Sweet Bobby: My Catfish Nightmare

As I watched the film, I thought about all the judgement the lady would now have to face from a lot of people hearing her story but still, it turned out to be worse than I predicted.

I didn't come here with intentions to defend Kirat because I was frustrated with her actions A LOT but I am actually more appalled by the reaction to her experience; the attacks and the total lack of empathy. So I decided to add something different.

I cannot understand why people are so extremely angry with her that she believed the story of the abuser. And I mean, extremely angry, even furious at times! It didn't happen to you. She didn't hurt you or anybody else.

The question of "how could she be that stupid?" is repeated with harsher synonyms, even though the main reason is provided in the film multiple times: Kirat was born and raised in a family and culture that believes getting married and having children are one of the best and most important things in life. I don't believe that at all but I accepted the crazy thought that there are women with different goals and priorities than mine ;) Kirat explained what she felt at that time: inside and outside pressure to be like others in the community, fear of being too old to have a baby, being judged, disapproved and simply alone. It's nothing new and uncommon that she was easy to be manipulated and abused in that situation.

If you have never met a smart person struggling to get out of the abusive relationship and if you didn't check but you know you could have never ever been manipulated and exploited by a close person nobody would even think of suspecting, then this film should make you feel very clever and superior. But also very angry at the victim for blaming a particularly twisted perpetrator. But I wish you didn't watch it or at least comment unless you have some empathy ;)

Cathfishing is awfull and this lady didn't deserve it... However... 9 years until she realised what is going on? Took me 9 minutes to know the whole story. How many silly excuses can one accept and keep goin? Anyways.. The documentary itself is extremely long and except the age of the protagonist for each year included in the catfishing we don't get much information. We learned who did it (but that is super obvious from the start) and how sad and devastating it was. The rest is reading a whole lot of texts and listening to voice messages. The story itself is worth 5 minutes. Well kids, be carefull... people on the internet are sometimes someone else! Shocker.

Kirat falls for a man named Bobby, who seems to enjoy a jet set lifestyle, unfortunately the relationship remains an online one for years, and when a meeting is arranged, there's always an excuse.

People are calling her out on stupidity, naivety and more, I get that, but I'd say it's worse than that, I'd call her out on need, a desperation to be loved, and on that basis, I'd say what happened to her was cruel.

For a documentary it's just too long, it really does lag in the middle, if it was punchier, it would have been so much better. It's definitely an interesting story, though I feel that most people, self included will be wondering just how on Earth it happened, after four years.

I struggled to understand the whole point of the catfish, there was nothing financial, it just seemed twisted, what did they hope to gain, it should have resulted in some sort of prosecution.

Bizarre isn't the word.

6/10.

I feel this documentary would have been better if it had covered a few women or men who were catfished under similar circumstances, instead of just one person.

While the story of Kirat is compelling, I feel it couldn't really fill nearly 1.5 hours. It just felt too stretched out and repetitive at times.

Alternatively, had the documentary also interviewed the fake Bobby or a few others who whose identities were stolen, then I think it would have been really interesting.

Of course, that might have been too difficult, given the sensitive nature of the events. Still, it would have been useful to the audience to understand better what and why it happened.

Definitely a cautionary tale for all.

So an hour and half and we dont get to know how close this cousin was to her or how their relationship was growing up or how the family reacted and tried to hold her accountable!! Seriously?? Very poor effort and ofc dnt get me started on the desperate not so pretty girl who let a fake profile work her for 9 years and got engaged to it! Like plz!! No phone call no selfies!!

She is extremely gullible that even after she went to his house she still didn't get around it 😄 ried to hold her accountable!! Seriously?? Very poor effort and ofc dnt get me started on the desperate not so pretty girl who let a fake profile work her for 9 years and got engaged to it! Like plz!! No phone call no selfies!!