It Was a Wonderful Life

I have been scrambling all my life, and I know anything could happen in a month or so and it is beyond me how I would get out of that hole should I become seriously homeless. After the last time, the only work I could get was part time $8.50.

In the past I have lived in a tent while doing a work exchange for a camp site and food.

I have couch surfed with gracious friends off and on for years. I have even spent short stints at homeless shelters, where even the women's section was scary because some women would violate your space.

And since I have been sick I worry every month or so about becoming homeless again.

I wonder if what we need to be taught at an early age, in school, by our parents or by ourselves is how to manage money, how to negotiate raises at work and how to secure our independent financial well being with even our loved ones, rather than blindly trusting one's mate. It really is a dog eat dog world out there if you lack anyone watching your back.

Life can be tough. Fathers really can be selfish bastards. While that may be sexist, and I am aware there are evil mothers, the facts really do indicate the deliberate selfishness of men. Which is why I think women really need to be more careful who they have babies for....The notion that a man is more committed when he has children is clearly false. Why does the man do this? There ought to be a movie profiling the personality of the deadbeat dad: rich, with a new young wife, driving a fancy car, inviting his unsupported children to a brief trip to Hawaii? What a world.

Married people are a minority constantly under pressure by egotistic elements of society. Who is foolish enough to trust these days? Religious "republicans" can seem just as shady where the wife simply puts up with offensive behavior to save face.

Media paints these brainwashing pictures of marriage, children and happily ever after. Who is living this lie? Who do we really know? The reality is a relationship is not set in stone. Mothers and wives need to take this fact seriously and take responsibility for the long haul, which seems for many most likely to end up being by herself.

I am Marjorie Bard, the author of the book "Shadow Women: Homeless Women's Survival Stores" (Sheed&Ward 1990/re-released in 2016 by Routledge) from which this doc was made. I understand the comments & questions by previous reviewers. The material is a time capsule; it is now 2017 and there are probably a million undetectable homeless women now roaming the U.S. The middle-class has diminished, job opportunities are tech driven, the COL is higher but wages do not match affordable housing, and domestic abuse is on the rise, causing more female homelessness and even less court-ordered support follow- up/collection. The focus on mental stability was prime in my book but the doc "swerved" to include depression (etc.), altering its purpose: encouraging self-sufficiency.(I have a 10-year e-doc on the web which outlines more advanced "solutions" to homelessness.) One woman's story would be a completely different type of doc!

The producers did not follow-up on their interviewees for 2 reasons: this was a single short project and all assistance would have been given by my nonprofit organization if I had not been ignored when their doc was completed.

mandatory viewing for soon-to-be-ex-husbands before any divorce settlements are proposed.

the documentary chronicles six women, most divorced, and all homeless, in los angeles, california. ruthless ex-husbands and their divorce counsel have contributed to some of the worst circumstances. it is a serious and slowly-paced film. there are a few especially memorable moments:

* Ohayon (the filmmaker) confronts one of the deadbeat dads, a music industry jet-setter, via phone regarding his childcare/alimony payments, which he claims to make regularly. then Ohayon takes us to a district attorney type who pulls the same man's file and reveals he is completely AWOL with regard to paying child support.

* there's also an amazing interview with a businesswoman and her three daughters, living out of a motel. the mother admits she is quite uncomfortable about disclosing her suitcase lifestyle to colleagues, but her three daughters sharing the motel room display fierce pride -- proud of their mom for supporting them, proud to tell friends how they live, and proud of their ability to cope with the hardship.

* the bureaucratic abyss facing those who dare apply for welfare and government housing subsidies is nicely conveyed via overheard phone calls and failure to deliver, in the case of one woman who finally secures an apartment on assurance of a 'section 8' subsidy.

the narration is read by jodie foster, original guitar and piano soundtrack by melissa etheridge, both understated and do not upstage the subject in any way.

This is a documentary about homeless women. It was interesting in the sense that this focused on women who are engaged socially - having jobs and lasting friendships - but are in situations where they can not afford housing.

I found some of the women covered to be interesting, but there was little focus or progression in the story. The direction and editing failed to maintain my attention. There were differences in the stories of these women, of course, but the message was essentially the same and could have been told by focusing on any one of them in more depth.

I made it to the end of the movie, but it was a rather boring journey.

An excellent documentary; this struck a chord with me.

I live in the most expensive city in my state, an affluent left-leaning college town. There's much more education than jobs in the area (varied things, like an abundance of culture or the quality of the local schools, keep some in the area), and the homeless population is quite noticeable for a town of 50,000. I - and many people I know - are college-educated folks with reasonable-to-occasionally impressive resumes, who are working retail or waiting tables. We're a paycheck or an illness or an accident away from being where the folks in this documentary are.

IT WAS A WONDERFUL LIFE is remarkably well-made, with subtle cinematography that serves its' subjects well - no great art statements made visually, but this documentary doesn't need it. Instead, it unobtrusively gives the women who appear onscreen space to tell their stories - how they all ended up homeless. These women are educated, have experienced professional success and some semblance of security at some point, and are mostly descended from middle-class (or better) backgrounds. Their determination and self-awareness is striking, though - given the depressing familiarity of an ever-more-diverse homeless population - I wasn't as shocked as I felt that I should be.

Certain issues - depression, the common refuge of chemical dependance, the ever-present threats of violence - could've been dealt with in greater depth. Several themes are well-explored here however - if a viewer wasn't aware already that education, self-awareness, a ferocious work ethic and/or psychological toughness don't mean jack in and of themselves, it will be abundantly clear by the films' end. Morally, any individual (single, married, or otherwise) should - by this late date - know that depending on anyone else for security and survival is precarious even with a fat bank account, and potentially suicidal without. One woman (a law student) sums it all up effectively: "Never trust anyone. Especially a lawyer." This film visualizes all of the above in horrifying detail.

Equally disturbing is the revelation (from several of these women) that they never thought about homelessness until they became homeless. This info is rather casually offered; they don't exclude themselves from any of social apathy that is occasionally on display in IT WAS A WONDERFUL LIFE. They had it good until a bad investment, a lost lawsuit or a husband walked out (stiffing them for child support - the grueling fallout of this is shown in great, horrifying detail); one never views this as a problem deserving of thought and action until one has to move into their car, and then the true magnitude of how few safety nets exist (or function properly) becomes abundantly clear.

The women in this documentary impressed me - being homeless (or simply being poor) is an art, and it's a lot of work - this too becomes quite clear here. If there's an ulterior agenda, it should be noted that the women here defy most stereotypes of homelessness, personalizing the issue in terms that any cul-de-sac dweller would easily comprehend. These aren't the kind of cartoon down-and-outers easily written off by politicos, 'pull-yourself-up-by-your-bootstraps' types, suburbanites, or any of us with an education and a resume (and the expectation of upward mobility and security) - the faces seen here look like people you know and love.

Which - in some ways - is the lone serious oversight here - the issue could've been brought home (in wrenching fashion) has the director included some individuals who were at another level of 'lost' - addicted, or mentally ill, and completely abandoned by the system (or who had dealt with bureaucracies and agencies, only to lose hope in absolute frustration). While such a film would be tough to watch, it would also be essential in understanding a problem that shouldn't exist.

As it is, IT WAS A WONDERFUL LIFE is a very powerful, moving document - gripping and informative - and I recommend it strongly.