Juste une fois!

You fall in love. You know, you get that really special feeling, an amazing connection . . . ? "This could be the one," you say, "I feel I could tell this person anything." Total love, total honesty, total forgiveness. Unconditional.

Not!! Don't see this film with your fiancé, see it on your own . . .

Sleeping Dogs Lie is not standard rom-com, a tidy melodrama, or a gross-out comedy. It second-guesses the audience with its unconventional examination of relationships and the ideas we maybe too easily take for granted. Like the emotional headbanger movie, Closer, you will perhaps want time to think of the answers to give your beloved before they ask questions based on this movie. The best time to analyse relationships is when you're not in one. The second best time, as our intelligent, pretty, 26yr old protagonist discovers, is when you're learning from your past mistakes.

Amy (Melinda Page Hamilton) is fairly sure that John is the guy for her. They reach the, "Tell me something you've never told anyone else" stage. Yes, we're talking sexual things. But not on screen - just verbal and emotional. Trouble is, Amy is worried John won't love her if she tells him of her dark teenage misdemeanour.

If you have done something bad, that didn't hurt anyone else, you didn't intend any harm, and no-one found out, is telling your other half part of that 'total honesty' equation? Sharing feels good (selfish, but OK). Telling them before they find out from someone else is probably good tactics (selfish really, from fear, or at best protecting trust). But love for the other person isn't technically part of it. Not that you believe that. Amy goes for trial and error. John gives her a 'skeleton' and she wimps out. She gives him a made-up confession that he finds a turn on. For now.

When someone else finds out it might be accidental - but it can come back to haunt. Honesty involves more than intellectual decision. What if your mind 'forgives' someone but your sexual urge doesn't? And if you get the moral high ground, will that tempt you to lie so as to keep it? The film's resolution works on a 'minimising hurt to others' idea, which is quite convincing. Am I going to tell you Amy's secret? No - cos if I do, it will give you the wrong idea of the film, and it's in the first reel anyway.

This is a low budget movie ($50,000) that was very well received at the Sundance and San Sebastian film festivals. Acting is excellent, but the characters are not always very rounded and it is too uneven, uncategorisable a film for general viewing. Audience distance is made even greater by use of techniques like contrasting music ("When You're Smiling"' plays as they drive through miserable silence). I was about to get bored with it, but was already wondering if it was taking an avant-garde approach rather than being just an amateurish mainstream film. It comes very close to the bone when characters 'demand' that the object of their 'love' is 'honest' with them. (Do you have the right to insist on information about that part of someone's life that doesn't concern you?) The dilemmas are reflected into other relationships. Amy has to attend a funeral (she has fallen out with her Father - "I need you to love me, Daddy"), and needs a cigarette. "I didn't want you to know I knew," her father says.

Sleeping Dogs Lie may seem slapdash or tedious if you don't buy into the cerebral and emotional challenge. If you do, you may find it, as I did, quite edifying as well - as heartbreakingly poignant.

This was my first Sundance Film Festival movie. It was surprisingly funny...the acting was great and it was refreshing to see an original story...and this one has definite shock factor. Bob Goldthwaite definitely has a twisted mind and braves bringing it to the screen. If you get the opportunity to view this movie...go for it. However it most certainly is not for young people. The conservative will need to be willing to open their minds to a sense of humor even though acceptance will be an impossible feat for pretty much anyone. The irony of the movie is how real the fear of exposing your deepest, darkest secrets to anyone, including the person you are closet to and love most in the entire world. I still say....some things are meant to stay secret!

I saw this film in a preview screening presented by Bobcat Goldthwait. He was incredibly funny as he talked about the hassles that he had to go through to get this film made.

It was definitely worth it. This film really cuts to the core of human relationships. It deals with love fidelity, and the value and pitfalls of secrets and honesty. Yes, it challenges society's mores, but in a sweet and very funny way.

The casting and writing are both fantastic.

The only major drawback is the graininess of some of the digital photography.

This film may end up being portrayed as a gimmick movie, but that is really an afterthought to the humanity of this fine film.

The opening scene might be quite disgusting and disturbing to some, but if you can get past that, the film is actually enjoyable. (I am not going to disclose the nature of the act, even though I see now that my local paper has given it away!!) Let's just say that the title takes on a double meaning after you see the opening act.*NOTE: now the title is "Sleeping Dogs Lie." When I wrote this, it was called "Stay."

I was one of the lucky ticketholders who got to see this at Sundance...Bob Goldthwaite was at our Salt Lake screening, which we appreciated very much (many filmmakers don't bother with the locals). He warned us before the show started that people may want to walk out at the beginning; and to be honest, I may have left had I not heard him talk about the movie first. One of the things I liked about the movie is that it acknowledges throughout that "the act" is wrong and sick, not socially acceptable, and hard to get past.

I am very glad we stayed. I appreciated so many things about this film. The script was very well written, and the story was compelling. Amy's parents are not portrayed as buffoons, even though they are conservative; her mother especially is shown to be very human and forgiving; her father is perceptive and caring. Goldthwait didn't just go for cheap laughs; this movie actually has something to say.

This movie isn't really about the sexual indiscretion, it's about the nature of "truth" and whether or not people are entitled to know ALL of the bad things you have ever done. If a person has moved on, changed their ways, etc. etc, then some things are better left unsaid, and this movie illustrated that beautifully. If you can get past the first scene (which actually leaves the "act" to the viewer's imagination!), it's really a very well done and surprisingly sweet film.

Woof.Woof Woof.Woof!!Two big thumbs up!!A great film from an unlikely director. This was so good,I was actually waiting for the credits to find out who made this one. Never knew "Ol Bobcat had it in him. Not to sound cliché', but...I laughed, I cried, I found myself wanting for more. What more can you ask of a film? This one's gem from start to finish. Yes, it's a little raw, but any production shortcomings are more than offset by the outstanding script, performances, and overall experience. Hat's off Bobcat!! I'll be anxiously awaiting your next project.This one's a keeper. Great title too!(you'll see what I mean...lol)