This movie shows another side to spousal abuse that not too many people thought is possible--the husband being abused and the wife the abuser.This movie shows another side to spousal abuse that not too many people thought is possible--the husband being abused and the wife the abuser.This movie shows another side to spousal abuse that not too many people thought is possible--the husband being abused and the wife the abuser.
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Hi, PLEASE TRY TO HELP!!! I have spent hours looking for a way to find a copy of this important movie. However, no matter where I have looked there has been no way to locate the origin and/or place where I could turn to find a copy of: "Men Don't Tell" with Peter Straus. Apparently the made-for-TV movie has been shown several times on TV, but can't be found in any Vedio store (even big ones). I'm looking to purchase a copy.
Can anyone inform me how/where to find it?
Thanks to all who try.
Sincerely, Fred GOLFFRED@AOL.com
Can anyone inform me how/where to find it?
Thanks to all who try.
Sincerely, Fred GOLFFRED@AOL.com
In this heroic effort to show another side of domestic violence, Judith Light, who plays the main character, found herself learning about a situation she'd never dreamed was possible. Yet it is true--there are violent women, and just as the character played by Peter Strauss finds, there is no help for male victims. Light and Strauss give honest portrayals of people caught in an ugly situation.
Although it was fairly accurate for the time regarding police involvement and other details,laws have changed since this movie was made, rendering many details obsolete. Still, it is the *only* movie of its kind, daring to recognize a hidden, albeit politically incorrect reality.
Although it was fairly accurate for the time regarding police involvement and other details,laws have changed since this movie was made, rendering many details obsolete. Still, it is the *only* movie of its kind, daring to recognize a hidden, albeit politically incorrect reality.
I've worked with battered men for over 10 years and know that this is a significant problem, but there is an even worse one. Violent mothers account for 55% of fatal child abuse, even when custody and time spent with the children are taken into consideration, according to the US Justice Dept. study, "Murder in Families." Fathers account for 8%, stepmothers/girlfriends for 9%, and stepfathers/boyfriends for 10%. We are working on building a shelter for fathers and children in Kansas City, but it is a slow process, but one is needed. Studies on domestic violence against women show that 39% of the victims are men, but you only find that out by looking at the charts that come with the studies. The summaries don't mention this, preferring to only address violence against women.
Judith Light and Peter Strauss bravely take on challenging, unflattering roles in this television drama for CBS: she as the domineering wife who verbally and physically attacks her spouse, he as the blue-collar husband and father being humiliated and abused. Issue-of-the-week family portrait from writers Selma Thompson and Jeff Andrus, its subject matter handled with a startling directness by Harry Winer. Not a pleasant watch, but effective for what it is. Fine supporting cast includes Carroll Baker, Noble Willingham, Ashley Johnson, and James Gammon. Strauss was Golden Globe-nominated for Best Performance by an Actor in a Motion Picture Made for Television. ** from ****
OK, so this is a made-for-TV movie, so don't go expecting Ocar-winning performances..... Adopt that outlook and this film will have you blown over!! For such an unusual subject matter as a beaten husband, it takes a very good actor to play that role convincingly. The character must be portrayed not as a cowering weakling, nor an angry, affronted paragon of masculinity... But as a normal, real man. There is only ever one REAL man in the movie industry and he's right here in the lead role - Peter Strauss.
By Real Man, I do mean that he responds as most real men would when suddenly battered by the one person they love beyond all else... Out of love. People who love stay with their beloved, as long as they can and you can feel every moment of angst in Strauss's performance. Even at the very end, you can tell he has nothing but absolute love for his wife and what he does is done because of that love.
This is my first film with Judith Light and several other cast members. Light's performance as a loving yet unhinged wife did come across as slightly over-the-top, but that just makes it necessarily dramatic and hammers home effectively the years of abuse in the 95 minutes such a production is limited to.
The supporting cast too deliver their roles well, but as with all such acting styles that find their way into TV movies, you have to watch closely to see the best of it as, just like in real life, it is very subtle.
For some reason, this film attracted a lot of negativity from certain womens groups. Perhaps because, like most people, they don't believe such a thing could ever be true and are just as shocked when they discover it is far more prevalent than anyone could imagine.
Conclusion: Another ABSOLUTE must see from the Strauss repertoire!!
By Real Man, I do mean that he responds as most real men would when suddenly battered by the one person they love beyond all else... Out of love. People who love stay with their beloved, as long as they can and you can feel every moment of angst in Strauss's performance. Even at the very end, you can tell he has nothing but absolute love for his wife and what he does is done because of that love.
This is my first film with Judith Light and several other cast members. Light's performance as a loving yet unhinged wife did come across as slightly over-the-top, but that just makes it necessarily dramatic and hammers home effectively the years of abuse in the 95 minutes such a production is limited to.
The supporting cast too deliver their roles well, but as with all such acting styles that find their way into TV movies, you have to watch closely to see the best of it as, just like in real life, it is very subtle.
For some reason, this film attracted a lot of negativity from certain womens groups. Perhaps because, like most people, they don't believe such a thing could ever be true and are just as shocked when they discover it is far more prevalent than anyone could imagine.
Conclusion: Another ABSOLUTE must see from the Strauss repertoire!!
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- TriviaIs based on a true story.
- GoofsLaurie's hair changes from long to short & back again from scene to scene.
- Quotes
[last lines]
Laura MacAffrey: Ed, what are you going to tell everyone - about why we're splitting?
Ed MacAffrey: [after a long pause] The truth.
- ConnectionsFeatured in The 51st Annual Golden Globe Awards (1994)
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- Les silences d'un homme
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- Wilmington, Los Angeles, California, USA(Shipyard scene)
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- Runtime
- 1h 35m(95 min)
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- 1.78 : 1
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