Hochzeit wider Willen

I saw Ronit Elkabetz in The Band's Visit and wanted more. I certainly got more in this movie - much more.

Zaza's (Lior Ashkenazi) parents are trying to get him married and he makes the rounds visiting all the eligible females. However, Zaza only wants Judith (Elkabetz), a divorcée with a child. Why wouldn't he? Even his father admits she is hot - and she truly is! The whole family arrives at her apartment and act like complete jackasses in their effort to split them up. They accomplish their mission in an unexpected manner, and Zaza is forced to marry a woman he does not love to make his parents happy.

That's what happens when you are castrated. How is he going to make grandchildren? Elkabetz was magnificent. I want more!

Absolutely superb film, concise and to the point.

One of the things that I liked the most is how the writer/director, takes an obviously ethnic film and presents it in a way where people around the world can empathize even if they know nothing about the jewish culture or customs.

The emotional themes presented in this film are mostly universal, when it comes to marriage, in my opinion a lot of factors come into play no matter what culture you come from, and this film portrays in some ways how silly it all is.

If you don't mind the subtitles, is a great film, has great characters and a very interesting story line, although is very graphic at times (Steamy love scenes) be forewarned if you don't like to see nudity, is not your conventional hollywood soft porn b movie.

Enjoy the film with friends, it's one of those that makes you ask all the right questions.

This is a charming little film that depicts very well the sectarian differences within the Israeli community. Although the contrary of a feel good movie, the script of Hatuna Meuheret is very light and the film contains even some hilarious moments camouflaging the underlying sadness and bigotry. Wonderful acting especially by the actors who play the parents of the groom to be. Moshonov, who plays the father of the groom, had actually learned Georgian for the part and speaks nothing else the entire film. Pretty amazing!

This movie doesn't seem like it should be that fantastic, as the tradition-versus-modernity relationship topic is well-trodden in foreign films to say the least, but I absolutely couldn't take my eyes off of this well-acted, well-scripted work. Zaza's parents steal the show, both comically and tragically as a couple unable to fully confront the "elephant in the room", the re-opening of their own relationship scars caused by witnessing their son's own struggle. Meanwhile Lior Askenazi fills out his role brilliantly as the entangled groom-to-be, whose only escape from his unsolvable dilemma is to sink as deeply as possible into his aloof, impulsive persona. Also, Askenazi's character reminds me uncannily of my friend Mike Goldstein, so Mike, if you're reading this, see this movie immediately! And the same goes for everyone else. Yasher Koach!

While I absolutely loved the movie and found it to be both funny and bittersweet, I write here to differ with other displayed comments. The part of the conservative Georgian community shown in this Israeli movie is most certainly NOT matriarchal. The problems that the male protagonist experiences are NOT due to women controlling the society. The reason his family doesn't want to allow him to be with the woman he loves is because it is a *patriarchal* society, where an older, divorced woman with a child -- no matter how loving, intelligent and beautiful -- is viewed through a sexist lens as damaged goods.

Anyone who watches the early scenes where a 17-year-old girl is trotted out as goods for matchmaking purposes and the two male heads of the family control the proceedings, should realize that this is a patriarchal society. Don't be misled by the fact that the professional matchmaker is a woman and that the hero's mother is a firm believer in sexist customs; if some women didn't hold sexist beliefs, sexism wouldn't exist. Note that the 17 year-old's mother is a widow, but her uncle controls the matchmaking decisions instead of her mother. The male protagonist is harmed by *patriarchal* customs, make no mistake. These customs harm both women and men.