L'homme que je croyais épouser

Although this movie was already 26 years old when I first saw it, I felt that it was very pertinent to misconceptions of Domestic Violence, today. Movies like this one, and the whole VAWA implies that women generally have bad judgment in domestic relationships and are prone to preserve violent sexual involvement. Lindsay Wagner did a super job portraying Charlotte Fedders a women who obviously misunderstood traditional religious principles and suffered from low self esteem. Michael Nouri carried off the role of John Fedders very well. He makes it easy to believe how women can fall for the stereotypical demoniac male and choose to have children with them.

One of Lindsay's best,totally convincing in her portrayal of a battered wife who gives up her self respect and self esteem for love and to protect her children. Based on a true story Lindsay's portrayal was convincing and keeps the viewer glued to the screen throughout. This is one of my fave films of lindsay which scored high ratings when screened on Australian television in 1994. I give this a 9 out of 10.

First of all, they actually had six children. One of them died in infancy.

She readily admitted that no matter how bad things otherwise were, they always had incredibly spectacular sex. This can at least partially explain why she stayed - not blaming her, of course.

The oldest children, BTW, wanted nothing to do with him but the younger ones did see him, something she encouraged. Keep in mind that this was over 20 years ago; I have no idea what may have happened in the meantime.

Have either of them remarried? I couldn't imagine anyone wanting him, but you never know.

Apparently so. As Lindsay Wagner portrays Charlotte Fedders, former wife of D.C. attorney John Fedders, who rose to prominence in the 1980's as an SEC lawyer.

While the subject is not a novel one, this is a well-presented true case study. And we should all take offense at people who critique Charlotte Fedders, saying it is her fault, etc. Perhaps she felt she had no options. With 5 young children to support in the 1970's a woman's career options were not exactly promising.

Michael Nouri is quite believable as the narcissistic Fedders, who today has a thriving Washington D.C. law practice. Those who think the word is black and white, and that everything comes out right in the end may be interested in this story. Anyone who rationalizes violent behavior, and blames the victim, is living in an archaic world. Domestic violence is never justifiable, and laws today have at least been legislated to protect the abused spouse. 9/10.

After l8 years of intermittent physical and mental abuse, a devout Roman Catholic wife finally gets the courage to divorce her sadistic husband. First-rate acting by Michael Nouri as the troubled husband cannot redeem an essentially shallow message picture. The wife is a nurse and the husband an ambitious lawyer. She is from a privileged background. He never stops trying to prove himself good enough for her family. You would think that an intelligent health service professional would seek counseling before she had five children by this jerk, but I guess love and religious devotion are blind. I lost all credibility in this scenario when she forgave him for kicking her in the stomach in late pregnancy. And she a nurse! Despite the physical violence, it is the portrayal of his mental and emotional cruelty to her that really hit home. We have all been in somewhat similar situations with controlling men and women. The characters are stereotypes, but the upper-class ambience is well-portrayed. Worth a viewing, if only to enjoy Nouri's psychopathology.