The Wedding Banquet

"To thine own self be true" is more than just an oft-used platitude. It's also good advice, given that concocting and pulling off a scheme rooted in artifice is virtually assured to fail. Such is the case when a long-term gay male couple, Chris and Min (Bowen Yang, Han Gi-Chan, respectively), hatches what they believe to be an ingenious plan for carrying out a marriage of convenience involving their lesbian friends, Lee and Angela (Lily Gladstone, Kelly Marie Tran, respectively). In essence, Min, a South Korean national from a moneyed background whose US visa is about to expire, agrees to marry Angela so that he can qualify for a green card to stay stateside with Chris. In exchange, Min agrees to pay for the in vitro fertilization treatments that Lee is undergoing to enable her and Angela to have a child. It all sounds reasonable enough until Min's stern grandmother (Youn Yuh-jung), the no-nonsense controller of the family purse strings, who's thought to be unaware of her grandson's sexual orientation, decides to visit Seattle to meet Min's bride-to-be. But can the "couple" convince the aging matriarch that their upcoming betrothal is legitimate? Add to that additional complications involving Chris's reluctance to commit to Min for the long term, Angela's issues with her supportive but overbearing mother (Joan Chen) and questions about Lee's ability to successfully become pregnant, and the situation becomes a hot mess, one that threatens the security of two couples and their collective and individual plans for the future (hence the wisdom behind being truthful to oneself). Writer-director Andrew Ahn's latest feature, loosely based on filmmaker Ang Lee's 1993 release of the same name, is a touching, heartfelt romantic comedy-drama examining the kinds of challenges that same-sex couples often face in their relationships. In light of that, I must admit I was quite surprised by what turned up in the finished product, for several reasons. To begin with, the trailer for this film is very misleading, making the picture look like a campy, screwball LGBTQ+ comedy. Far from it; to be sure, the picture is far more serious and substantive than the preview lets on. But that ultimately works to the film's advantage, giving it an unexpected sense of depth that I definitely was not expecting. And that, in turn, helped to dispel the hesitation I had about wanting to screen this offering in the first place: To be honest, I was expecting to see a predictable, cliché-ridden story in the same vein as Ahn's previous feature, "Fire Island" (2022), which I despised because of all of its trite gay stereotypes, something I was not looking forward to seeing again. I'll freely admit that I was in error about that; thankfully, this film more closely resembles the artistic quality found in another of the director's previous works, "Driveways" (2020). What helps this release succeed so well are the fine performances of its excellent ensemble cast, including a break-out portrayal for Yang, who exhibits a greater range here than he's demonstrated in his previous roles, as well as the consistently solid turns by Chen, Yuh-jung and Gladstone. The film also employs humor in just the right amount, never becoming excessive nor falling prey to shopworn comedic devices, thanks to a capably penned script. "The Wedding Banquet" is truly a refreshingly unexpected treat, one of the better releases in the LGBTQ+ genre to have come out in some time. Indeed, this is one cinematic feast that's well worth your time.

I know, I know, as a gay man I was supposed to love this movie (just like I did the original). But sad to say, this remake is not very enjoyable.

They get credit for putting new twists on the plot vs. The original, but pacing is waaaaay too slow and it takes forever to get going. Quite honestly, there's very little humor. The first hour drags and is pretty boring, and it's not until the grandmother shows up that things get interesting. The grandmother, in fact, is the most interesting character in the entire movie. Dialogue is mundane and the few funny lines stand out simply because there are so few of them.

With all the talent they had on hand, this could've been so much better.

Remember the "Proposal" (2009)? Well this is a sort of derivative of that only here it is two gay couples who decide that a bit of judicious legerdemain might enable one to get a green card and another to fund some fertility treatment. You see, commitment-phobe "Chris" (Bowen Wang) has been with his wealthy Korean boyfriend "Min" (Han Gi-Chan) for years but won't marry him. This irks his partner who also has pressures from his family at home who want to bring him home to work in the family business and marry a nice girl. Meantime, best pal "Lee" (Lily Gladstone) and girlfriend "Angela" (Kelly Marie Tran) are trying to conceive via IVF but are having no luck. It would appear that the solution to both of their problems might lie in a marriage of convenience. Far-fetched? Well the best bit is yet to come as grandma (Youn Yuh-jung) arrives from Seoul determined to find out just what is going on and to protect her grandson from what she clearly suspects is some money-grabbers. It takes her about two minutes to suss things out so now the couples have to pray that she will go along with their scheme, else everything will come crashing down. There are a few funny scenes here, but for the most part if you watch any amount of American gay cinema then you will have seen this all before. Wang offers us very little new here and the plot lurches just a bit too close to the preposterous for me as the underlying pretence of the theme goes from silly to sillier and the characterisations slip effortlessly into multifarious, sometimes quite cringeworthy, stereotypes. I do hope it takes a few quid at the box office, though, because Han Gi-chan could sure use a decent meal!

Very surprised by all the positive reviews (both critics and movie-goers) of The Wedding Banquet.

My partner and I were very much looking forward to it - but were seriously disappointed.

Various reviewers described the film as hilarious, charming, heartwarming.

We did not see that movie.

It was like spending time - too much time - with neighbors who mostly converse in therapy-speak platitudes, irony-speak chatter and in the case of one of the characters, complain incessantly about their mother.

In addition to the annoying therapy-speak dialogue, the characters were not so interesting in our opinion. Angela's character (Kelly Marie Tran) was especially churlish and unappealing - it was impossible to see why Lee (Lily Gladstone) would have been in a relationship with Angela. For different reasons, it was difficult to see why Chris and Min were together.

The few interesting and thoughtful parts of the movie, in our opinion, were the scenes of Min and his grandmother.

I recall admiring the original Wedding Banquet - will watch it again to see.

I was very much looking forward to this movie and I was not disappointed I was ready to give it seven stars after only watching the first 40 minutes and in my opinion the trailer , as is often the case, would not give one a fair idea of what the true nature of it is. Sure there's plenty of comedy, but it is really a character study of the difficulties encountered in human relationships and it does that with genuine portrayals of those relationships , couples and parent / offspring, the out in the open and the repressed. The acting and story is gripping and I think you will find yourself totally immersed in them and as unlikely as some of the events may seem, the film never struggles in getting them across, comedy , yes but it deals much more with emotions and there are so many satisfying scenes where that is the primary subject.

Seven point nine stars, script acting throughout, not one person outshines the other and equal weight is given to all of them IE well written, I loved it.