Con Mum

While the villain here is obviously the mum, the real villain to me is the son. Like his mum, Graham exhibits no real joy or anger or any genuine emotion. His cold retelling the story, his limp excuses, his emotionless expression, his negligence of his wife and son are all that needs to be told. Like so many people bordering on sociopathy, Graham tells a good tale and the doc makes it seems like he's a good guy, a victim. But he's not. Heather and his son are the real victims.

While the documentary on the surface is kind to Graham, underneath you being to feel the creepiness of the man. It's not just that he and his mum look alike, they are alike in most ways. And that's the true value of the documentary. Unfortunately, not everyone will see through Graham and that's the shame.

(Same could be said for the woeful Peng. He shows this documentary is also a story of the toll of avarice coupled with naivete has on people who put themselves first.)

Hi Graham,

I recently watched Con Mum and felt compelled to reach out.

First, I want to say how deeply sorry I am for everything you went through. The emotional and financial pain you endured is unimaginable, and it's clear you carried a heavy burden.

That said, I can't help but feel disappointed by the way your relationship with your partner and son seemed sidelined. Throughout the documentary, it felt like your focus was so fixed on Dionne and the fantasy she spun that you overlooked the people who were truly there for you - your real family. She, too, belonged to your kitchen world, the place you sought refuge in, yet you forgot she was part of that very world that once gave you safety and support. To me, that felt like a painful form of indifference.

Now, it's time to take responsibility and fight to bring your family back together. No more excuses - your partner and son deserve you to show up fully. Go after them, make amends, and rebuild what was lost before it's too late.

Thank you for sharing your truth so openly. I wish you strength and courage as you face this challenge.

Take care (and remember - "take care" is not something your family owes you by default; it's something you must earn.)

With all these con related documentaries you always find yourself saying 'how are people so gullible'. Well for the first 20/25 minutes the con seemed plausible, until we find out Netflix are holding back on some of the important information.

The name of the show is a bit of a spoiler in itself. I won't be giving anything away by saying the 'Mum' is a con woman. The story is about how she dupes her 'son' 45 years after she gave birth to him and gave him away as a newborn.

He thinks he's getting the dream reconciliation, where in fact it turns into a nightmare for him and his family.

It's intriguing enough to keep you interested. You probably won't remember it in a years time.

We are used to seeing Romance scams and other types of scams but this, is different. You have to put yourself in Graham's shoes just as one would for people who were given up for adoption and yearning for that missing part of them. Unlike romance, this, is biological and hard to understand unless, you have grown up without one or both biological parent(s).

Cannot believe that woman at that age is still scamming. Certain, has done so all her life. Poor Graham.

As for those wondering why Graham seemed so non-chalant narrating the story, he has been through a lot and i wish him and family well.

Well. This is a toe-curlingly agonising watch!

Con Mum is an above average con story documentary.

A vulnerable man and his partner are expecting a baby, when an old woman comes into their lives seemingly out of nowhere. What unfolds is a story of mind-boggling amoral manipulation, greed and financial destruction. No spoilers.

The power of this show comes from the honesty of the real-life protagonists in front of the cameras. All of them, except one. We really feel for those on the receiving end, especially and particularly the vulnerable man and his family. It's appalling to watch. Shredding. Chilling.

Even so - we learn a whole lot about one of our human conditions: the need we have to want to believe. Once a scammer knows this vulnerability about us - they have us.... That's what's happened here in Con Mum.

Recommended.