Hao dong xi

Wow a movie with an outspoken feminist female character? And two simps around her? Championing female autonomy and independence? That's bold in the land that calls females over 27 leftover women I guess. A country that still holds women up to patriarchal ideals of sacrificial motherhood. But anyway I think what's bold is using these concepts and ideas in the dialogues. The mentality is already very prevalent among urban women, whether they call it feminism or not.

It's funny how desperate the government has gotten trying to encourage marriage and childbearing.

Anyway, it was a fun and frustrating movie at the same time. I had terrible subtitles, probably machine translated or something and it was clearly not what was being said a lot of the times and it took from my enjoyment of watching it. It also probably made some of the characters more obnoxious or unpleasant then they're meant to be in certain scenes. The second dinner scene was very funny though, even with the bad subtitles. The one with the "feminist performing men" line. I didn't get what her ex was after with that behaviour. And I'm sure I missed a lot of the humour and the warmth again cause of the subtitles. I felt the movie's intentions and the point the characters were making, it just didn't really reach me as it should have, and I don't know if the subtitles are the only thing I can blame here.

Was that really Mark Chao? Damn...

Her Story is the kind of film where the three main characters - single mother Tiemei, her young daughter Moli and their neighbour Xiao Ye - get to talk about the experience of a first period for several minutes while a couple of male characters sit and listen without objection. It ALSO happens to be the kind of a film which topped the PRC box office for two weeks in a row.

Thus, I suspect it might be impossible for an outsider to understand the modern PRC without knowing it's now the kind of society which enthusiastically votes with their yuan for a film so feminist it makes something like Barbie or Wicked pale in comparison. Her Story gleefully namedrops the patriarchy, male privilege and structural oppression - and those are the parts which are played for laughs, as this rhetoric mainly comes from Tiemei's ex-husband. He believes this would impress her enough that she takes him back, yet it's quite transparent he doesn't really miss her as much as he misses the easy life when she was the perennially tired breadwinner.

Indeed, the truly refreshing thing about Her Story is that the romantic matters, while present, (and responsible for a good number of jokes) take a DECISIVE backseat to more prosaic concerns of Tiemei's work and the struggle to give her daughter the best start in life. This is such a massive contrast to even acclaimed Western cinema like Challengers, which did the exact opposite and where Tashi's daughter (about the same age as Tiemei's) barely registered even as an afterthought.

Here, we get a FAR more honest portrayal of what is likely to occupy the mind of a mother - from Moli's struggle to fit in with her peers from more privileged backgrounds, to her attempt to find herself in music (ultimately the dominant narrative thread) to health concerns over her eyesight. At the same time, Tiemei has to transition from being a journalist to an editor of women's magazine, when the struggles of running a profitable digital publication are seemingly as acute in the PRC as in the West.

On the other hand, the younger Xiao Ye seemingly has a more upbeat life less burdened with responsibilities - yet, as she grows closer to Tiemei and begins to take over some responsibilities of caring for Moli, we get a window into her own struggles. The conversations the three have over topics such as the meaning of a "white lie" can be surprisingly long and are often very revealing - while also managing to remain funny in a genuine way.

The only reason I'm not rating it even higher is because I saw this about a month ago, and I have to admit that in that time, some of its emotional resonance had already faded. Nevertheless, this is a definite recommendation.

The film explores the modern day challenges of women in China and especially being a single mother. On a deeper level, it explores the ability for women to courageously live the life they wish to live. The expectations placed upon them and the relationships between mothers and daughters, and between women and 'womanhood'. Extrapolate this out though it's also about people in general living within the confines of social expectations set for them instead of chasing after the things that bring them joy - and the real costs of that.

Every so often a movie leaves me with thoughts and feelings beyond the plot that makes me want to watch it again. This is one of them.

The movie feels like a kindhearted friend telling you stories about ups and downs realities of a life well lived. I found myself laughing and crying with the characters and entranced by the connections, chemistries that they shared.

Unclear to me though if watching as a non-mandarin speaker will be able to understand the nuances of what's said.

If I have one complaint about the film it would be that it tried to tackle too many themes. Because of that points it felt like some of the commentary was a bit shallow. Nonetheless, it still got me thinking and apparently now writing about it.

Delightful movie that brings up serious topics about expectations from both society and from people themselves, without being somber or bringing in antagonists. All the characters are very mature, and shine through how they introspect and deal with their own issues.

Although the main topic woven through the plot is feminism, the film shows us similarities to expectations about talent, relationships, parenthood and school. How the characters grow around these topics is the real substance of the movie, and it's put together in a way that balances humor and substance well.

What's really bolding this back though, is that there are a few moments were the writer/director let themselves get carried away and we get characters essentially dictating what we are supposed to think in that moment. This is unnecessary as the movie was already getting us to think about these topics, and it really whiplashes you out of the movie at those points.

This even happens with the Shanghai location: at some point we see her walk past the Sihang storehouse full with bullet holes from where the legendary RoC company made their last stand against the Japanese, and the dad says something about not making noodles much because they're southerners. But then later the mom just says "we live in Shanghai" to her own daughter.

Overall definitely recommend, very uplifting and likeable for a large variety of audiences.

Giving this an 8/10 rating

This is a super film from writer director Yihui Shao, which has been so popular that every showing has sold out, I finally managed a seat today and it was well worth it, this might be the best film from China this year, so I do recommend it.

This drama about a parent and daughter, the next door neighbour female trio has everything, soul searching, plenty of laughs, full on great story and acting, some very good looking shots too. Jia Song, Elane Zhong and Isabella Zeng are the main three who are on full on top form with the juicy script that is just full of delight, Zeng really steals the film and holds her own. The men are not left out, Mark Chao and Yu Zhang deliver as well, and are just plain out and out funny, and given the situations for all involved, you just have to follow the madness of the ups and downs of the cast.

As this is spoiler free, I can't write anything more on the plot, but it is such a well made film I do say it was worth seeing and worth the wait.