. It’s not your business whether people have sex or not.
Danko Jones - Don’t Fall In Love
This song is an upbeat and loud song, calling love bullshit.
Dearlie - For Me
This song is about asexuality, but works as an aromantic, or aroace song!
Jetty Bones - No Lover
Not everyone needs a lover, sometimes a friend is more than enough.
Mike FonzaRelli Roberts - Aromantic
This aro song is a good description of what aromanticism is.
NIIC - I Don’t Need Love
Just another cool song discussing how we don’t need love :) !
Stealth - I Don’t Need Your Love
This song feels very aro coded to me. I think a lot of aro coded things can be seen as romance repulsed alloromantics or people who talk about the heartbreaks of love. Though we aren’t the same as them and the distinction is important, it’s nice to have those aro vibes.
The Avett Brothers - Pretend Love
What it feels like to be an aro and be in a relationship, but you’re faking the love.
Mother Mother - Alone and Sublime
My favorite band :))) The song is aro coded, especially the line “I wonder, did they make me right? Aren’t I supposed to wanna fight for love”
This year I’ve created five cross-stitch patterns designed for use with a variety of LGBTQIA+ pride flags, including the trans, genderqueer, non-binary, agender and demigender flags.
Each pronoun pattern is available in three scale variants: he/him, she/her, they/them, it/its and ze/hir. With the use of my cross-stitch alphabets,
however, they can be adapted and modified for any pronoun set expressible in the Roman
alphabet possessing a three, four, five, six,
seven, ten or twelve-striped flag.
This tutorial includes sixteen cross-stitch text charts/patterns plus a guide to adapting said patterns for other pronoun sets.
With all this going on, I thought it a good time to update my pattern and tutorial master post.
Some tutorials will work for–or can be adapted for–a wide variety of pride flags. Most aromantic text patterns can be adapted for other a-spectrum identity flags.
These pieces are designed as handsewn patches, pendants or keychains (depending on the materials used). Aida, other types of evenweave fabric or vinyl canvas/plastic mesh is best for cross-stitch. They may also be adapted for freehand embroidery on non-evenweave fabric (like quilting cotton, drill, homespun, canvas or denim) by tracing the letter outlines and using filling stitches for the
stripe colours.
I’m working around injury to create a pronoun patch tutorial before Pride Month 2023 ends, but I thought reblogging my master post earlier in June might help folks who want or need to DIY their finery.
Additional tutorials and pattern gallery pages include:
Even though my alphabet sets are labelled “aro alphabet”, they will work with any pride flag of the designated stripe count!
I hope this helps give more folks the opportunity to display their pride–all the more important for those of us suffering increased rejection, erasure and hatred.
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