Olive Kitteridge

You could watch this series along with "Terms Of Endearment" and get a really good dose of dysfunctional family dynamics. And learn something about growing old. And that we're not all that different. You can learn a lot from tough ol' broads. Or you can resent them. The one thing we know is, they will outlive their supposed time on Earth.

The titular character is played pitch perfect by Frances McDormand. Already an old soul when we first seen her in the Coen Brothers movies, she is the epitome of hard as rock stubborn New Englander. Educated by life experiences, her harsh reality is that tragedy has shaped her into a flawed diamond. Indestructible in her set ways, she lives with regret and unknowing to her (but every clear to us) projects her resentment towards the people who actually love her. Unfortunately, in her path is her kind hearted husband Henry Kitteridge (Richard Jenkins), in a stunningly sympathetic and patient man who reaches out to help lost young girls, but does so with the distancing manner of a father. There appears a sexual predator is a foot, but that isn't Henry's nature. He is the town pharmacist who we can see may have had bigger dreams in life, but is content to fulfill his duties to the community. He's seen first as a step rug, then a sounding board, but finally…a man. All the parts of which make up a marriage in a small town community dynamic. We could've/would've/should've is pushed so far into the backburner as to cause conflict. And the developments of our youth are shaped by the overwhelming need of parents to control. You will reap what you sow. There wasn't a false moment in this mini-series. It's often painful, a lot of humor, bittersweet moments, tragedy and a lot of moments as I watched the outcome of their history turn to foreshadowed misery that I mutter "Damn…that sucks that happened." Not out of pity, but that it is a universal storyline that we all get sickened by.

There are a lot of moments of grimness. In particular, the ease of resolution and mental issues. Even as late as my own generation, mental illness was seen as an embarrassment. People were considered spazzes if they were hyperactive. Or if their parent had drug addiction or drinking problems, they'd be ignored. The kids tend to shrug that off. That's the issue though. Cause life will give us obstacles in the form of relatives or spawn. We are owed nothing, but seem to carry on this notion we're suppose to be living someone else's life. We suppress our needs, if we genuinely care about people. Lost are the times when we hold back, now is the time when people often give up too soon. Is Olive's decision to power through life unhappy the right course for you? Probably not. But it's something to be admired. This mini-series is amazing.

I love Frances McDormand and Richard Jenkins since I saw them both in Burn after reading. That was when I started to collect (and see) all movies from the Coen brothers, including Fargo, where Frances McDormand was very good. And I always see every movie which has Richard Jenkins as well. But that here was when I realized how incredibly good actors they both are, it just was magic. Like I was spying on some family somehow, you never felt it was just acting. The story was sad, and sometimes embarrassing, but it had wonderful pictures and it was so.... human. I had to keep looking. And in the end there was hope as well. So maybe I should have given more than 8 points, for the acting was definitely 10/10.

I've had some time to review the reviews of this miniseries. It would seem that the subset of posters that moan "why would anybody watch this depressing series and mean spirited" title character are predisposed to not like an excellent, and nuanced drama and see it instead as trauma. One poster went as far as to say why would they "hurt" themselves by watching this. It seems the point that this is a character study seldom found on TV was missed by those predisposed to miss it.

A few other things missed. The show details a fascinating study of interpersonal attitudes. On a surface Olive is "mean spirited", but more objectively she is a conduit of truth going her entire life stating what is fairly accurate feedback. She is highly intelligent, analytical, (Math teacher) and see's through others shortcomings, challenges, and openly comments on them. For this, in an age of non stop reinforcement, coddling, unconditional regard, she is viewed as a "witch" evil, destructive, and generally the reason all is wrong with others. Ignoring entirely the shortcomings, or very similar nihilism exhibited by almost all the other characters. Starting with her son who this viewer also saw as "mean spirited" but without any regard, and less virtue. The son seems to evaluate every adult he comes into contact with dismissively, or with lack of regard. From the outset one see's this character as one who will go through the rest of their life in therapy, blame others for their being, and while being caustic in interactions and even with peers. Including the student who Olive defended. A student she defended from cruelty, and even from her own son. The son exists as a borderline sociopath throughout. Not connected with family enough to even spend time at the dinner table. Judging and smirking in nearly every scene. Seemingly oblivious to any of his own interactional characteristics. Later in life we see the son as somebody who is a punitive rather than permissive with children and who has oddly learned to be inflexible and impatient as a parent but who now rants about the influences of Olive while doing worse to the children he rears.

Lost entirely is the son living a comparatively idyllic life on a beautiful property in Maine. A property with beach, walking paths, places for children to explore. What child wouldn't love that opportunity? Contrast this with the bombed out backyard in the neighborhood with dog feces sidewalks and urban decay that the younger couple has chosen as a place to raise children. Complete with a spouse who drinks during pregnancy because yeast is good or some such nonsense. In other words harming a child even before birth. But this same mother, despite her own obvious flaws (for instance not providing her progeny with stable fathers or stable upbringing) is flatly dismissive of Olive making her apologize to an acting out child, demeaning her, talking down to her, and figuratively with Olive put in the dingy basement room which is symbolic of imposed hierarchy. Contrast this with the beautiful property and house granted to Chris and his short lived wife. These are intentionally put in as contrasting comparisons of respective treatment.

Reasonable commentary can occur that the truly " mean spirited" actions are taken up by some of the younger people featured in the series that are entirely dismissive, mocking, and mean at least in response to Olive. Because she doesn't match the unconditional regard prototype, and she is instead, honest. Watch the series a second time and witness how many times Olive is actually wrong in an assessment. She merely lacks the white lies inherent in contrived nicety. The kind of nicety that smiles at you with forced raised lips but that curses and demeans the mother of the son at her wedding when Olive is thought not to be in earshot.

Another inter-generational prejudice is featured when the Fathers ex employee openly, and contemptuously questions the sale of the pharmacy and that they take advantage of "people like you". The disrespect was so blatant that the nice to a fault Henry was virtually forced to respond "its none of your business". The employee owes Henry his career, his opportunity, and even his wife (which Henry setup) but is openly disrespectful of him. An under riding theme throughout is a world turned upside down (or is it) of children in control, of parents getting down on their knees apologizing, and ignoring behavior at every turn. Interestingly the same Chris who viewed his parents relationship dismissively engages in a marriage that lasts a few months and in which he is sleeping in bed, while his wife curses looking for an earring on the wedding night. A couple who's relationship was over before it even started.

Interestingly the few deepest characters in the movie, including the husband, and Bill Murray, as well as the depressed young man, and the waitress, they get Olive, they get what she see's. In the end Olive saved all of them and including herself. That's the last, and integral part missed, is that Olive isn't just mean, she's a seeing savior.

I've just read some of the negative reviews about Olive Ketteridge. I thought it was obvious what we were getting into in the first 30 minutes of this brilliant mini series. Yes it's a bit downbeat. But Olive Ketteridge is about real people and real situations, and let's face it it reflects certain areas of real life. I think we've all known characters like the ones portrayed in Olive Ketteridge. All the performances are spot on. Plus there are many areas of Olive Ketteridge that made this viewer smile. So I don't see the negativity. Maybe the negative reviews come from people who wanted to see a Deloris Claybourne or a True Detctive. Olive Ketteridge is about love, loss and what ifs, and that's about it.. But it's told so well that one almost forgets that the story's so simple.

If you liked McDormand's performance in Fargo, Olive Kitteridge will surely not disappoint. I look forward to reading the book now and only wish that perhaps I'd read it before watching the mini-series. I loved much about this mini-series but most especially the straightforward way that depression is handled. Olive is a complex character (not all bad or all good) and while her behavior might be tough to swallow, McDormand treats us to a realistic portrayal of the disease of depression and how is affects every facet of her life and those around her. Some well played foreshadowing moments and times of contradictory behavior make the plot and characters more interesting. I gave it a 10/10 because this is the kind of movie I enjoy, but know that it might not appeal to everyone, especially if you just want to watch a feel good or relaxing movie. This one will challenge you to think a bit more and examine your own dysfunctional behavior (and/or that of your family) which may not be too comfortable. Also enjoyed the other characters, especially Henry and Christopher.