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Lots of people in the gay and straight press berating this film for being too "fluffy" and making light of an important subject. The film reminded me of Kellogg's Frosted Mini Wheats.

Let me explain ... when I was a kid, I would fight any attempt by parental figures to get me to try any nutritious, whole grain cereal like Shredded Wheat. Even when told I could sprinkle sugar on the big pad of shredded wheat, it had about as much appeal to me as chewing on a piece of wood. But when they came out with Frosted Mini Wheats, smaller bite-size shredded wheat with sugar frosting on one side, it made it palatable enough for me to try.

I think that's what this made-for-TV movie was striving to do (and mostly succeeded): to take a BIG issue that isn't palatable to most people out there (gay marriage), sugar-coat it (do a fluffy comedy with stars popular to many TV viewers), and serve it up in small portions over a two hour period. IMO, this approach had the potential to educate people MORE about the issue than a gaggle of gay rights advocates and GLAAD spokespeople giving speeches could ever hope to do.

And the message *was* definitely there, though sugarcoated and inserted in small portions throughout the two hours on A&E: (1)that "civil unions" are better than nothing but fall far short of marriage in terms of equal rights and protections, (2) the fact that a majority wants something doesn't mean it is right, and even some elected officials who may personally feel that same sex marriages should be allowed are often forced into pandering to the conservative majority in this country in order to stay in office, (3) that it is likely that you have a gay or lesbian member in your family, although they may not be "out" to you, because they suspect a negative reaction (which is caused, in no small part, by the fact that so FEW of us are out to everyone, so many people don't get to actually "know" anyone who is openly gay), 4) that even some gays have a problem reconciling the concept of committing to another man "till death do us part", mostly because we have been conditioned by society not to see that as an option, and (5) just KNOWING a family member or friend is gay is different than accepting them without reservations (illustrated by the interaction between Stamos'character and his straight brother, played by Eric Dane.)

As far as the "gays on strike" concept goes, as ludicrous and unlikely as that was portrayed in the film, it still made the point that there are a hell of a lot more of us around than people think, and (contrary to what that cartoonish TV reporter thought) we are not all hairdressers, decorators and florists, but pretty much cover the entire gamut of professions and industries, making up a fairly good size chunk of this nation's economy. In the film, the "gay strike" looked like it would make it impossible to put on a big wedding, even when the event was to be held at the home of the governor of the state.

I got that some of the humor was deceivingly tongue-in-cheek, such as the magazine covers and newspaper front pages signifying that the "strike" was picking up nationwide support. If you look closely, the content of each page matches the stereotype of that publications: sensationalism for the NY Post, a fashion spread for Out, Stamos standing shirtless on Genre, as a rock star for Rolling Stone, etc. A few memorable lines (e.g., when the director on a news show decides to join the protest, the anchor repeats what he sees on the TelePrompter: "Up next, I'm out of here too, a**wipes!") I also thought that the choice of "It's Not Unusual (to be in love with anyone)" as the first song we hear at the wedding party was clever, a connotation of that song I never thought about before.

Was it a great movie? Hell, no; it was a tacky and cheaply made as MOST made-for-cable films today. Despite a few cringe-inducing scenes (his singing, pointing out that this was a good day for him to picket and show off his calves, etc.), John Stamos did a good job overall in the role of a non-stereotypical gay man (certainly as good as, or better, than anything we've ever seen on "Will & Grace"), as did Sean Maher as his lover (who wasn't sure if he was ready for marriage). But it wasn't meant to be a documentary, wasn't meant to intelligently argue the pros and cons in the gay marriage debate. It was meant to entertain the average American cable viewer and - along the way - perhaps spoon-feed them some aspects of the issue they might otherwise never have paid attention to hear. IMO, that makes the film worth acknowledging and worth encouraging others to see.

Wedding Wars is one of the first attempts to look at the same sex marriage struggle on a political level albeit it is done in a slyly humorous vein.

John Stamos an openly gay man is a wedding planner and he's about to perform a labor of love, he's to organize the wedding of his brother who is marrying the daughter of the governor of his state. That governor is James Brolin who in his campaign for re-election has come out against same sex marriage.

The important thing to remember here is Brolin is a fairly liberal fellow, but sees where the political current is running and decides not to swim against it. Stamos is upset with this turn of events though by someone who had been held out to him as gay friendly and decides to do something about it.

He stages his own one man strike and his withdrawal from the wedding and picketing of the governor's mansion soon gets a lot of media attention. He doesn't win the immediate political war, but he does win the renewed love and respect from friends and family, including a brother who's life was made miserable by all the fuss.

There are many things that can birth a political activist, nothing quite succeeds as when an issue involving who you are and the limits placed on your rights because of it, hits one unexpectedly. Stamos does not play a gay stereotype, he could easily have opted for that. His character grows and develops in proportion to the political awareness.

Wedding Wars succeeds in delivering the message that rights and respect are not won from the closet. It's a nice made for TV film with a timeless message.

"Wedding Wars" is a light comedy with some interesting aspects. Without being in one's face, the message it wants to project comes across clearly. As directed by Jim Fall and based on a screenplay by Stephen Mazur, the movie deals with a current issue that has divided America: the right of gays to get married. It is puzzling how people secured in their own sexuality can get so adamant in the way they condemn a group that has been so discriminated for being different.

The story centers on two brothers, Ben and Shel Grandy. Ben is getting married to the governor's daughter. The father is opposed to the idea of gays getting married. Shel, who is involved with a male assistant district attorney, comes out to Ben, as well his own parents, and to the rest of the community. As a way to protest their being chastised for standing out, Shel calls for a strike just before the wedding is scheduled to take place. Only when Ben realizes that his brother is a good person and learns to accept him, things go back to normal.

I was surprised by John Stamos' take on Shel. He gives a sensitive reading to his character. Eric Dane is also effective as Ben, the straight brother whose life goes into turmoil just before getting married. James Brolin has a couple of good moments as the governor.

The film is entertaining without being offensive.

This film is about a gay man demanding equal marriage rights, and starting a gay rights movement by accident.

The film is so much fun to watch! It is light hearted and fun, despite approaching such a controversial subject. The plot is sweet and fun. Imagine all gays on strike! Initially the film makes fun of the stereotypically gay occupations, but it is shown that the strike quickly cascades into all aspects of the society. Yes, anyone around you can in fact be gay! The jokes are funny and work well. The cast work together so well, that it gives a vibrant feel to the film. I am impressed by Shel standing up and defending himself, and Maggie's supportive attitude over the whole matter. Coupled with Ted's reluctance towards a lifetime pledge, I think the interaction of the characters are as real life as can be.

It presents arguments on both sides of the movement, but understandably more vocal on the pro-gay marriage side. It highlights that love has no boundaries; homosexuality is not by choice. A positive message is conveyed in a balanced and non-radical way.

I really connected with this film. The ending touched me a lot. I really enjoyed watching this film!

John stamos, heart-throb, and sean maher are shel and ted. When maggie gets married, she hires the groom's brother to be the wedding planner. Her father (james brolin) happens to be the governor... who doesn't approve of gay marriage, and was actively working against it. Lots of talk of gay rights and same sex marriage, which wasn't legalized in all fifty united states until 2015. It's a bit too light and fluffy for my taste, but if you wanted to make it palatable for all, it had to be fun and entertaining to get everyone to just watch. It's pretty good, and ends on a high note, so that's a win. Men kiss and men dance together. And that was pretty good for the time. Directed by jim fall. Story by stephen mazur.

Great acting, bad story.. Very predictable and not romantic. Too bad..

This is a made for TV movie that is just silly. The message was important at that time but the characters are just not believable in the roles they play. The acting is mechanical and the script a bit too predictable. Was not that enjoyable or funny.

When I heard that John Stamos was going to be playing a gay man in a new A&E movie, I was a bit perplexed. Stamos normally plays the macho alpha male...could he play a convincing gay man. Yes...why yes he can! His performance as Shel, a party planner, is some of his best work, ever. He's sexy and vulnerable, funny and earnest all at once. It would be really easy for this movie to teeter over the line from slightly campy to really silly, but Stamos helps keep things in balance.

Opposite Stamos is Eric Dane as Shel's brother, Ben. Ben is a rather uptight campaign manager for Maine's fictional Governor, Conrad Welling (played masterfully by James Brolin). Ben also happens to be engaged to the Governor's daughter, Maggie (played by Bonnie Somerville). While planning Ben and Maggie's wedding, he discovers that Ben wrote the Governor's speech in favor of constitutionally banning same-sex marriage. The resulting battle mirrors the real-life battles being waged over this issue, but is a lot funnier. It's cliché to say that this movie has a lot of "heart," but that's exactly what it has. A lot of that heart is provided by Sean Maher as Shel's boyfriend Ted, who isn't quite sure how he feels about the whole situation.

Without belittling the issue of same-sex marriage, Wedding Wars is able to take a complex and controversial subject and looks at it with humor and warmth. Don't miss it!

'Wedding Wars', a well meaning but schlocky American movie about developing tolerance & support for gay marriage. Well meaning but very hammy & cliché ridden. Life amidst the well heeled republican wealthy types as gay bother strikes in support of gay marriage. A well intentioned film with a good message but presented in a very formulaic way. Very basic & simplistic. Not a film to shine a complex story or actors.

Less fluffy than a Lifetime movie, less silly than a Will and Grace episode, and less in your face than an Aaron Sorkin production, this surprising little TV film really hit the right note. I expected it to be background noise while I wrapped holiday packages, instead, I found myself putting the wrapping paper down and watching as these fairly real characters went through the delicate dance that makes up weddings, brotherhood and gay rights in our contemporary world. Eric Dane found his niche, as he has of late, as the man who wants to do the right thing but has to get past himself to do it. Bonnie Somerville is the kind of warm person you want to know, and James Brolin a polished but "real" politician. Extra stars for John Stamos, who comes off completely comfortable in the role of a gay man who is neither flaming nor hiding, but simply "is". Smiles and kisses to Sean Maher of Firefly fame, for playing an engaging, sweet, and interestingly faceted boyfriend. HUGE thanks to A&E for airing a film that talks about gay marriage. I cannot imagine how this delicate story could offend anyone, but have a sneaking suspicion that most of the other networks would have tsk-tsked it right out the door. Enjoyable, engaging, and worth a look. I'd watch it again, and I'd recommend it...I have, in fact. Well done.

The added features on this very entertaining DVD of the brisk and light comedy WEDDING WARS bear watching: the producers, director and actors make the case for the approach of this quality film in tackling the issue of rights for gay marriage in a manner that could not offend anyone and at the same time create a more serious vantage from which to view the controversy. It is the only time in the 'film' that politics is the issue, a factor that makes the actual viewing of the story far more powerful. Credit the writer Stephen Mazur and director Jim Fall for a creating a frothy, fun story that has much more at its core than just entertainment.

Ben Grandy (Eric Dane) works as the campaign manager for the Governor of Maine (James Brolin) and proposes to the governor's daughter Maggie (Bonnie Sommerville). The wedding will be at the waterside mansion of the Governor and when the need for a wedding planner is raised, Maggie insists they ask Shel Grandy (John Stamos), the openly gay brother of Ben, who as a party planner has always dreamed of doing a wedding. Shel is in a successful relationship with state prosecutor Ted (Sean Moore) who remains in the closet for career reasons. Shel jumps at the chance to do the wedding, hoping that in some way this event will mend the schism with his big brother who has been distant since Shel informed him he was gay. All goes well until Ben writes a speech for the Governor in which the Governor states he is against gay marriage. Shel is stunned, gathers up his plans for the wedding and begins a private strike for gay marriage, a strike that with television and media coverage soon spreads across the entire USA, the result being the closure of beauty salons, florists, restaurants, limo services (and all the stereotype gay run businesses, unfortunately). The crisis is ultimately resolved in a humorous yet very touching manner and to reveal more would diminish the impact for the viewer.

John Stamos is superb as the radical Shel, but everyone in the cast is completely professional - James Brolin, Eric Dane, Bonnie Sommerville, Sean Maher, Claire Welling, Sean McCann, Jane Eastwood, Linda Kash, etc. The production qualities are polished, the story flows along at a fast clip, and in the end there are moments of truth that poignantly emphasize human rights to happiness for everyone. Would that there were more films of this caliber to deliver social comment without the preaching so often associated with message films. It is a delight to watch. Grady Harp

John did a wonderful job as a gay man who stood up for what he believed. Shel(Stamos)is asked to plan his brother's(Eric Dane) wedding to the governor's daughter. The problems begin when Shel finds out that his brother doesn't believe that gay couples should not have the same rights as straight couples. That cause him to make a stand for what he believes in, and he goes on strike to protest the governor's position. He slowly begins to gain support from people around the country who feel the same way as he does. John's a great actor who doesn't always get the respect that he deserves. Everyone should see this film as it handles a tough issue in a light-hearted way, without it being tossed in your face. A fresh, funny and enjoyable film. Very well written. Bravo John!

At first glance, one might think this is a purely gay movie. If you define a gay movie as the presence of gays and gay relationships, then it might be, as you define it. But actually it is more than that. Wedding wars is one heck of a wholesome and sensible film with a nice story, an excellent script, and a good direction and music.

Wedding wars tells of the wedding of Ben and Maggie and the preparations attendant to it. While it may be said that the theme of the movie is all about wedding preparations, the film actually focused on politics and brother-to-brother relationships and how these affected the wedding plans.

Ben and Shel are close brothers since childhood who drifted apart when Shel confessed that he is gay. Shel thereafter pursued a party-planning career and met his lover Ted who is an Assistant District Attorney at Maine. Ben, on the other hand, became the campaign manager for Governor Welling who is running for reelection at Maine. In this career he met the Governor's daughter, Maggie whom he is now marrying.

In the course of their discussions about their impending wedding, Maggie suggested that Shel be their wedding planner. Despite Ben's hesitations, Maggie prevailed and so Ben visited his gay brother, Shel who, upon learning of Maggie's request, immediately accepted the responsibility. Everything about the wedding preparations is going well as the couple-to-be and Shel really starts bonding until the incumbent Governor Welling, who, ever since, did not oppose gay relationships, made a surprising political stand on television that he is supporting a constitutional amendment banning gay marriages – with a view to gaining popularity in time for his reelection bid. Incidentally, the author of that speech is none other than Ben. Shel, upon learning this, became so disgusted with his own brother that he declared a strike and picketed at the gate of the Governor's residence just two weeks before the wedding. "Why can he plan for Ben's wedding while Shel, on his part, can never ever make plans for his own wedding someday?" The characters of the story became divided as Maggie and her Mom practically sided with Shel understanding perfectly how he felt about Ben and Maggie's father.

How far this situation will take all of them is the very meat of the story. Suffice to say that I admired the movie for its lack of pretenses. It is full of love, understanding, honesty, and a heart for others. Although the plot of the story is simple, the issues involved are of significant magnitude as it touched on political and social issues transcending beyond personal and familial matters. I really liked the way that wedding changed things for the characters

Enjoyed this film and how the entire story went around in circles trying to explain coming out of the closet, parents approval and too much comedy and making fun of a very serious subject. Kristopher Anderson,(Drag Queen #2) gave a great performance along with James Brolin,(Conrad Willing). One of the men finally came out and told his mother and father that he was gay and upon hearing this news, the mother asked the son, "Do you think because I made you watch Ice Skating on TV that this has created this situation with YOU?" Through out the entire picture you have all kinds of silly situations created just because some one is gay and Proud of how they have found themselves in this big world. Apparently the director had difficult in presenting this picture to the general public and wanted this film to entertain Straight people and the Gay Community. Have seen better pictures on this subject, but it was a nice try.

This is the best gay comedy I have ever seen; well, to tell the truth, maybe the only one. I watched it all 3 times it was on A&E and am eagerly waiting for it to be available on DVD. John Stamos does a great job playing a wedding planner and hoping to make the governor, the father of the bride, see the light about gay people being to wed. I must confess, we frequently see gay people being treated like villains, and I am guilty of that in my own novel, The Pickled Dog Caper, so it was refreshing to see all the "straight" negative forces in this story. I was hoping A&E would play it again on Valentine's Day, but they did not. None of the networks seemed to realize it was Valentine Week, as you couldn't find Casablanca anywhere, either, but I digress. I must also confess I always made fun of women who watched their romance movies and got misty, but now I understand, and regret that gay people have so long been denied that wonderful involvement in a story.

What I liked about this was that somehow it managed to remain a comedy while treating the subject of gay marriage with respect. Best exchange of lines in the movie was between the two brother which went something like Shel being "good enough" to plan his brother's wedding but his brother not supporting Shel's right to have one of his own.

The sequence with Shel and his parents was a bit forced but I can forgive this since other sequences made me laugh. Stamos plays his character as a non-stereotype and I liked his boyfriend's stance of not even wanting to get married (yet).

Highly recommended.

It is not trying to be a comedy, it is not a drama, John Stamos is Brilliant, Eric Dane is Wonderful, and James Brolin is Hysterical. The director, writer, producer and actors all need applause.

We can never get middle America to accept Gay Marriage unless we show them that we are people too. All the Gay Pride Parades will not show middle America that Gay people are people with rights too.

I have been a Radical Fairie and a Gay Rights Activist and now as a Democratic State Committee Person and a member of my Church, I am changing more peoples minds than any number of parades. I am proud member of the United Church of Christ. I believe that we need to show people that we are their next door neighbors, co-workers, cousins, aunts, uncles, bothers and sisters.

I didn't really know what the movie was about when I put it in the DVD player. I was very surprised with the content and think that it is a movie definitely worth seeing. John Stamos plays an excellent part and over all the movie comes together very nicely. Some people may not want to watch the movie because of the over all theme but they are really missing out on a great movie. It may not be a movie for everyone but makes for a great lazy Sunday. Very entertaining and makes a valid point. The actors all did a fantastic job in the role they were playing and it was good because it ended without the Governor changing his mind on what he believes to be right. The "Gays" as they say may have lost this fight but they still will try to win the war.

Nice. And not more. A tall about tensions between brothers and the happy end. Few drops of political correctness and Jon Stamos in usual actor score .An option for any Sunday evening. With interesting results. A comedy. Not impressive but without bad taste.Difficult social problems in soft skin. And the measure in all. Game with stereotypes in a sage manner. And a good cast. It is not my favorite but the idea is not very bad. And the courage to give some light to a gay story is proof of good intentions. But... Always a single nuance may define a strange reality. And this movie, likable, sake, without great ambitions is generous stereotypes. May be more ?