J'ai tué mon père

I appreciate this documentary's attempt to explain cumulative childhood trauma and shed light on its effects. The testimony of the father's friends are completely consistent with what it would be like to be a scapegoat child. The abusive behavior is hidden from all but the child. Everybody is surprised to learn what is happening, that's the point. It's called coercive power and control and a child has no psychological defenses against it.

Dissociating emotions in order to survive is a hallmark of childhood trauma symptomology, and every level of law enforcement and psychological help that deals with violence and victims, should be versed in what it looks like. It is one of the most misunderstood psychological concepts, including by most psychologists, as it is not taught even at the graduate level other than in the most cursory way.

How to be trauma-informed is going to become ever increasingly important in this complex world of ours. It's time we start understanding when someone's affect is completely flat and they're unable to tell their own stories about their own lives, you're looking at something complex, and it just could be that it's a childhood trauma victim in front of you, and not a stone cold killer. The uninformed attitudes of some of these law enforcement professionals was highly upsetting to watch. Let's become more trauma-informed, shall we?

Yes, ladies and gentlemen, we could see how a person can be broken. I hope he can meet the people who will fix him. My mom and dad showed me love at every age of my life. So I can easily show it to others. However, my husband is kind of cold and very bad at expressing his feelings because his family is so, too. After meeting me I turned him into a teddy bear)) I show and tell him how much I love him at any chance I get. He says that I changed him beyond recognition. Not showing your feelings doesn't make you a psychopath. People sometimes don't show feelings because they simply don't know how. He is going to change after he is surrounded by normal, loving people. We are what we see, and we become what we feel eventually.

Very good documentary. Well edited and detailed, at the same time frustrating and sad.

I couldn't stop watching it, very interesting.

The stepmother, Susan, is a really strange and unbelievable woman, very lost, in my opinion. It's the most annoying part of the documentary, this happened 3 years ago!!! If you know what I mean.

The police, again, also very passive.

Please learn from this and don't let it happen again! It could have been avoided in my opinion.

In short, a great documentary to also learn that not everything is as simple as it seems.

Well, I see I am here on IMDB with all the other survivors of childhood abuse.

This series captures (in a way I have personally never seen before) the way living with abuse places the child in the upside down world. Kids are told to talk to their parents when someone hurts them, but how does a kid talk to the parent who just beat him or her to bleeding? They don't. They just figure out how to survive until they can get away,

Everyone failed this child until he met a lawyer who himself had been abused,

He can't hurt you anymore, Anthony. Peace and love to you.

I did.

Heartbreaking story of mental abuse and enforced isolation.

I too was abused but at least allowed to go to school. At times I too wanted to kill my father for beating me and my mother, yelling and mentally abusing me as a child at all my inadequacies, so many, many times - too many to count or recount here. My outlet was school and some neighbor friends. I cannot imagine having had that taken away from me and what I would have done. Age 10 I begged my mother to take me away to somewhere else, I could not take it anymore. She never did.

Anthony you could see at the very end was beginning to be himself, cope with freedom and integrate with society all of which he had been denied for his entire life. He was making the effort.

I understand him well, I wish him all the best. He will do well I think. I did, and expect he will too. At the very end his sign of emotion said it all to me.

Why I cried.

Mirror. Mirror.