Notre secret

I found this documentary refreshing; it's honest and necessary, and it's smart. The documentary doesn't tell the viewer 'what's happening, what to think, who to judge'...the takeaway is up to the viewer. There's plenty to observe if you enjoy abstracting themes. Cheryl and her team did a great job revealing the many nuances embedded in society that feeds misogyny, abuse, chauvinism... This isn't a story about one person's experience - that's the starting point. I thought the timing and placement for how each person was introduced was spot on, particularly the teacher with red hair (I can't remember his name) and the scene where him and Cheryl are talking outside - that was 👌.

This happens way too often, and it was amazing to see so many women sharing their stories. I was HOOKED from the very beginning. The number of people who just stand by and watch in all of these cases is so troubling, and it's definitely something we should learn from.

The doc was well laid out and compelling. The fact that there are so many different stories might make it feel slightly scattered, but all of the different stories is kind of the point. The issue is so pervasive.

The attorney working on the Jason Meyers case is a legend. He was one of my favorite parts. He's an amazing advocate, and he did a great job explaining the issues.

Highly recommend to women, men, parents, students, and everyone in between.

The negative reviews on this clearly show the state of our society that doesn't understand Power Dynamics and how victims, students (whether girls or boys), high schoolers, should not be blamed for the inappropriate relationships and abuse that goes on. It's disgusting to read some of the comments blaming the girls that have had this happen to them. They are TEENS. The adults know what they are doing and it is not okay.

It's time predatory behavior is held accountable and schools are safer for children. Obviously the hypersexualization of teens in the media and especially now with social media such as tiktok etc doesn't help anything and aids in making children more vulnerable and susceptible to abuse. It's sad. Parents and adults that care, watch out for the signs. Take care of our kids.

The 1 star review left by Cindy is exactly why these issues will persist. Blaming the victim is in appropriate and morally wrong. Unfortunately many people are stuck thinking like Cindy.

This documentary shows exactly why no one wants to speak up. It shares the gray area and nuance of these issues in a way we've known but have not yet seen. Teachers should never EVER cross the threshold into flirting with a student or worse.

And just because the relationship crossed into adulthood has no baring on the fact that was morally wrong from the start.

Very proud of these survivors and excited to see the documentarians work in the future on this topic or other topics.

And oof Bob thinking he's one of the good guys, he's trying to play both sides while himself being a predator.

I gave this series 10 stars because, regardless of style and even the details of these two stories, this kind of grooming and preying on teens happens and it damages lives. The betrayal of trust and the secret-keeping are corrosive. The more this is brought into the public eye, the better. Teenagers are not equipped with the life experience or psychological development to be considered an adult on equal terms with these older predators (not exclusively, but often older men with teen girls), especially those in a position of power. It really is a crime - morally and legally. It is the job of the school system to protect the children in its care, not to foster an environment that turns a blind eye and allows children to be hurt. People may not realize the long-term damage that can result from these relationships, but I speak from experience to say that it runs deep and is long-lasting. To come forward is an act of courage.