Ah, look at all the lonely people.
As I watched the new film, Bob Trevino Likes It, I was reminded of that Beatles classic about loneliness and depression. Almost every character in the film is experiencing some form of sadness. Yet, it's not a depressing film because the characters are particularly likeable, even at their lowest points. You connect with them on a personal level. You want them to be happy.
The film is based on the life of Writer/Director/Producer Tracie Laymon and the friendship she accidentally strikes up with a stranger on the internet. Yes, the idea sounds creepy, but the relationship Lily Trevino has with her actual father is far more disturbing. Turning in a beautiful, hopeful performance, actress Barbie Ferreira is always reminded that she's not the child her father wanted. Robert Trevino (French Stewart) seems to have little use for her. He's far more interested in her savings account to pay for his bills and uses her to butter up his stream of online hookups.
Dragging her along to dinners and events, he tells her to make him look good. Robert wants a relationship because he's 'tired of paying to watch women eat'. Yes, he's a very unlikeable person who doesn't realize how awful he sounds. Even when he's the one chintzing out at mealtime, forgetting his wallet, suggesting his dinner dates order something cheaper. He doesn't understand what he's doing wrong and Lily doesn't have the heart to tell him how bad he makes himself look. Instead, she takes the blame for all his dating failures.
When Robert angrily cuts her out of his life for a mishap at a dinner date, Lily still attempts to reconcile with him, but is faced with his indifference. A few weeks later, she again decides to try to reach him, this time through social media. She friends a 'Bob Trevino' on Facebook. However, it's the wrong Bob Trevino - it's not her dad, Robert.
This Bob Trevino (John Leguizamo) is a kind, hardworking man, married to Jeanie (Rachel Bay Jones), the scrapbooking Queen of the state. Though they live in the same home, it's apparent that they have difficulty communicating with each other. There's a pervasive sadness in the home. Jeanie tries to get him to socialize with friends, he doesn't see the use in it. Then, out of the blue, Bob sees a notification on his Facebook page that someone wants to friend him, has 'liked' one of his rare posts. He accepts, begins 'liking' Lily's posts, and eventually he and Lily strike up a social media friendship.
At Lily's suggestion, they eventually meet and pursue the friendship, in real life. Though they are both emotionally blunted, they find a warm companionship with each other. There are no expectations. They have no past trauma with each other to dwell on, little to forgive and forget.
There's nothing creepy about it. Just two lonely people, filling in the holes that life has hollowed out in their souls. Lily enjoys taking care of people and Bob allows her to get close to him. And then, Bob drops out of sight. She feels ghosted and goes searching for an explanation.
Many times, social media divides and isolates; in the case of Bob Trevino Likes It, social media allows two lonely strangers a means to connect, if only for a brief time.
