Dansen med Regitze

Most love stories made for cinema depict what happens in the lives of lovers before marriage.This is done by showing scenes of happiness or hardships.Films about lovers who were once married can rightly be called love stories about married people as they create two separate lives for lovers;one before marriage where love develops and a different life for lovers after marriage where they might or might not be able to continue their love.Memories of a marriage/"Dansen med Regitze" is one such film which reveals itself as a good blend of lovers' past and present lives. In this film,past and present lives of its main characters make a lot of sense as they are presented through many dream like situations wherein Danish actors Ghita Nørby and Frits Helmuth pour all their emotions in scenes of fight,frustration,happiness and togetherness.This film is based on a famous Danish novel written by Martha Christensen. The tone of the film is simple and there are plenty of daily life scenes which suggest that family is the most important unit for lovers who have decided to tie the knot.

Most love stories focus on romance; a valid choice, being the most saleable part of such a story. It works so well because it follows all the needs for story: it starts, it complicates, it has a satisfactory ending (or the opposite, if a tragedy -- and therefore a negative example which still supports the same example) . People want to live or relive such stories, whether they are 17 or 70.

This, of course, is a different tale: one which illustrates love in a more whole fashion. Love is not just romance, desire, passion and payoff (though it may well include all those things). Real love lasts longer than any of those, and therefore include elements that don't go so well with bright colors and swelling music: endurance, understanding, and shared connections. But it's also likely to include disappointments and even shocking betrayals, which doesn't make an easily appreciated story; viewers may well respond that these are the moments they'd rather not dwell on.

Danzin med Regitze doesn't sugar-coat things: people aren't always at their best, and they will fall short of the hopes they lay on each other. And yet, they may also move past those things. Long-term love isn't like that of youth. This isn't romantic, but it is real. That deserves to be in movies too, and here it is -- if you can find it.

This film is one of those you will always keep in the back of your mind. Ghita Nørby and Frits Helmuth have indeed played together many times but this is one of the best.

It's dealing with mourning and death, being together and in love for a whole lifetime and with a tremendously sad ending. In this film we're faced with lives catastrophies at the same time as we see a true and lifelong love.

A marriage with its ups and downs but a couple who are always together in safety.

As a film it is really sad mainly because it seems so real; that it could happpen to anyone. Another thing which makes this film great is that it portraits totally normal danish life; nothing fancy or spectacular, we're just shown a couple who've been together for everso many years and at the end of it all we see how utterly difficult it is to part.

A film that definately is worthwhile watching since it gives one something to think about. As we know Martha Christensen really can make tragedies but never over the line. She indeed touches peoples souls and I wonder if that isn't also the meaning.

Honestly not great, it was a little too old-fashioned for me and pretty unlikable characters. Regitze is a lot to handle and honestly I wouldn't if I were Karl Aage, but then again I'm not and this could only work because he is a pushover and she is domineering and that's how she likes it. It's her way or the highway and he senses that. Only I dislike women like that and have no respect for men like that who like women like that.

The movie is in the flashbacks mostly, with some drama in the current timeline as well. We jump back and forth in various timelines that show us things in the past. I was engaged in the beginning but not so much as time went on. I guess the deal breaker was when she did a 180 and decided to baptize her son. That was grating. The whole thing was kind of comedic till then but I was no longer amused by that. I guess forced religion is my breaking point.

This film tells a really sad story. I don't know whether it's based on real characters but I hope it's not. It's not the story of Regitze, as the title suggests, but the one of her husband. Director Kaspar Rostrup evokes a depressing feeling in the viewer by showing the couple's present situation, having a garden party with their old friends, alternating with important episodes of their marriage, where Regitze turns out to be a dominant, egoistic wife. The comparison between now and then makes the movie very shocking and sad and I really recommend it to every one, especially to men who are about to marry.