Somewhere Between

This documentary is wonderful. If you have any interest in international adoption and how adopted children adjust and grow up in a different culture, this is a great watch. I cried! God bless the wonderful families who open their hearts and homes to children in need.

I remember putting "Somewhere Between" (2011) on my IMDb watchlist as soon as I found it in the trailer gallery, but for some reasons I didn't watch it until now. Now, more than an hour after the film's finished, I struggle to arrange my thoughts and I guess it has to do with the fact that I'm also adopted from China (to Swedish adoptive parents). The unsatisfying knowledge of never being able to get to know my biological parents has stuck with me for years but has almost dissolved. Watching Haley meet her biological parents was fascinating, and as Ann I felt a sting of envy. I guess what I want to say is that I'm very happy to have watched "Somewhere Between" and it left me hopeful for the future. This is an important documentary everyone should see, adopted or not, as it deals with coming to terms with one's identity!

What is it like to be a little girl, flown out of China with some sense of past home, place and life, then adopted and raised as an American in a secure home with love and good parenting? This skillfully-made documentary puts you in the shoes--no, the skins--of four young women who, in the words of one, are like bananas, yellow outside and white inside. They are all bright, well-educated, hard-working, and grounded, but something is still missing in their lives.

Just what should China mean to them? Is it the tiny but tantalizing possibility of finding a birth parent, with the surprises that might bring--a story that has been told many times? Is it the sense of a place where they visibly fit in? Is it the need to share their feelings with other kids like themselves? And what of the lingering feeling that, before they were adopted, they were rejected? You will experience all these things alongside these young women, as they travel to Europe and China, grow, and open up like flowers. Is it enough to feel Chinese, or must she feel like a Dai (minority) person because she looks like one? Where does that lead her? What does it feel like to be in the stark orphanage that she dimly recalls? And what does she feel when she sees a bright little girl like she was, but trapped in a box in that orphanage because of a disability that could be treated?

I agree with Los Angeles Times reviewer Kenneth Turan, whose professional review I commend to you, that only a stone would not be moved by this film.

First, I want to say, I am not an adoptive parent, nor am I adopted myself. I have met someone who has adopted a girl from China, and am aware of the issues that the one child rule raises for girls in China.

Before this I saw a documentary, "National Geographic: China's Lost Girls" which I think is a great film to start with for understanding the situation, before you become so involved in these personal stories.

I don't believe only a certain type of person can enjoy this film, but I can see how it would help. I personally prefer dramatic social documentaries instead of fictional dramas, because I feel like I am really getting to know someone and what they have been through. When I cry, I am not crying because of a plausible emotional situation, but I am crying tears for another person.

This film is incredibly moving. You hear what it is like to be an American, raised by white parents as a Chinese born girl. You get to hear some of their tales of facing racism, and feeling like an outsider, as well as how glad they are to have the loving family and opportunities they have as middle class adopted Americans.

You get to see one disabled girl get an opportunity to be adopted, as well as the filmmaker's video of when they adopted their daughter. You can see how terrifying it is to be a Chinese girl handed over to white parents, while at the same time seeing how much love these parents have for their new little girls.

One girl wished to find her birth family, and was lucky enough to do so. It is an extremely moving situation when you get a glimpse of how much her birth family truly loves her.

This film raises questions that all adopted people have to ask themselves, about whether they want to learn their heritage and what that means to them. Certainly, everyone has to choose their own path and what is important to them in life.

This film encapsulates what it is to be an American to me. It doesn't matter what you look like, or your language or where you were born. It matters that either you or your family or whomever made a choice for you to be a part of a culture that has no rules or boundaries. Where we embrace our similarities and differences as people of this world. It's truly a beautiful idea, this nation, where we can come together and see where we came from and know wherever we go, we take this journey together.

The Chinese government's 'one family/one child' policy which began in 1979 had a serious unintended consequence. Because families were told they could only have one child, many families began abandoning their girls. After all, they reasoned, families NEED a boy--they don't need girls (a similar problem has occurred in India, by the way). But, what can they do with all these little girls? Well, there were lots of families around the world who were eager to adopt many of them. This film is about five Chinese girls who were adopted by Americans and chronicles their lives and struggles. It brings up many interesting topics, such as the desire by some to try to locate their birth parents, fitting in with American and Chinese culture and many others. All this is quite interesting--and you really found yourself feeling for the girls. Because of this, a few times I could feel a few tears welling up--so be sure to have some Kleenex handy.

By the way, if you do see the film, you be left wondering a few things, such as how is the girl with cerebral palsy doing today as well as how did the one family have four kids when the government ordered that you could only have one. Thought-provoking, that's for sure.