Fin de partie: repenser la vie et la mort

Over the years, Rob Epstein and Jeffrey Friedman have made documentaries usually focusing on LGBT topics (Common Threads: Stories from the Quilt, The Celluloid Closet, State of Pride, etc)*. With the Academy Award-nominated "End Game", they look at a different topic: death. This production focuses on palliative care, forcing the viewer to think differently about death. After all, it's a topic that we try to avoid, but it will eventually happen to every one of us.

Serious but calm, the documentary is one that every person should see.

*Without Friedman, Epstein directed "The Times of Harvey Milk", a documentary about the assassinated gay politician.

End Game is a look into the final stage of a few people's lives and how they and their families deal with it. I can not say I have ever seen anything like this. I remember seeing my first piano teacher of 4+ years in Hospice as a young kid and being so shocked when she passed. There are many hard decisions and acceptances along this path. Dr. Miller, a palliative care professional, maintains a unique outlook on the whole process and does his best to bring peace to those he can.

I did, however, find it hard at times to stay engaged with the stories because I felt they moved a tad too slowly. Regardless, the film is eye-opening and touching at many different moments.

This poignant documentary by Rod Epstein and Jeffrey Friedman follows the lives of people with terminal illnesses in San Francisco, California. Each one is consulted by hospital staff to try a new way of dealing with their situation, some are led to the Zen Project runned by Dr. Miller, who had a near death at age 19.I

This film tries to show their non traditional methods, separating it from a traditional hospice situation. But one story stands out is Mirta, an Iranian woman dealing with Cancer. It's such a sad situation of her relationship with her family, and their struggles to Mirta's possible mortality. She is offered the way of the Zen Project and other surgeries.

In the end, each person is shown on how they dealing with their terminal medical condition, as they deal with understanding death as a human process.

This documentary packs a powerful blow in unmasking death. I've sat through two hospices deaths: my aunt and my dad. I found going to and from the hospice's incredibly difficult. Being with my dying loved ones wasn't, but the trip to them felt like a sledge hammer was hitting my heart. It was a relief to let both go, even though at the time I didn't feel that. I felt as we all do a desperate clinging to have them back if only for seconds. Since I've found peace to accept memories are all I have left - and that is enough. Hoping for miracles carries a heavy emotional price-tag thats not easy to put into words or even pictures - but this documentary does a superb job.

Treasure life. It always feels like its gone too quickly.

While this takes you on the edge of a second hand experience of death... I know for most people, such kind of support system (both medical and family) is hard to get....

Death is a larger (more definitive) truth than birth... and it's more difficult to comprehend for those who are left behind compared to those who "experience" it,,,

While different relations may perceive it differently, the question that remains is who/what died?

Anyways... highly recommended for people of all backgrounds irrespective of age, sex/gender, ethnicity, socioeconomic background, educational status and religious/non-religious/scientific beliefs...