L'homme que je croyais épouser

Interesting only as a story of just one more scumbag in power during the Reagan administration. Adequate acting, but superficial characters and story, and even my 12 year old kept asking why the mother and children were so compliant, insipid and, well, moronic in their response to this guy. Well...this was the 80's I guess. But we did watch the whole thing, so it gets a 5 from me.

First of all, they actually had six children. One of them died in infancy.

She readily admitted that no matter how bad things otherwise were, they always had incredibly spectacular sex. This can at least partially explain why she stayed - not blaming her, of course.

The oldest children, BTW, wanted nothing to do with him but the younger ones did see him, something she encouraged. Keep in mind that this was over 20 years ago; I have no idea what may have happened in the meantime.

Have either of them remarried? I couldn't imagine anyone wanting him, but you never know.

After l8 years of intermittent physical and mental abuse, a devout Roman Catholic wife finally gets the courage to divorce her sadistic husband. First-rate acting by Michael Nouri as the troubled husband cannot redeem an essentially shallow message picture. The wife is a nurse and the husband an ambitious lawyer. She is from a privileged background. He never stops trying to prove himself good enough for her family. You would think that an intelligent health service professional would seek counseling before she had five children by this jerk, but I guess love and religious devotion are blind. I lost all credibility in this scenario when she forgave him for kicking her in the stomach in late pregnancy. And she a nurse! Despite the physical violence, it is the portrayal of his mental and emotional cruelty to her that really hit home. We have all been in somewhat similar situations with controlling men and women. The characters are stereotypes, but the upper-class ambience is well-portrayed. Worth a viewing, if only to enjoy Nouri's psychopathology.

A finely-wrought television drama based on a true case of marital abuse involving a driven, insanely ambitious and perfectionist government employee (Michael Nouri, in a solid performance) who bullies, beats up and continually condescends to his spouse, an educated woman from an upscale family who doesn't have the self-esteem or the proper support system to leave this tyrant. Somewhere between her star-making role on TV's "The Bionic Woman" to today's spokeswoman for the Sleep Number Bed, it has occasionally been forgotten that actress Lindsay Wagner has range, depth and sensitivity as an actress, and she gets to utilize much of that range here as the battered wife. This type of TV-drama (with victims learning to speak up) has obviously been done before, but the fine cast warrants attention, and the writing and directing are both commendable.

Although this movie was already 26 years old when I first saw it, I felt that it was very pertinent to misconceptions of Domestic Violence, today. Movies like this one, and the whole VAWA implies that women generally have bad judgment in domestic relationships and are prone to preserve violent sexual involvement. Lindsay Wagner did a super job portraying Charlotte Fedders a women who obviously misunderstood traditional religious principles and suffered from low self esteem. Michael Nouri carried off the role of John Fedders very well. He makes it easy to believe how women can fall for the stereotypical demoniac male and choose to have children with them.