Quello che gli uomini non dicono

Judith Light and Peter Strauss bravely take on challenging, unflattering roles in this television drama for CBS: she as the domineering wife who verbally and physically attacks her spouse, he as the blue-collar husband and father being humiliated and abused. Issue-of-the-week family portrait from writers Selma Thompson and Jeff Andrus, its subject matter handled with a startling directness by Harry Winer. Not a pleasant watch, but effective for what it is. Fine supporting cast includes Carroll Baker, Noble Willingham, Ashley Johnson, and James Gammon. Strauss was Golden Globe-nominated for Best Performance by an Actor in a Motion Picture Made for Television. ** from ****

I've worked with battered men for over 10 years and know that this is a significant problem, but there is an even worse one. Violent mothers account for 55% of fatal child abuse, even when custody and time spent with the children are taken into consideration, according to the US Justice Dept. study, "Murder in Families." Fathers account for 8%, stepmothers/girlfriends for 9%, and stepfathers/boyfriends for 10%. We are working on building a shelter for fathers and children in Kansas City, but it is a slow process, but one is needed. Studies on domestic violence against women show that 39% of the victims are men, but you only find that out by looking at the charts that come with the studies. The summaries don't mention this, preferring to only address violence against women.

I was wondering if anyone knew where i could purchase this video. I've looked around and still cant find a store that carries it. I live in New York. I've checked blockbuster, family video, F.Y.E in and around geneva and rochester NY and have had no luck. I have also checked Amazon.com and found nothing. I eventually found it on this site which is the 1993 movie with Peter Strauss. But there was no way to purchase it from this site that I'm aware of. This is a movie that shows the other side of spousal abuse that is apparently rarely reported. I would greatly appreciate a response in my efforts to locate this film. It is a major interest of mine to investigate this topic further.

The first time I saw the movie was during the breakup of my marriage. I only got to see part of it as I could feel what he was going through as I did the same... I was in love and went through hell for 7 years because of the love I had for my wife.

I had 2 children that ended up in her care after I was thrown out and 10 years later they now live with me and understand... As they've been thrown out too because of her drinking, at the ages of 17 and 14.

I hope I can still make it up to them for not being able to prove it all in the 10 year custody battle.

I know... I didn't want to 'tell' either...

I was ashamed to let anyone know the control she had over me.

I love to watch violence just like anyone else who is a desentized freak of my generation. I thought this movie was going to like any other domestic abuse shocker, cept it was about a GUY!, i realized after the first half hour that this was as a real concern as female abuse and that it was real, it broke some mental barriers and also showed how even after the struggle and shocking abuse this man(a 9-5er)can also heal.

It was able to show reality, sadness and pain. It was a real heart tugger