Un berceau sans bébé

Good movie; great story line BUT!!! Gratuitous sex, language, crude talk was completely unjustified, unnecessary and annoying. Minnie Driver is a great actress but her credibility went down for me in this movie. No actor or actress needs to reduce themselves to such gutter language and behavior, ESPECIALLY taking God's holy Name in vain.

We somehow missed this fine movie nine years ago when it came out, but presently found it on DVD at our public library.

It is about a couple who are expecting their first child, a boy, they will name him Arthur, they paint his room blue and prepare for the job of raising their son. But something happens, tragedy strikes, and they have to re-evaluate their whole lives.

The story is based on a real couple who went through this, the DVD extras include remarks by the husband who wrote about it and directs this movie. So what is presented is highly authentic.

Paul Adelstein is the husband, Aaron Royal, and Minnie Driver is the wife, Maggie Royal. Both are excellent in their roles. Driver even co-wrote and co-sings the song over the closing credits. She has a very nice singing voice.

It is not a pleasant subject, on the surface, but turns out to being a good movie.

Minnie Driver's performance in this film is one of the most beautiful performances I have ever seen. Andrea Anders was perfect too. This movie is filled with real moments. Many of those moments are hard to imagine for those not touched by losing a baby and are very hard to watch for those who have. Nothing is fake... nothing is "hollywood." This is some of the best storytelling I have ever seen. As the credits rolled... I sat there feeling something... I am not sure what. It was not a good feeling... or a bad feeling... I just 'felt' something very strongly. I am not sure how to describe it... but I know for a fact that no film has ever left me feeling like that before.

I finally feel validated!! This deeply personal movie was needed! You see, my husband I lost our daughter at 41 weeks. It was a healthy, uneventful, normal pregnancy! One day all was fine, the next day I went into labor and all was lost! When you hear the words "there is no cardiac activity", all the world comes to a standstill. Nothing is as it used to be. Normal is gone, a new normal is beginning. It starts with giving birth to a lifeless, beautiful, healthy looking, but oh so lifeless child, and "ends" with living every day with the truth of having birthed this beautiful girl. Missing her in every way! Being "just fine" for hours, then days, weeks, and months, only to feel overwhelmed by this grief again, this sadness, anger, all stages of grief! This movie validates and puts words to my thoughts, my emotions, and those of my husband! We were lucky enough to donate to this movie, so we could see our gorgeous daughter's name in the credits. I cried the entire movie. This truly did happen to me! Yes it did, almost 11 years ago. And though it has been so very long, this pain is still raw at times. This story needed to be told! Thank you, Sean Hanish for giving us a voice. Us as parents, us as a community, and our babies. Thank you Minnie Driver, Paul Adelstein, and all you wonderful actors for the extremely true to life portrayals! Thank you, from the bottoms of our hearts!

Don't get me wrong it hits all the made for TV sappy points. It's appropriately condescending to men as all pregnant women movies are supposed to be. The dialog is little too snappy repartee though. But not a bad effort. We've seen this a thousand times. Check all the boxes, men bad women good. But mostly it's a movie about pregnant women and babies for women who don't have kids and likely never will. Why? Because it doesn't really work this way. Sorry but no. In the real world the doctors want to walk away from this sort of thing asap. And in the real world it doesn't split up couples any more than any other medical shock. People without kids think it does but it does not.