You Hurt My Feelings

2023
R
1h 33m

IMDb RATING

6.5/10

16K

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A novelist's longstanding marriage is suddenly upended when she overhears her husband giving his honest reaction to her latest book.A novelist's longstanding marriage is suddenly upended when she overhears her husband giving his honest reaction to her latest book.A novelist's longstanding marriage is suddenly upended when she overhears her husband giving his honest reaction to her latest book.

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IMDb RATING

6.5/10

16K

YOUR RATING

POPULARITY

4,378

667

See production info at IMDbPro

Awards
- 1 win & 8 nominations total

Trivia
In a 2023 interview with Filmmaker magazine, Nicole Holofcener spoke about the personal thoughts and feelings that inspired the film: "A lifetime of wondering if people are lying to me inspired the idea. And when they don't lie, can I cope with that? I guess my experience of being vulnerable to other people's opinions about me and my work, and the fact that my work is so autobiographical. My movies feel like they're me. I really feel like they are so close to my personality and values and the things I think and worry about. And the characters-at least one usually-are so clearly based on me. And if they don't get it, can they get me? Can I also live with the possibility that they don't get it, or like it, and still love me? But yeah, sometimes I can cope with it well, and sometimes I can't. I still want approval, of course. Don't we all?"

Goofs
In the first scene when Julia Dryfus visits her son in a weed shop he takes a donut and seconds later his donut has a good chunk bitten out of it, but 11 seconds later it's whole again.

Quotes
Alice: You know nice is not a nice word.

Connections
Referenced in Amanda the Jedi Show: I Watched 45 Movies in 1 Week | 'Talk to Me' and the Best Movies of Sundance 2023 Explained (2023)

Soundtracks
Tattoo
Performed & Written by Henry Hall
Courtesy of Henry Hall Music

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Featured review

7/10

Privileged Manhattanites Have Trouble with the Truth

It was hard to figure out what exactly the takeaways were from this casually paced 2023 comedy, but director/screenwriter Nicole Holofcener appears to prefer it that way because she has a uniquely ramshackle way of depicting the messiness of life through her comically flawed characters. The meandering plot focuses on a tightly knit group of upscale Manhattan narcissists basking in a culture of positivity only to fall apart when each is confronted with honesty. That's what happened to the central couple when Beth, a marginally successful novelist, finds out her failing therapist husband Don hates her latest book draft but doesn't have the temerity to tell her. Julia Louis-Dreyfus starred in Holofcener's superior "Enough Said" and plays the novelist here with her trademark wit intact. The rest of the expert cast perform in a typical Woody Allen-like deadpan manner including Jeannie Berlin as Beth's irascible mother and Michaela Watkins (she reminds me of Kathryn Hahn) as Beth's acerbically evasive decorator sister.