Men Don't Tell

Hi, PLEASE TRY TO HELP!!! I have spent hours looking for a way to find a copy of this important movie. However, no matter where I have looked there has been no way to locate the origin and/or place where I could turn to find a copy of: "Men Don't Tell" with Peter Straus. Apparently the made-for-TV movie has been shown several times on TV, but can't be found in any Vedio store (even big ones). I'm looking to purchase a copy.

Can anyone inform me how/where to find it?

Thanks to all who try.

Sincerely, Fred GOLFFRED@AOL.com

The first time I saw the movie was during the breakup of my marriage. I only got to see part of it as I could feel what he was going through as I did the same... I was in love and went through hell for 7 years because of the love I had for my wife.

I had 2 children that ended up in her care after I was thrown out and 10 years later they now live with me and understand... As they've been thrown out too because of her drinking, at the ages of 17 and 14.

I hope I can still make it up to them for not being able to prove it all in the 10 year custody battle.

I know... I didn't want to 'tell' either...

I was ashamed to let anyone know the control she had over me.

I've worked with battered men for over 10 years and know that this is a significant problem, but there is an even worse one. Violent mothers account for 55% of fatal child abuse, even when custody and time spent with the children are taken into consideration, according to the US Justice Dept. study, "Murder in Families." Fathers account for 8%, stepmothers/girlfriends for 9%, and stepfathers/boyfriends for 10%. We are working on building a shelter for fathers and children in Kansas City, but it is a slow process, but one is needed. Studies on domestic violence against women show that 39% of the victims are men, but you only find that out by looking at the charts that come with the studies. The summaries don't mention this, preferring to only address violence against women.

I have not been able to see this movie all the way through because I never know when it's showing on TV. Also, I have to be careful not to draw attention to my search for it because I don't know how my wife would take it. The subject matter is seriously personal and there has never been any other movie addressing it, that I'm aware of. My wife has a violent temper that I did not find out about until after we were married. After 25 years of marriage she is finally mellowing out but she refuses to discuss her abusive actions nor to seek professional help. I have done all that I can to keep our children from being emotionally ruined and they are able to discuss it now that they are older.

I am looking for 2 copies of the movie on DVD. Apparently, CBS first aired it in 1993 but does not own it. So, they cannot copy it.

I'm trying to figure out who owns it and can provide copies.

I can use some help.

Judith Light and Peter Strauss bravely take on challenging, unflattering roles in this television drama for CBS: she as the domineering wife who verbally and physically attacks her spouse, he as the blue-collar husband and father being humiliated and abused. Issue-of-the-week family portrait from writers Selma Thompson and Jeff Andrus, its subject matter handled with a startling directness by Harry Winer. Not a pleasant watch, but effective for what it is. Fine supporting cast includes Carroll Baker, Noble Willingham, Ashley Johnson, and James Gammon. Strauss was Golden Globe-nominated for Best Performance by an Actor in a Motion Picture Made for Television. ** from ****