Big Boys Don't Cry

This is an extremely difficult but I think necessary watch. It depicts the horror of abject physical, mental, and emotional violence, and abuse, torture and evil neglect on innocent children in a care home. It is extremely hard-hitting and pulls no punches in the recounting of Paul Connolly's story.

Michael Socha gave an exemplary performance in his portrayal of the tragic childhood that Paul endured and his nightmares in adulthood as a survivor dealing with lifelong trauma that can only ever be managed but never cured.

The director was superb in showing the viewer the resilience that Paul was able to find amidst his pain, tremendously helped by the love of his wife to be, who took the time to listen and understand and for which kindness, empathy and love can move mountains.

I wept when she hugged him as this may well have been the first time he had ever been given tenderness of any kind. From that point onwards he was able to be safely vulnerable and tell his story.

Thank You Paul for doing so and shedding light to that part of mankind that must NEVER remain hidden...

This is a film, based on the real life story of Paul Connolly, that powerfully depicts how adults in authority abused young children throughout their childhood in a local children's home.

The production team did an amazing job in taking us back to the late 1970's and highlighting the horrors that Paul, his best friend Liam and the other kids in their dorm went through.

The cast and crew have delivered a chilling version of Paul's story and its unbelievable how this abuse continues behind closed doors in 2022.

I had the honour of going to the film premier in Chelmsford, Essex where Paul and the executive producer Richard Hart held a meet and greet Q & A afterwards.

We were given an insight into the demons that Paul carries with every single day. He explains that love from his wife and children have helped him deal with them on a daily basis but that they never disappear.

The message is made loud and clear and good luck to the children charities trying to help 100's of kids going through the same abuse on a daily basis.

Gritty drama based on a true story of child abuse in a childrens home in the 70s and 80s. Jacko as a damaged man shows how his childhood has affected him as an adult but how things can turn around.

Acting was superb. At times upsetting to watch and heart breaking scenes .

The filming was brilliant. Unfortunately more and more cases of historic child abuse are being reported .

Paul Connolly aka Jacko is a brave man telling his story and helping others as a result. Am so glad his outcome was different than many others and he had had the chance to lead a life worthy of him . He deserves a huge hug.

I'm sorry, I hardly ever write a negative review because as an aspiring filmmaker I know how much time, effort and money people put into independent productions, but it has to be said this a great opportunity missed.

I feel sorry for the two leads as I've seen them before and know how natural and talented they are at acting, but it goes to prove you can't outact a badly written script.

The dialogue is cheap and corny and as a person who came from this background I can tell you this is not authentic in the slightest. I don't know for sure but I can only assume the director and writer did not come from this background and tried to make a project about a subject that they knew nothing about.

It's full of cliches and grinding repetitive cutaways in a desperate attempt to create artistic symbolism. You will know what I mean when you watch it.

The movie has huge pacing issues too and jumps back and forth between past and present for reasons best know to no-one except the writer. An experienced script supervisor would have been money well spent on this production and more money spent in the sound design as overall it the lack of it makes everything seem bland and boring.

Overall it comes down to bad direction from a badly written script. Hopefully they can learn from their mistakes for their next production. But then again they got it on Netflix, so what do I know 😊

This film literally broke my heart. Its portrayed in an incredible way that opens you up to a deeper understanding with regards to the mental scars left by atrocious acts such as these against children.

I cannot imagine what it was like for these children, children that had no one else in the entire world to care for them. Abused physically, mentally & sexually. The things that these disgusting carers (a far cry from) made them believe, things they took into their later lives.

The sentence for such things should be undoubtedly increased. Crimes against children should be met with the death penalty and nothing less.

I commend you Paul, for being able to shine a light on this.

Sending love to you and your family.