I’m not sure what made me think about this blog as I was standing in the shower this morning, but here I am, about thirteen years further on, if you don’t count a brief return in 2013, and lots has happened in those intervening years.
I think it’s now pushing my luck to call myself middle aged. At very least, I’m now at the extreme upper end of that category. I probably still count as middle class but my politics have been creeping ever further left with every year of this appalling Tory regime.
So, what has happened during this blogging hiatus?
Obviously – lots of little things happened but the normal every day occurrences are too boring to enumerate and barely remembered anyway – so I’ll only give you the headlines. I’m a wee bit rusty since most of my writing over the last few years has been of the “fewer than 140 characters” variety.
My husband was diagnosed with Non-Hodgkin Lymphoma, from which he is now -7 yrs on – in remission. He managed to work all the way through his treatment – surgeries, chemo and RadioTx – taking the bare minimum of days off. This was his choice. He’s phlegmatic by nature and felt that languishing at home would kill him sooner than NHL
Two of the children got married and the other one got engaged. They’re all happy and getting on with their lives and the bonus is that we really like all their partners too.
My Mother died, leaving a huge hole in the centre of our family; she was adored by her nine grandchildren, as well as the four of us and our partners. The cancer she’d survived in 1969 finally, forty-nine years later, came back for her. My sister, brothers and I cared for her in her final months and she died quietly at home in her sleep. She was immensely stoical and always concentrated on the good things life had brought her, rather than the shitty, awful stuff. She was widowed after fewer than ten years of marriage and brought up four children on her own but was glad of the short time she’d had with our father, saying she’d rather have had ten years with him than a lifetime with any other man. Despite the pain involved with bone mets, until the last two weeks she had barely any analgesia, save the odd paracetamol. She happily submitted to requests for medical photography, in order to help with research and training, though was reluctant to let my sister or I see the relevant area. It transpired she was worried we’d be frightened by it. Even at the very end of her life she was trying to protect us.
Mum missed meeting her first great-grandchild by less than a year. We now have four grandchildren – two of each, currently aged one, two, three and four, split between two families. They are the silver lining of the cloud that is Becoming Older and are, most of the time, complete and unalloyed joy.
In 2016 we went on our first big trip to British Columbia. Previously, we always stayed within Europe for holidays. (China in 2008/9, though very interesting, was work, not leisure) Canada is a wonderful place with wonderful people. We’d love to go back.
My RFA decided to get markedly worse and I’m now on two different immunosuppressants, each of which is injected weekly. They’ve made a huge difference; I’ve got my life back. Had they been available in 2008 I wouldn’t have had to retire prematurely.
My husband retired. He is very glad to no longer be commuting into London every day and has embarked on a number of different projects in the house and garden, some of which may even be completed one of these decades! He’s enjoying the chance to play more golf and has become an insatiable reader of fiction.
I took up voluntary work for a couple of years – which I stopped in Feb 2020 when I could see Coronavirus galloping over the horizon. My meds render me very vulnerable to infection at the best of times, never mind Covid, which would likely kill me.
We went on a post retirement Big Trip of a Lifetime to New Zealand at the end of 2019. Don’t think I can adequately put into words how amazing this place is and I am baffled by how homesick I feel for a country I’ve only ever been in for a month. Perhaps it’s the similarity to Scotland, albeit an Alba on anabolic steroids!
Another biggie, though it won’t be news to you, dear reader, is the global pandemic. Coronavirus – SARS-Cov-2. Our government wants us to believe we’re now in the endemic phase and is ignoring the number of deaths due to covid which are still occurring. Testing and masking have been dropped and the vulnerable have basically been told to fu*k off and die quietly.
People who are clinically extremely vulnerable, such as my husband and self, are being vaccinated every few of months but many of us have immune systems which can’t respond so we aren’t protected. We’re currently waiting to see whether the Pre Exposure Prophlaxis treatment, Evusheld, will be ordered by our govt. Thirty-two other countries are giving it to their vulnerable citizens but we live in a country where Health & Social Care is being run by bankers, not people with medical knowledge. The earliest we might be given access to Evusheld is late spring of 2023. Until then we will just have to carry on being careful which means masking in public places, evaluating each and every situation to weigh up risk vs benefit – and living with the constant stress of waiting for that Infection Axe to fall.
So that’s us more or less caught up.
See you soon. Maybe.
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