Shei xian ai shang ta de

It is a good Taiwan movie. The story is about gender diversity. They did the narration for the movie. when you watch the movie, you will guess why the actor do this; like you are a detective. And then I think you will cry in the end, you will realize there are not right and wrong in love, only timing.

This was my first Taiwanese movie which i watched on Netflix just now. I thought it would be a comedy ,however the first flashback in the movie made me cry and it felt like i was watching "P.S I love you" or "Brokeback mountain".. I had no expectations from it at the beginning,however was so impressed with the movie after i finished it.. Loved the Bali Whistle song as well :)

I wonder why there is a "Dear" in the film's English title. A confession to the protagonists' past relationships, or a revenge? Or, maybe both.

Hovering in my head for hours and hours after the emotionally powerful film-viewing experience is the main theme named Bali Song, unpretentious background music for a stage drama considered to be the Ex's brainchild in the film. The song is a ballad mixed with a bit folk and some dreamy, laidback and even sexy retro pop, with its arousing opening whistle notes sentimentally visualizing a pleasant and romantic vacation, an ideal escape and an Utopia...for anyone longing for true freedom in his/her same-sex romantic relationships against the so-called social convention. The use of music here is such a gentle and subtle move within the film's melodramatic context and a breath of fresh air out of the "traditional" conventions in the still relatively conservative Chinese culture, or even in most Asian cultures. To my surprise, though, the music and lyrics of Bali Song also work as a nice replacement (instead of a compliment) to the mediocre stage drama that it's echoing in the film.

At times, this film quietly reminds me of works from Taiwan New Cinema spearhead Edward Yang, while its music, its character-driven plot, and somewhat overacting with surely a purpose breaks my illusions immediately. It is a sharp reflection as well as honest observation of life in Taipei, for the first decade of the 21st Century or so, not of life more than 25 years ago, when Ang Lee's Wedding Banquet came out.

The film is never comfortable to watch. Literally, it is a love confession (-starting with Dear) to whoever has once been either an annoying adolescent or adult ( a.k.a. the most stupid creature on earth ). So, get your tissues ready if you wouldn't mind taking a HOME-bound emotional roller-coaster with the family drama, and then...getting bombarded by that song!

My expectation was pretty low and I liked it after the movie progressed a bit. It's a successful movie, though its ends are as expected. The acting, the characters, the story and the emotions made me love the film. It was one of the best Netflix productions I've watched.

The cinematography and colours were excellent. Acting was top notch.

Yet there was something lacking. The character of the wife felt very...one dimensional and overly consumed by her grief. Although understandable I wish we saw her get some closure in the end regarding the entire situation. The best character for me was Jay. He was beautifully fleshed out & made me shed a tear or two.