My Sailor, My Love

When a retired, curmudgeonly, self-centered Irish sea captain has trouble caring for himself, his overprotective, controlling daughter hires a new housekeeper to tend to his needs, a move the fiercely independent protagonist initially resents. However, before long, the once-tentative relationship blossoms into something more substantial, a move the skipper's daughter questions and grows to resent. So how will this fundamental dilemma be resolved? That's the central question raised in director Klaus Härö's latest effort, a well-crafted, if occasionally predictable, romantic drama reminiscent of the similarly themed "Nobody Has to Know" (2021). Set against the sweeping Irish seacoast, this beautifully photographed backdrop provides the perfect stage for this heartfelt saga, one that verges on a tearjerker at times but never slides into a sappy, melodramatic, manipulative hanky fest. In large part this is due to the restrained but powerful performances of James Cosmo and Brid Brennan, who keep their characters real without becoming sentimental, histrionic caricatures. Add to this a finely polished soundtrack, and you've got a quality cinematic offering that deserves a look for a variety of reasons.

I have been wanting to see this movie ever since it was released. I finally rented it on Amazon Prime. Every one of the actors was brilliant. You get emotionally invested right from the beginning. It really was believable and I'm sure lots of people could relate to this story. I know I could. It's great to see a movie which isn't totally "Hollywood " if you get what I mean. Plus you get to see the beautiful scenery of Ireland. I really can't find any fault with this film. I'm not sure what else I can add, however, it seems that you now have to have a minimum amount of words? Anyway, I highly recommend this movie.

James Cosmo is quite good here in one of his few leading roles. He is "Howard", a curmudgeonly old gent who lives alone - washing his smalls in the kitchen sink and caring little about anything but his crossword puzzle. His daughter "Grace" (Catherine Walker) is at the end of her tether, so she employs local lady "Annie" (Brid Brennan) to do a bit of housekeeping for him. He is not at all keen on this arrangement; indeed is so rude as to have her walk out on him, but a few of her more homely touches make him begin to realise that the pit into which his life has slid is perhaps not the only solution. Pretty quickly the two are getting on like an house on fire and gradually this causes a degree of chagrin for the daughter who sees her own role in his life beginning to become less crucial - as she, herself, is watching her own marriage disintegrate. Can they all find a way to make things work? It's a gentle romance this film, with some enjoyable and poignant performances from the three principals that highlights how people cope with grief, loneliness and opportunity. Director Klaus Härö allows the talent to deliver a considered series of portrayals that marry the happy and the sad in a plausible fashion. I can't say I loved the ending. Though perfectly realistic, it seemed a little unnecessary to me - but you be the judge. It doesn't need a cinema screen, but is well worth watching the loads of experience at character acting ooze from Brennan and Cosmo.

Highly respected Finish director Klaus Harro brings his quiet, controlled professional guidance to this introspective modern study of Familial intrigues and complexities from youth to older age. Writers Jimmy Karlson and Kirisi Vikman bring a sharp and thoughtful observation to this slice of life work. It's pleasing to find that films of this nature and depth remain being made in this era of superficial cartoon heroes and action fodder, churned out for largely uninvolved 'kids' of all ages.

Strong performances are essential for stories without CGI wizardry and non-stop action, and this cast of mature-aged players certainly keep the flow of emotions on track from first frame to last. In fact, right from the first scene (Catherine Walker in a group therapy session) you know an emotional tour de force may be on its way. All the carefully selected players are totally convincing as they bring the layers of complex relationships into the viewer's understanding. The dialog is intelligent, with the viewer needing to devote attention in following, lest you miss a vital line (having the ability to rewind is helpful) so DVD or Home Cinema set-ups can help with this.

Striking wide screen vistas of the Irish Coastline captured by Robert Nordstrom (The Disciple '13) are a joy to take in on a larger screen. Award winning Belgium born (of Italian parents) Michelino Bisceglia supplies the descriptive (classic inspired) score. Even Finbar Furey delivers an unannounced song. Lovers of Bergman studies are more inclined to run with this one, as well as O'Neil devotees. Some have disagreed with the time devoted to certain character changes, but they are in keeping when each characters back stories are fully known.

Polished viewing for discerning viewers. Younger audiences may not be as appreciative.

Fortunately, similar films are still being made, such as My Sailor, My Love. Movies about human relationships never become boring or bland when they are made with good heart. Like this movie.

The main story in this film is about finding love in old age. This particular part of the film is beautifully filmed, and a fairly straight-forward story, without too many complications. But there is an additional story that weaves in, the older man's difficult and partly turbulent relationship with his own daughter. If I am going to criticize something about the film, there must be a lot of unresolved issues that I was left with regarding the father-daughter relationship. Here there is much that we do not get answers to, only that the relationship has become strained and that the daughter has her own explanations for this. Without this being explored any further in the film.

Nevertheless, this film succeeds in telling a lovely story. And I have to include it; filmed in fantastic surroundings along Ireland's coast.