Our Son

Luke is my favorite actor and I am happy to see that he is now doing more gay movies as he has been in and out of closet earlier in his career.

I was waiting with anticipation for the movie to come out for about 3 months. When it came out and I started watching it, i quickly realized it is not going to be an Oscar-worthy drama and adjusted my expectations.

With these adjusted expectations, I liked the movie. I do not follow the negative reviews (3.9 stars when i'm writing this). I think it is a solid 6 stars movie with an average plot. I have seen much worse movies with much higher rating. For gay people, they usually shoot movies that don't happen to have any plot what-so-ever or are unrealistically over-the-top (Fire Island, Summoning Sylvia, Now Apocalypse) or they are about royals (Red, White and Royal Blue, The Favourite, Young Royals, etc).

This movie is average and I actually liked that aspect. It portrays gay couple going through the motion as any other straight couple and that they have day-to-day problems like anybody else. Usually, when i wanna see a movie like that, I have to go to Asian gay cinema (Thailand or Korean boy love movies/series) and I am really getting tired of reading subtitles all the time. It was refreshing to have a movie like that made in America.

Plus, i was really surprised to see both Kate Burton and Phylicia Rashad. I am a huge fan of both and it was really lovely to see them both in this movie. <3.

I wondered, with only 1s and 10s ratings, what was going to be this movie like. This spoiled me the very first part as I was looking for some strong point of views one way or another. In fact, there is nothing controversial, it's just a nice indy movie.

Acting is quite good, characters are played well enough to get involved in the story and even choose a side.

The story was not really predictable, my friend guessed one end, and I guessed another one. So just don't trust too much those too angry or too excited reviews.

About the story, it was interesting, after all those legal battles on gay marriage and surrogacy, how a judge, how families, would behave. An inevitable subject 10 or 15 years later, now in 2023.

This is not a film with a twist, as some reviewers hope for on IMDB. It's a film about personal crossroads, growth and learning direction in life, even when you think you know it all already.

'Our Son' is all about their son and what his and their needs are as both parents have drifted apart.

This film is a slow burner, but it rewards you emotionally and maybe makes you see things as lesser 'It's a gay film' and more of how the couple could have done better for all three of them.

It's well shot, uses spaces and sets well, but does not get bogged down with showing every NY landmark it can.

Watch this one for a casual evening in, or for a Sunday afternoon movie.

Our Son is a poignant drama that resembles the 1979 film Kramer vs Kramer, featuring two divorcing New York-based dads fighting for custody of their son. The film is soapy and middlebrow, with performances from Luke Evans and Billy Porter, and Christopher Woodley as their eight-year-old son, Owen. The script, co-written by Peter Nickowitz and director Bill Oliver, portrays current gay lifestyles, from monogamous married-with-children to older men who never wanted domesticity. The film also features some lesbian characters, including Pam, Nicky's family law attorney. The film is well-received by viewers and offers a subtly shaded group portrait of gay lifestyles. Gabriel, unsure of his feelings for Nicky, must navigate separation, divorce, and custody decisions without causing harm to Owen, a resilient child. The film explores the legal implications of Owen's conception through an egg donor and surrogate, highlighting that both Nicky and Gabriel are considered fathers in Owen's eyes. While the film may feel didactic, its generosity of spirit makes the mildly preachy moments forgivable. The characters are rounded, fallible, and likable, and despite a syrupy score, it's a pleasant and engaging watch. The film's generosity of spirit makes it a pleasant and engaging watch. "Our Son" is a story of dissatisfaction and disconnection between a couple, Nicky and Gabriel, who have been committed to their marriage for nearly a decade. Gabriel's revelation forces both parties to reassess their relationship and seek divorce. The resulting divorce proceedings escalate into a heated standoff, with the main issue being custody of Owen. Nicky, who can provide for Owen but has a demanding job, decides to stay with him, while Gabriel, who has no job, decides to stay with him. The film frames the custody battle as an opportunity for Nicky and Gabriel to be honest about their desires as fathers and gay men, addressing gendered expectations and the growing family-focused LGBTQ community. These thorny topics are reflected in the film's most affecting discussions, which are often didactic due to the characters' varying perspectives on the matter. The film's portrayal of these thorny topics is a testament to the complexity of the LGBTQ community.

I enjoyed the film. Halfway through I started thinking "where have I seen this before " ? It suddenly occurred to me that it was Kramer vs Kramer from decades ago. This film still hit every emotion. It is definitely worth watching. Billy Porter was amazing! The relationship dynamics were a little bit obvious and then stopped short of any real revelation. I would have liked to have seen a bit more interaction between "daddy" , "poppa" and the child after the separation was decided. I did enjoy the interaction with the friend group during the brunch scene. It was a pretty honest discussion between characters.