Memories in March

A beautiful, sensitive portrayal of the delicateness and depth of emotions that are as a much a part of a homosexual relationship as they can be in a heterosexual relationship, conveyed in the backdrop of grief, loss and reluctant acceptance. The restrained, understated performances by Rituparno Ghosh and Deepti Naval, especially in their joint scenes are mesmerizing. Same for the ones between Deepti Naval and Raima Sen. Although the director is Sanjoy Nag, one can see Rituparno's influence throughout. The music by Debojyoti Mishra - melodious, evocative and sensual, blends seamlessly into the narrative. "Bahu manorathe" is a wonderful composition I could listen to endlessly.

Just imagine this : One fine day, when you have gone thru the most difficult times in life and think nothing can go worse than this, you receive a call from your son's office and get the inevitable bad news : That he died in an accident at the middle of the night driving sloshed. Before one can cope up with the news, you are enlightened by yet another piece of information that he was Gay. The icing on the cake is when you are confronted with his gay lover…

Tollywood's movie 'Memories in March' is an unusual story about two men in love and much more. The movie is directed by Sanjoy Nag. Rituparno Ghosh's story is simple and the screenplay is seamless. Some of the scenes are so well-written that they seem like a page out of everyday life. It is an emotional drama based on real life experiences. However, since the film deals with just a few days in the mother's life, there is nothing much to elaborate on. While Deepti Naval's character is beautifully etched, the audience never gets to see her son or know what he was like. The movie is in English with colorful splashes of Hindi and Bengali, are witty; the sarcasm used by Rituparno's character in the film is right on.

The story relates to the heart of every viewer and is made touchier by the outstanding acting by all the main artists. It shows a strong bonding which develops between a mother of a deceased man and his lover who also greatly feels the loss of his boyfriend.

Deepti Naval plays the role of Aarti Mishra who is a 50 year old divorcée and lives in Delhi. Her husband lives in the US with another woman, Claudia. Her twenty-eight years old only son works as an executive of an ad agency in Kolkata enjoying a lavish lifestyle. He dies in a car accident in Kolkata. For this reason Deepti goes to Kolkata to complete the last rituals and to get her deceased son's belongings. In her four-day stay on Kolkata, she is helped by her son's colleagues, Raima sen (as Shahana) and Rituparno Ghosh (as Arnab). There and through his friends she learns of her son's secret engagement in a gay relationship with Arnab. The information comes to her as a deadly blow as she always thought her son to be a normal man with the usual sexual attractions. She is devastated to know the naked truth and initially puts the blame of 'seducing' her son on Arnab. She finds it next to impossible to come to terms with the real story. It surprises her as to how her son could have overlooked the beauty of Shahana and be involved with bald Arnab. She laments that if only she knew of her son's such relationship earlier; she could have shown him to a psychiatrist and got him relief.

It is gradually that she learns and begins to accept that it was her son's preference to be with Arnab with no fault of his boyfriend. Along with carrying back the belongings of her son, she is overburdened to carry back with her the truth of her son's secret gay life. A bonding develops between Arnab and Deepti Naval over the common loss, she at the loss of her only son and he at the loss of his only personal partner. Deepti Naval and Rituparno Ghosh have together done a commendable acting throughout the movie, capturing the emotions of the viewers, and surely deserve applause.

GTM's have come a long way from showing just mere love stories between two men. This movie takes a different angle on the affects people go thru in coming to terms when they come to learn about their near and dear ones being gay. And finally I Quote " I will be going far away…can I leave a little bit of me with you"….Memories In March….

"If I have to go away, can I leave a little bit of me with you?"

I had heard about this movie long before and was pending to be watched by me for a very long time. For some reason or other it kept on pending even though I had recorded it in my DTH box. I watched it when I went through back to back losses of family members recently and was going through a tough time and was glad I did watch it and connected too instantly.

'Memories in March' is a brilliant film by debutante Director Sanjoy Nag where a bereaved mother is shown to come to terms with his son's sexual identity. Without going into much detail into the plot I would rather prefer to narrate some scenes which are worth mentioning.

There is one particular sequence where Deepti Naval (Arati) expresses her wish to visit his son's office and take away some of his stuffs as souvenirs. The scene is shown in great length and detailing with incalculably striking visuals. When his son's boss dubs her actions too melodramatic, distressed she dashes off from the office.

While considering her Divorce from her hubby as the worst day of her life, she has to learn to acknowledge the death of her son in a road accident. Storming off to Kolkata and accompanied by her son's co-worker Sahana Choudhury who escorted her to crematorium for the last rites of her son. After the cremation is over, she is taken to the Guest House where her son used to live. Sahana narrates her how her son had consumed a lot of alcohol and insisted on driving back to Guest House when he had the fatal accident. Upset with above incidents, she blames her co-workers to drive him to death but she had more shocks in Store when she learns that her son has been living in with Arnob, his co-worker and boss in office. She is upset and blames Arnob of seducing her son but slowly she accepts the truth and accepts that it was her son's predilection to be with Arnob. She develops a bond with Arnob over the common loss they had.

There is a scene where she is browsing her son's phone where her son Siddharth had composed a message to her about his relationship with Arnob but never sent it because he was afraid of upsetting her.

"Memories in March" is about the wreckage that people leave behind after their demise. It makes you question on "this is what relationships are" and "this is what they should be." This is a film worth watching for its pragmatic and susceptible portrayal of a relationship that is sadly even today considered outside norm. For many homosexuals who are still forced to hide from what they are, but thankfully change is happening. Films like this should be made more and more so that it forces the society to recognize homosexuals as no different from them. The theme is not a stranger to hindi movie industry but leaving apart barely a few movies like Aligarh or Dear Dad, rest mostly make fun of the same.

One of the most underrated movie which has stellar performances from Dipti Naval as the mother who has lost his son in a mishap and Rituparno Ghosh who plays the partner of his son. Showing a receptive topic to the next level with performances at par with international standard, this is one of the best movies I have seen in recent times. Deepti Naval and Rituparno Ghosh have done a laudable acting capturing the sentiments brilliantly and deserve applause. Deepti Naval is so pervasive, so repressed; it's only her eyes that say the depth of her pain.

There are some of the movies that are a "Must Watch Before you die". Memories in March is one such movie and a must watch movie for everyone who loves good movie.

A mother arrives at the city where her son used to work after he meets with a car accident. The mother finds out that he had a lover. Both the mother and lover share the memories they had of their loved one.

You can count the number of actors in the movie by your fingers, but what the movie presented was huge. Emotions shower over some moments and let you see the other side of the story. What can we accept or cannot?

Loved Rituporno more in this movie. Always used to have a special corner for him. After seeing him acting in such an unconventional role and presenting the unheard in such a graceful manner, my fondness for him only increased more. What a lovely, sharp movie. This will go in the bests of Rituporno.

Before watching Chitrangada, I have always felt that no movie of a human being falling in love with another human being can touch me deeper than Brokeback Mountain. Now after watching Memories in March, I have come to the realisation that all these stories should be read together. There is simply no comparison. Nogorkirton, Arekti Premer Golpo..all these should be watched alongside. It tells a complete story.