polyamory

Non-monogamous dating is all about nuance. Polyamory means you can have more fluidity and flexibility in your relationships AND it’s okay to have standards for yourself on how you want your relationships to look and feel. Someone’s way of doing polyamory could be completely valid AND it could be incompatible with yours. Someone’s time/energy levels could be completely understandable and explainable AND not enough for you or what you’re looking for. For more tips on self-advocacy in...

There are lots of questions I want to ask when I'm getting to know someone new in a dating context. The trick is to ask things playfully and to insert these questions at organic points in the conversation so it feels less like an interview, or worse, an interrogation. What kinds of vetting questions do you have when you're dating? If you need advice, resources, or support for your non-monogamous journey, book a peer support session with me for personal guidance. For more content, my Patre0n...

Reality check: sometimes your partner is the problem. I said what I said. If I had a penny for every single time I had a client who came to me with a metamour problem that turned out to be a partner problem, I'd have a lotta spare change! And, even in situations where it is actually your metamour that is the problem in the dynamic, your partner still has a responsibility to respect and defend their relationship with you, and to address that with them just as much as you do. If you need...

If you're a polyamorous person who is struggling with criticism from your family, friends, or peers, the internet, etc for being polyamorous, or if you're feeling down about the relative lack of acceptance of polyamory in society generally, I'm here to remind you that the vast majority of the time, haters (of any kind) are projecting their own unresolved issues onto you and their hatred is nothing to do with you personally. People are often threatened by what they don't know, and get...

As a polyamorous person, I've sometimes run into situations where I COULD start or continue a friendship with someone, but I choose not to for a variety of reasons. It was a process of getting in touch with my needs and articulating my boundaries to people, but I do think the flexibility of polyamory has allowed me to take up more space. When I came across this post by @goddess.khali it really resonated, because for a long time I've felt this weird pressure to pretend I want to be friends...

Today (Feb 28) is Metamour Day! 💕 Here’s a metamour themed meme dump to celebrate your partner’s other partners on this special day 🎉

My only requirements in polyamory: honour our agreements, renegotiate them if the existing ones don't work, be a respectful and communicative and kind person, and work on yourself so we can consistently show up to be better people for each other. Beyond that, you can literally do whatever you want with other people. Cred @missaudreyarrow Need advice, resources, or support for your non-monogamous journey? Book a peer support session with me for personal guidance, or join my Patreon for...

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