Nosso Segredo

This happens way too often, and it was amazing to see so many women sharing their stories. I was HOOKED from the very beginning. The number of people who just stand by and watch in all of these cases is so troubling, and it's definitely something we should learn from.

The doc was well laid out and compelling. The fact that there are so many different stories might make it feel slightly scattered, but all of the different stories is kind of the point. The issue is so pervasive.

The attorney working on the Jason Meyers case is a legend. He was one of my favorite parts. He's an amazing advocate, and he did a great job explaining the issues.

Highly recommend to women, men, parents, students, and everyone in between.

I think that some people will not understand this documentary and fall into a victim-blaming mentality. You cannot not take a 16/17 year old child to be your "Girlfriend" when you are a fully grown man ... often with a wife already .... AND be in a position of power, such as many teachers have. It requires a lot of grooming on their part. These ladies were children when this happened. The series touches on the historical sexualisation of young girls, the "Lolita" aspect, and how a predator can turn that into grooming. I'd like to see a follow up episode when Heaven Rubin gets through the next hurdle, which she has been waiting wayyyyyy too long for. Cheryl Nichols' bravery is astounding. I hope she get's the closure she needs.

I gave this series 10 stars because, regardless of style and even the details of these two stories, this kind of grooming and preying on teens happens and it damages lives. The betrayal of trust and the secret-keeping are corrosive. The more this is brought into the public eye, the better. Teenagers are not equipped with the life experience or psychological development to be considered an adult on equal terms with these older predators (not exclusively, but often older men with teen girls), especially those in a position of power. It really is a crime - morally and legally. It is the job of the school system to protect the children in its care, not to foster an environment that turns a blind eye and allows children to be hurt. People may not realize the long-term damage that can result from these relationships, but I speak from experience to say that it runs deep and is long-lasting. To come forward is an act of courage.

This docu-series is truly eye-opening and does well to call attention to a disturbing trend that, unsurprising to me, has been going on for some time. I could relate well with this doc because the central story happened in rural Texas, a culture I'm very familiar with. Grooming teenagers sexually in schools is a problem that seems to happen often under our noses. While I believe that the teachers doing this need to be exposed and held accountable, I don't believe that we should gloss over any responsibility the victims might have had in the situations. The filmmaker, Cheryl, doesn't seem to claim any responsibility for her part in the affair with her teacher. He did manipulate her as a teenager but it seems that she, if no one else, should have realized "this isn't right and he's a married man". She allowed this affair to carry on into her early 20s. I realize a young person's brain isn't fully developed until early to mid 20s but it seems that an alarm should have sounded at some point. I'm glad that the girl Heaven in Miami was able to share her story but I think this doc should have been expanded to include other accounts.

I do not believe that Tom Warrick was not sexually involved with any students as he claims. From looking at the photos, there seemed to be at least some boundaries pushed. As someone who works with young people, I would not spend much unnecessary time outside the classroom with them much less be photographed shirtless with them under my arm in bathing suits. The comments (by a white woman) about the toxicity of white men being in charge were inappropriate and irrelevant to the topic at hand. All together, this was a well-meant attempt to uncover a serious matter though I believe more time and scrutiny could have been used in the production.

I have literally never written a review for any type of media. However watching this I kept having the same thoughts and I do not see that anyone else has mentioned this. The subject matter I think is extremely important and needs to be discussed. The crimes committed by these teachers and the countless others need to be brought to light. The people who have committed these crimes need to be held accountable for their actions. Also and arguably more importantly this behavior needs to be de-normalized, de-romanticized. Which brings me to my point and why I am only giving this doc 5 stars. Really it should be a 10 star doc. However so much of the problem here lies in the romanticization and the subsequent normalization of these types of relationships. Which has been perpetuated in large part by the media. A huge example of this comes from the very same company this series is being broadcasted on. As pretty little liars came from free form. On that very show a student has a relationship with her teacher. On the show it is romantic and sort of played like a Romeo and Juliet type thing. With them just being so misunderstood. So much so that the young woman who was in that relationship ends up marrying her perpetrator (let's be clear that's what he was really). Watching that always made me feel sick and wonder how it was perceived as ok? What kind of ideas were we putting into our kids? It's no wonder this is such a widespread problem, we ourselves are making our children easy prey exposing them to ideas like that. Can we not start to hold media accountable as well? A big part of fixing this is going to lie in making sure kids know ITS NOT OK, it's not normal, it's not romantic and it's not their fault. I could go on much longer but I'll stop at this 10 stars for the doc and hopefully the start of a larger conversation. 0 stars for free form and the disgusting things they have allowed to air with no consequences. Also I know it would be hard to find a media company to air this that did not have their hands dirty with this type of stuff. However, with pll being such a recent show I honestly think it was in very poor taste to air it there. This doc should be calling them out. Not being championed by them.