Honig im Kopf

"Honig im Kopf" was a great success in Germany. Just another proof that the golden years of German film have been over since the early 1930s. A half-heartedly sentimental take on the difficult subject of dementia. The sets look like something out of an IKEA catalog, the young leading actress (and daughter of the producer and director) is talentless, the music is manipulative, the story is overconstructed. The only bright spot is Dieter Hallervorden. Schweiger is known for his conservative mainstream cinema, wanting his audience to leave the auditorium feeling good, forgoing more mature discussion.

That's his character might not remember it. Dieter (or Didi as he's known in Germany) Hallervorden is a talented actor and he pulls off this role, which is a touch one to pull off. Is it unrealistic and does the movie draw too many cheap jokes? Yes it does, but with Hallervorden in the middle of it, acting his way out, even when you think it's impossible to salvage anything from what is happening, you can forgive such things.

The girl (daughter of Schweiger) is better in this, than she was in previous roles she got through her father. That doesn't mean she evolved into an actress yet, but let's give her the benefit of doubt and maybe she'll manage (some would argue, that it won't be hard to overshadow any "acting talent" her father has, but that's a different story). If you don't mind how over the top this is and how silly most of it is, it actually kind of works (which surprised me a little bit)

The best about this German movie who was one of the biggest hits in 2014 are some of the performances. I always thought Hallervorden to be a good actor even in his often unfunny 70ies and 80ies comedies. Jeanette Hain is also good as the antagonist. Schweiger himself has made worse and better movies in the past. In the last years he became notorious for putting his friends and kids in his movies. Same here, but his daughter Emma is at least not as annoying as her elder sister Luna who also gets shoehorned in many of his movies. First off, the movie about a little girl and her grandfather, who has got Alzheimer disease, is just a bit too long. I think this movie could easily be 30 minutes shorter. In my opinion the movie shows quite good what Alzheimer does despite it is not in all details realistic. But Schweiger again ruins the portrayal of his main character by his crude style of humour. Here, for example, the main character Armandus is fond of grabbing tits or pees in the fridge. So you get wrongly the impression this may have not been a good man before he became demented.

I would like to talk about two characters and the way their attitude is being dangerously idealized in the movie:

First of all, Tilda, the small child almost takes over the responsibility of her parents, taking her grandfather to a trip abroad. She witnesses how her grandpa slowly loses the capability of leading his own life and this is simply not something that a child can handle psychologically. For a child to carry such parental responsibilities is being referred to as a severe trauma in psychology and it shouldn't be idealized in a movie. Moreover, when she takes off with her grandpa, interestingly no one ever wonders where she may be and what may happen to them. So instead of being deeply worried for her, Niko and Sarah brush up their sex life. Really?!

Secondly, Sarah, Niko's wife is portrayed as a very unpleasant character and in the movie, this is tied to the fact that she doesn't want her husband's father to live with them. At the end, where the character transforms into an ideal (!) woman, she quits her job to look after Amandus and to spend more time with her daughter. This is nothing but a gender stereotype being reinforced in a very emotionally abusive manner. Again, such experiences have caused and are causing many women in the world to have traumatic experiences when it comes to having a family and wanting to realize themselves.

I was very disappointed to see so many gender stereotypes being reinforced in the movie. The people of this world have endured enough traumas and they should not be idealized in any way, let alone in a movie by Til Schweiger that is guaranteed to reach millions of people.

A beautifully filmed but ultimately disappointing film. The first hour, watching an utterly clueless couple in complete denial about the mental state of the husband's father isn't funny - it's painful and disturbing. The saving grace is that this is probably how so many people really do try to deal with a loved one with dementia. Apparently no one in the family knows how to look up more information on the Internet about dementia and caregiving. No idea whatsoever as to why the husband stays with the wife, who is completely unsympathetic. The grand-daughter and grandfather are charming - but that no one intervenes when, say, they see this young child removing this old man's pants on a train is just unbelievable. The film is worth watching to explain to someone what dementia can look like, but it is NOT a good film for explaining how to care for someone with such (except to say "Here's what NOT to do.").