Extremis

Had a real rough time with this one. I though about dying the entire time. Really jacked me up with a bad anxiety freak out. Solid watch though considering all things.

OK, at first, I was gonna write "I have no words", but actually I have quite a few words..

This is by far the saddest, but also the most important documentary I've ever seen. I really appreciate good documentaries. After seeing this one, I just can't stop crying. This really got me thinking. 24 minutes of love, hope, pain and heartbreaking scenes. It's such an important topic. I believe and hope that this will help people see that life is fragile. This can happen to anyone. We need documentaries like this one.

My thoughts go to all of the incredible persons in this project, and all of the people who goes trough the same.

So real and so viscerally hard yet compelling enough to make you feel immersed in what you're seeing. "Extremis" touches one of those hard topics we tend to avoid and hardly ever think about until it happens to us or to someone we know and care about and that is the decision one must do in order to save a family member who's dying or to pull the plug and let them go because there's nothing more that can be done. A short documentary following medical doctors, families and people at the saddening final moments.

"Extremis" makes you think about those choices and gets all those different points of view of what to do, how to react and all the doubts that comes with it. The sick person can't do much to what's happening to them, the ones here all got tubes, equipment and such to help them breathe and continue to live in a deficient way. It all boils down to the talk the doctors must have with the family members, an extremely hard talk that follows with a more difficult decision.

We follow three or four cases, and people with better understanding in medicine will get it better the patients conditions since the film doesn't establish all that much, already cutting to what's going on and what's need to be done. In a way, it was very good they did that because all we need to know is that the patients will live though not in proper conditions and their relatives are the ones who can understand all the pain that goes through, all the caring they do and if they find appropriate to continue treatment or relieve their loved ones from more suffering. As someone who've always seen through the sick/dying one perspective, this is was truly something new to me, it made me reflect to how certain I could be in making an important decision concerning a person I loved, things that, unfortunately, they won't respond or say anything unless stated in previous talks - and that's the one we tend to avoid while going on living...cause death is for the later.

A commendable work though very sad to watch. What concerns me about the project is the thin line between what is exactly real and what is staged (if there is something like that, I mean, there were times I thought it was all acting). With a longer time, it'd be interesting for us in the audience to get everyone involved, backgrounds from families and the concerned doctors, just little things that'd make this a lot better. 8/10

One of two takeaways for me. One is that this is a position that a lot of people have faced and will face in the future. Its uncomfortable to watch because it forces you to think of yourself in their shoes one day. I feel for the medical staff that are left to make decisions for the ones who cannot make those decisions themselves or don't have families.

The other is that the medical system in America needs a re-work. It makes you question if one of the factors that lead to many people finding themselves in this position is the failure of the system. $2000 for an ambulance? I too might delay my health if it means I might be too broke to live/feed my family.

I had to create an account just to write a review for 1. To criticise american medicine and to 2. Criticise these brainless reviews.

It seemed like many of the patients in the show were terminal patients whose steady decline of long-term ilnesses had lead them to the ICU. The show based a lot around the questions wheter to put the patient on a ventilator or not. In many countries it is quite easy to determine this - if a patient has the possibility of recovery to a meaningful state, they can be hooked to a machine while the body fixes itself and administered medicine works its wonders. This means for example that patients whose breathing function has declined because of a progressive untreatable disease gain nothing with ventilators. They would simply be put under anesthesia and they would die on the machine - one cannot recover to a state better than in which the person was before the acute sickness that brought them in the hospital. Many of the patients depicted indeed seemed chronically ill and the respirator does not offer to them any form of hope - yet they were put there for even months and they then finally died - not very ethical i would say.

Second about these comments criticizing the doctor for not giving more hope and trying to talk family members out of putting their loved ones on a ventilator. In response to one of these comments about key part of recovery being "hope". Thats absolute BS, key part is being realistic and managing expectations and not prolonging suffering. While there still is hope for recovery, treatment is continued of course. The doctor knew that these patients had nothing to gain and they would die on the tubes. A doctors job is not to give false hope but to clearly communicate to the family that the end is near and to take the best of it.

In short: ventilators are only for those who can get better. Terminally ill people cannot. Ventilator does not fix a heart, lungs, kidneys etc that are shutting down because of a long term illness. It can only give time for the body to heal after a sudden onset disease that is curable. Ventilators should be reserved for these people only - for the chronically ill they are a long kiss of death.