An Update on Our Family

I made it most of the way through the first episode before giving up. It was so mind-numbingly boring I just couldn't do it. Everyone discussed the same topics and each person repeated themselves endlessly. The lack of editing made it feel drawn-out and pointless.

With only the first episode out, I'll check back in, but this one felt entirely unnecessary. It's disappointing because the story has so much potential. People have waited years for a quality documentary about this couple, but this production wastes the opportunity with poor editing and no focus.

Loads of camera angles, though ;) if you've seen it you know.

That could have been told in one, 2-hour doc, but instead we're subjected to these incredibly awkward, sincerely troubling parasocial fans that seem very confused as to their 'relationship' with content creators. I'm incredibly troubled by the sheer volume of people who seem to be at least somewhat intelligent, but willfully seem to toss that out the window in order to form false relationships with people who don't exist.

Along with 'content creators' who are so wrapped up in the creation of content and the time it takes to create this unattainable feeling of relatability to portray themselves as something not even remotely resembling real life, that they're all but ignoring that of the very real, very dependent children who are only used as props to convey this ridiculous portrayal to an easily duped public. That our aged Congress is so severely lacking when it comes to social media and that of creation of content that they've allowed this nonsense to fester like an open wound, it's no wonder that there seems to be a new horrifying train wreck surfacing weekly, with children being completely exploited. We have what's referred to as 'Jackie Coogan' laws, but for some reason doesn't apply to any of this, and these creators see no problems with exploitation in the most disturbing and disgusting ways.

The first episode was incredibly disturbing and difficult to consume- there's so many times we felt a need to turn away, yet continues to watch in hopes of a point being made. It's no exaggeration to say that the subjects of this were barely mentioned- and it was more so in passing and in some rather bizarre ways that really shone a light more on those who consume this garbage than that of the creators, themselves. There were some interesting moments but not a single thing pertaining to WHY the filmmakers are there, just weird teases that in supposing are meant to being the viewers back, but plays more like daytime soap operas.

I found a rather comprehensive and interesting article that laid bare the behavior behind this nonsense, and completely finished consuming it within 20 minutes. Skip this and do your own research.

I very much dislike the whole 'family vlogger' thing. In my opinion, it's so clearly being done for financial gain, as well as attention seeking. And the worst part, is that it's at the cost of children. These kids have no parts of their lives that are private, they're not consenting to having their faces plastered on videos for millions to see. They don't consent to millions of strangers basically being voyeurs of their lives. None of that is even counting the massive number of child predators that are out there. I don't even want to imagine the trauma that will cause them as they grow up. I mean, could imagine strangers coming up to you and telling you stories about yourself that you probably don't even remember?? I've watched documentaries of children who are now adults, that have had to change their names because of their parents' incessant need for money and attention.

One of the worst things are the actual viewers themselves, who get so invested in the lives of people they don't even know, that they neglect their own families. I mean, who constantly refreshes their YouTube feed because they're anxiously waiting on an update from strangers' lives? It's just weird. Then they feel like they basically own that family and can all but demand them to release the content THEY want, regardless of whether that family feels comfortable with it. And in this case, these crazy viewers threaten to COME AFTER THEM and their KIDS?!?! Yes, what happened was horrible, but some of these people looked like they lived in their parents' basements, their houses are filthy, etc. They really need to touch grass and sort their lives out before they get so involved in some else's. But at the same time, those vloggers basically asked for it, although the children (who are the real victims)....didn't.

It's just gross and disgusting, and the only way to prevent these tragic things from happening, is to stop watching it. Stop giving these people your views, time, and money. Unlike a lot of the comments I saw in this documentary, I don't wish harm on this family, or the parents. I hope they learn from this experience, and stop putting every aspect of theirs and their children's lives online. I pray they learn to actually enjoy the moments, instead of seeking to profit from them in some way.

The documentary uses many editing cliches that have been overdone by the big streamers for about 10 years now. The ticker showing a video's view count rising rapidly. The breaking of the 4th wall when people are being interviewed. It's extremely boring. The first episode take roughly 50 minutes to say: 1) Vloggers are a thing. 2) People really like this particular family vlogger. 3) They might have enjoyed the attention from vlogging too much. That's it. You just saw the first episode. It is a sad reminder that many YouTubers these days can craft better documentaries than Netflix and HBO, with .1% of the resources.

As Episode 1 of "An Update on Our Family" (2025 release; 3 episodes ranging from 43 to 50 min) opens, we are introduced to Myka and James Stauffer, who painstakingly vlog on the YouTube family channel, going back to 2013. After 3 kids of their own, the couple decides to adopt a special needs boy from China. At this point we are 10 minutes into Episode 1.

Couple of comments: this is the work of director Rachel Mason, who just recently directed the outstanding (if tragic) documentary "Last Take: Rust and the Story of Halyna". Here Mason examines the phenom that is family vlogging, and as it turns out (wait for it!), things are not quite as they seem. This is not the first documentary looking at this issue. But as it turns out, all of it is just an appetizer for what plays out in Episode 3, when the Stauffers adopt a young boy from China. I won't say more about it so as not to spoil. I must admit I have never heard of this story before, nor am I all that familiar with the multiple family vlogs that apparently exist out there, all hoping to get enough subscribers that YouTube and sponsors will pay them handsomely, but raising the obvious ethical question of what these parents are thinking about making so much of their children's lives available to the public at large without the children's conscious consent. Apart from the interesting ethical issues raised by the documentary, in retrospect all of this could've been handled in far less that the almost 2 1/2 hrs. Running time of the 3 episodes.

"An Update on Our Family" started streaming on Max not too long ago, and I stumbled on it the other night, I watched all 3 episodes in a single setting. This mini-series is currently rated 100% Certified Fresh on Rotten Tomatoes, which is far too generous in my opinion. If you are curious about the phenom that is family vlogging on YouTube or about adoptions of special needs kids from overseas, I'd readily suggest you check this out, and draw your own conclusion.