Sweet Bobby : Imposture sur mesure

I feel this documentary would have been better if it had covered a few women or men who were catfished under similar circumstances, instead of just one person.

While the story of Kirat is compelling, I feel it couldn't really fill nearly 1.5 hours. It just felt too stretched out and repetitive at times.

Alternatively, had the documentary also interviewed the fake Bobby or a few others who whose identities were stolen, then I think it would have been really interesting.

Of course, that might have been too difficult, given the sensitive nature of the events. Still, it would have been useful to the audience to understand better what and why it happened.

Definitely a cautionary tale for all.

As I watched the film, I thought about all the judgement the lady would now have to face from a lot of people hearing her story but still, it turned out to be worse than I predicted.

I didn't come here with intentions to defend Kirat because I was frustrated with her actions A LOT but I am actually more appalled by the reaction to her experience; the attacks and the total lack of empathy. So I decided to add something different.

I cannot understand why people are so extremely angry with her that she believed the story of the abuser. And I mean, extremely angry, even furious at times! It didn't happen to you. She didn't hurt you or anybody else.

The question of "how could she be that stupid?" is repeated with harsher synonyms, even though the main reason is provided in the film multiple times: Kirat was born and raised in a family and culture that believes getting married and having children are one of the best and most important things in life. I don't believe that at all but I accepted the crazy thought that there are women with different goals and priorities than mine ;) Kirat explained what she felt at that time: inside and outside pressure to be like others in the community, fear of being too old to have a baby, being judged, disapproved and simply alone. It's nothing new and uncommon that she was easy to be manipulated and abused in that situation.

If you have never met a smart person struggling to get out of the abusive relationship and if you didn't check but you know you could have never ever been manipulated and exploited by a close person nobody would even think of suspecting, then this film should make you feel very clever and superior. But also very angry at the victim for blaming a particularly twisted perpetrator. But I wish you didn't watch it or at least comment unless you have some empathy ;)

The story itself is interesting but I would have wished to hear more about the intrinsic motivation what made her stay in that 'relationship' for so long. You just hear a story of someone being catfished. Are there any reasons given why this could go on for ages? Not really. Judging from their conversations he didnt even present himself as a knight in shining armour, rather opposite. And the documentary fails to deliver an answer or at least some kind of explanation. Probably 90% of the documentary is about both of them exchanging messages. Thats it. I was in a similar relationship and the motives to remain in this are deeply psychological and this documentary could have investigated the psychological side too in order to maybe help others who are in a similar situation and to make it more interesting. If a man is interested but doesnt want to meet you, he is either married or in a relationship, is a fraudster or you are being catfished. There is nothing in between. I wished the documentary was a bit more elaborate and not just 90% showing messages. It is difficult to understand why someone as intelligent acts so gullible and the show does not give any answers at all. It was a bit boring in between too. I didnt quit because I wanted to know whats behind all of this.

Alltogether it is a nice time pass but dont expect too much.

Very interesting how this sort of thing can happen. But my first thought was throughout the whole entire movie was how come they never did FaceTime? I don't know if it was mentioned in the movie if maybe I wasn't listening as to why there was no FaceTime? She was on Skype! Because that would solve the mystery straight away!

It is very sad what she has gone through. I don't know if I could've been fooled for that long tho. I would have been wanting to see them in real time! Plus also how did this female cousin trick and speak to her and sound like a man? I don't know it all sounds very suss to me. She seemed like an intelligent woman, I don't know how she could be fooled for so long?

Either way it was enjoyable at the end of the day so I gave it a 7.

Kirat falls for a man named Bobby, who seems to enjoy a jet set lifestyle, unfortunately the relationship remains an online one for years, and when a meeting is arranged, there's always an excuse.

People are calling her out on stupidity, naivety and more, I get that, but I'd say it's worse than that, I'd call her out on need, a desperation to be loved, and on that basis, I'd say what happened to her was cruel.

For a documentary it's just too long, it really does lag in the middle, if it was punchier, it would have been so much better. It's definitely an interesting story, though I feel that most people, self included will be wondering just how on Earth it happened, after four years.

I struggled to understand the whole point of the catfish, there was nothing financial, it just seemed twisted, what did they hope to gain, it should have resulted in some sort of prosecution.

Bizarre isn't the word.

6/10.