Not Without My Daughter

This was on the Bravo Channel one night. The commercial looked quite appealing, and I figured I'd check it out. Mind you, my cup of tea is horror (check my review list) but I'm open to anything.

And boy, was I surprised.

First, I'll start with the plot. Betty, an American, and her husband Moody, an Iranian, live with their daughter Mahtob in America. One day, Moody overhears two fellow doctors at the hospital he works out making racial comments about him. He quits, and proposes to Betty that they take Mahtob and go to Iran for a two-week vacation. Hesitant and scared, Betty agrees.

And that's only the beginning. The life in Iran is harsh and Betty is constantly forced to be wary of her surroundings. But the real nightmare begins when she realizes that Moody doesn't want to go back to America, and she herself is trapped in Iran, and has to save herself and her daughter.

This movie is enthralling. Sally Field plays the role perfectly, and her character is someone you can't help but identify with. The helplessness of her situation is overwhelming, but to watch her struggle for an escape from her abusive husband (abusive in anger because she is trying to leave) and the rough conditions of a foreign country is even more overwhelming. Some of the scenes are amazing. When Betty's nightmare first begins, and she's begging for help from Moody's family, and they're all yelling at her in Iranian as she screams, "God Damn you all!" to them is one of the most intense of the whole film. And the ending is great. Not what you would expect. Well, it's not like something shocking, it's just subtle. But it will definitely give you so much pride to be an American, and you'll feel some comfort in being in this free country. All in all, I definitely recommend this movie. For anyone. You will be amazed. I was.

I saw this movie quite some time ago and enjoyed it. It did not leave me with a negative image of Iranians, Islam or Persia at all. I saw it as a simple story of mother trying to do what was best for her daughter. Not wanting ones daughter to be a second class citizen in my own opinion does not warrant the hostility I have seen portrayed in the previous comments. Sally Fields performance was certainly good. The movie told the story from the wifes/mothers point of view. I found that the movie showed just cause why the husband would become disenchanted with the USA. I can completely understand why he would like to return to his home. After all there is no place like home. My sympathy however with the husband left me when I saw the deception he displayed keeping his American family in Iran. This movie, though flawed was well worth viewing.

The story of Betty Mahmoody is a truly frightening one. The book she wrote and this movie based on it are controversial (many see it as little more than a racist slam against Iranian culture) but to me this movie came across as both believable and balanced. There's no doubt that life in Iran isn't presented as paradise, but the story really isn't about life in Iran; it's about one woman's experience of being forced to remain in Iran against her will after she and her daughter accompany her Iranian born doctor husband back to his homeland to visit his family, and about her subsequent efforts to escape Iran with her daughter. It also does a great job of depicting the almost complete lack of rights and freedoms women possess in Iran - having a status as little more than property to their husbands, and subject to their complete control.

Sally Field was excellent in the role of Betty and Alfred Molina was also disturbingly believable as "Moody" - her husband. As the story opens, the family are living a comfortable life in Michigan and Moody is a completely Americanized doctor working in a local hospital - a loving husband and father. Against her better judgement, Betty agrees to visit his family in Iran - a family more radically Islamic than Moody who from the moment they arrive begin to pressure him to stay and adopt their ways. Molina did a good job of showing the gradual changes in Moody's character and as he becomes more and more abusive and controlling toward Betty. Field superbly portrays Betty's growing desperation and her feelings of helplessness (and hopelessness) as every opportunity for her to escape with her daughter seems to close. Finally, with the help of some sympathetic Iranians, Betty and daughter Mahtoub make a mad escape attempt toward Turkey.

Whether all aspects of Iranian life and culture are accurately portrayed here seems somewhat beside the point to me. This isn't, after all, a documentary about life in Iran. This is Betty's own story as she experienced it and remembered it - and it's a story that makes the viewer ache for her as she tries to figure out a way to escape this nightmare she's caught up in. I found her story completely believable and brilliantly portrayed.

Where was the Oscar for Sally field's performance? Sally Field has always been one of my favorite actresses. I think this is the best work she has done to date. I couldn't believe it. It was not acting ; she was living with the role. She was awful! I don't care if the story was true or not. She simply made the movie worth watching. C'mon, I couldn't sleep the whole night after watching it.

Being the husband of a foreign woman myself, I try to put myself into Mahmoody's position but couldn't accept what he was trying to do with his wife & baby daughter. Whoever says that this movie is boring or worthless should think from the point of Mother-Daughter relationship. Forget about the religion crap. Hey I've nothing against Muslims or any other religions ok? I think people should think about their family. Husbands should be able to take the proper decision themselves. Shouldn't let the relatives or religious matters endanger the family life.

Well done Sally Field.... fantastic performance indeed! How I wish I could meet you... Here's my 10 out of 10 for this movie.

This is the truth about Iran back in that time period.

Then when the evil Ayatollah finally died and went to hell where he is dancing with Hitler things started to change for the better, But then Hitler 3 took over Iran and it's sliding backwards.

There's a reason everyone with any brain wants to get out of there.

The reason there were so few doctors was every educated person left that country.

And if Mahtob had stayed there she would have had female circumcision by age 7 and married by age 10.

The movie told Betty's side of the story.

Part of me wants to believe that her husband was as trapped as she was at least at first. Knowing if they tried to leave they would all be killed. Because killing is an Iranian hobby during that time especially.

But no father who loves their daughter would ever subject them to that culture.

In most of the middle east women have no rights. Rape is legal for the rapist but the victim gets stoned.

Girls aren't educated or if they are they are taught to be good wives, submit to being raped by their husbands and that they are not worthy.