Didi

I saw last year's nominated documentary short "Nai Nai and Wai Po" without realizing that "Didi" was the fictionalized autobiography of that film's creator, Sean Wang. It didn't hit home to me until I saw the character of the grandma in "Didi," who was featured in the short film and is Sean Wang's actual grandmother. So that's all very cool.

"Didi" is very funny, and hits a lot of the targets about navigating adolescence and all its terrors that most of us who've lived through it would expect it to. I saw it with my 15 and 13 year old sons, and was a bit disappointed that it didn't seem to resonate more with them than it did. But I liked it.

It's mostly about a kid who thinks he always has to be something that others want him to be before he's had a chance to figure out what he wants to be himself. It also touches on what it's like to be "othered" by your racial identity (in this case Asian) without being preachy about it or making its audience feel like it's getting homework.

Not a groundbreaking film, but a nice alternative if you're looking for something beyond the typical summer movie fare.

Grade: A-

Greetings again from the darkness. 'Coming of Age' films typically lean heavily into either comedy or tragedy. In his first feature film, writer-director Sean Wang (Oscar nominated for his documentary short NAI NAI & WAI PO, 2023) takes a different approach. While he certainly injects some humor, it's isolation and awkwardness - that feeling of not fitting in - that takes center stage. It's quite possible, even likely, that some of this is autobiographical for director Wang. That's a safe statement since most every teenager can relate to bits of this story.

Chris Wang (played by Izaac Wang) is introduced to us as he's blowing up a neighbor's mailbox. We don't get the full story until later, but it doesn't take long for us to figure out that this kid is trying (too) hard to fit in with his group of buddies, as they each transition from junior high to high school. It's the summer of 2008, and Chris lives with his mother, grandmother, and sister ... and he's miserable and lost.

Mom (a terrific Joan Chen, LUST CAUTION, 2007) is a talented artist, beaten down by the demands of being a single mom to two constantly bickering kids, and a demanding mother-in-law for whom nothing is ever good enough. Nai Nai (Chang Li Hua) is played by director Wang's real-life grandmother, and though her health is slowly fading, she doesn't understand the social or family dynamics of the era. Vivian (Shirley Chen) is the sister/daughter who will be leaving home for college in one month. She is constantly annoyed by her little brother's extreme pranks and immaturity, as well as the unfair judgments of Nai Nai. Their father is working in Taiwan, creating even more stress for these folks in Fresno.

Identity plays a huge role for Chris. His friends have always called him Wang-Wang, and at home he's referred to as Didi (little brother). A group of older skaters offers him his first chance to be "Chris" and 'half-Asian', and he takes it. He wants so much to be part of the big boy club, yet he fails hard when his crush Madi (Mahaela Park) initiates 'the nervous game.' He also flops at being the filmer for the skate kids, and his sister counsels with the age-old warning, "Don't do anything stupid." Of course, we know he will.

Being the summer of 2008, we see camcorders, MySpace, AOL Instant Messenger, A WALK TO REMEMBER, and flip phones, amongst other reminders of the era. It's interesting to see the first group of teens embrace the early days of social media, especially with the amateurish videos that slammed YouTube in those days. In this regard, director Wang has delivered a period piece, even if it's from less than 20 years ago. Google search also plays a starring role.

Most impressive is how the film, and the actors, capture the emotions we all recognize. Anger, confusion, and frustration are prevalent for Chris and his mother, the latter of whom gets a wonderful scene where she relays her perspective on life. It's heart-wrenching and Joan Chen nails it. As Chris, Izaac Wang details the absurd squirrel story which highlights his advanced level of social awkwardness. Included are references to Ang Lee and Spike Jonze, and the emphasis on Chris not being a stereotypical Asian-American. When summer ends, the braces come off, and Chris strolls into high school ... we easily understand why this won an Audience Award at Sundance. The digital version even includes some bonus features ('the making of DIDI').

Now available on digital and coming to Blu-ray on October 29, 2024.

Didi nails the essence of the teenage experience, capturing that awkward, in-between phase where we desperately want to fit in but have no idea who we really are. The film beautifully portrays how, during this time, we constantly guess what others expect from us, often making decisions out of fear rather than true choice.

Identity and Fitting In

One of the most memorable moments is when Chris tries to fit in with a group of older kids by asking for a cigarette, even though it's clear he's never smoked before. This scene speaks volumes about teenage insecurity. Chris assumes smoking is what's expected, so he jumps at the chance, only to be surprised when one of the older boys casually declines, saying he doesn't smoke. It's a subtle but powerful example of how, at that age, we're so afraid of being judged that we forget we actually have the freedom to choose.

The Parent-Teen Dynamic

The film also does an excellent job of exploring the relationship between Chris and his mother. At that age, we often push our parents away, trying to create distance to avoid embarrassment. Chris does this constantly, making excuses and trying to seem "cool" in front of his peers. What's funny and relatable is that the older kids don't care at all. In fact, they're more interested in having a genuine conversation with his mom. This contrast highlights how, as we grow older, we realize that the things we were once ashamed of like our parents' presence don't matter as much. The film cleverly uses these interactions to remind us how much we create unnecessary barriers in our youth.

Hiding Your True Self

Another standout moment is when Chris takes down his posters, an act that symbolizes the struggle of hiding your true self. At this age, we often hide our interests and passions because we're afraid they won't be "cool" or accepted. Dìdi touches on this theme in a meaningful way, showing how our fear of standing out can lead us to conceal the very things that make us unique. The film's message is clear: the things we're passionate about are what define us, and embracing them is what helps us grow into our true selves.

The Comparison Trap

Lastly, the film captures the emotional weight of comparison during adolescence. Chris is overwhelmed by feelings of inadequacy he has fewer friends, he doesn't have a girlfriend, and his family isn't like others. These are common struggles that many of us faced growing up. The film conveys how, at that age, everything feels like too much to handle, but as time passes, we begin to find ourselves and accept who we are. The director uses Chris's journey to show that while these feelings are intense, they are also temporary.

Final Thoughts

We've all been there overthinking every little decision, scared to make the wrong move, and hiding parts of ourselves to fit in. Dìdi captures that experience with humor, heart, and a refreshing dose of reality. It's a beautiful reminder that the awkwardness of growing up is what ultimately helps us discover who we truly are.

This was a pleasant surprise. "Dídi" is a wonderful little indie film that more than delivers on the potential of its coming of age premise, and breaks new ground for the genre by finding unique ways to develop its characters.

The film offers an honest and touching look inside the life of a young Taiwanese-American teen as he navigates the awkward turbulences and heartbreaks of adolescence. As the film progresses, Chris, the young central character, ventures to discover himself and find his place in the world. We watch as he grows up and is forced to learn many of life's universal lessons, all while charting his own unique course through youth.

It's a familiar premise, but Sean Wang does something new and special with it, straying from the formula and imbuing the whole thing with subtle touches of realism, many of which I've never seen captured quite the same way in film before (HBO's Euphoria has a few moments which are comparable, but they're far more sensationalized than anything here). I really appreciated these novelties, as well as the film's frequently experimental approach/style, as they helped make things feel consistently fresh and new. Also, the fact that the timeline of Chris' childhood happens to line up almost exactly with my own made the whole thing especially enjoyable. They captured growing up in the 2000s perfectly.

I could definitely see this becoming a breakout hit, and to be honest, it may be the best film I've seen at a Sundance premiere (admittedly a limited selection, but I am from Utah, so I try to make it to the festival every few years). In any event, I'm looking forward to watching this again once it gets a wide release to see how it holds up on second viewing.

I was the same age as Chris in the time this movie was set in. I found it very relatable. A good kid but sorely misunderstood. Just trying to find a place in the world, fit in, be liked. This film isn't for everyone. Not everyone was 13 growing up at the boom of social media. Moral of the story is growing up can be REALLY hard and nobody loves you more than your mom. Check this movie out if you're in the mood for a good coming of age film. It really did feel like it was set in 2008 which made my viewing experience a lot better. Really appreciated the attention to detail, computers, cars, music, vibe was there.